How important is it for you to win?

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arguments/debates with friends
debates online
banter
interactions as customer
interactions at work
with family
games of tennis/sport and so on

You know I used to never care about winning. But now I do. This I feel is at odds with my aspiration to be spiritually above average. Would you agree?
I tend to obsess these days. I have become a more assertive shopper, not afraid to complain if I am not getting the right service. I will even go online and give feedback to a company if they are not “up to scratch”.
Guess I’ve got the time eh…
Sport I don’t care as much I guess. I don’t play tennis anymore anyway. I might be competitive over a game of darts though. :slight_smile:slight_smile:
At work I am competitive to be the best that I can be. So I have no right be fired. I will not be afraid to assert my rights if they are being trampled on. People are starting to notice Ron has boundaries after all. Good on you Ron! 🙂
 
So in a sense you want to win that battle with atheists for example?
 
Arent we supposed to be fighting for God? Onward Christian soldiers?
 
It matters to me that in ‘losing’ I’m not obscuring the truth. So I guess picking my battles is one of the most important things to me, but giving the strongest possible case when I do engage.

On matters that I don’t feel strongly about or are just subjective, I don’t care too much. As for sports… Well, a healthy competition is what I felt was good when I played them. Stuff like games I don’t care at all, just enough for those on all sides to have fun.
 
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Winning is a child’s concept.
Good discussion and participating in such is a worthy thing. That’s different than " winning".
 
It depends on what I’m doing. Playing chess game? No big beal. Arguing politics? No big deal. Advancing uphill into interlocking, grazing fire? Very important.
 
Nope. It’s the fellowship of the game that is important not who wins. But again, we’re talking about games and amusements.
 
not talking about Christian theology and whose P.O.V. is closest to the truth, you mean?
 
I’m trying to become less concerned about winning. It’s a very solipsistic thing. Empathy and clarity are what ultimately matter.
 
Winning to me is not as important as not losing (who enjoys losing?), so I try not to enter arguments or competitions unless I have confidence in myself. But… You can’t win them all no matter what, and it is nice to be gracious enough to take a loss with dignity.
 
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, and it is nice to be gracious enough to take a loss with dignity.
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and a loss can be as simple as losing one’s temper and gossiping, in my view. You lose your composure as a Christian, you have to admit it
 
Only the last one for me (games etc).Or at least usually.
I’d like to win tennis 🎾/other games but not to the point of being over competitive or nasty etc.

With online debates etc I want my view to be strongly weighed up and considered with an open mind but I hate to argue or “win” because I really consider this losing.
Ie:if my viewpoint on a subject starts taking precedence over my lovely or respectful interactions with people then I have really lost.
Few things matter that much to me that I will argue about them.

I did sort of stand my ground the other day when I was charged for a takeaway meal that never showed up.
At the end of the day though,I still lost my money and the delivery guy/food never showed up.🤕

Actually,on further reflection,I think maybe the other person agreeing with my points matters much more to me than it should.
 
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It’s very broad to emphasis winning in all those instances.

As long as I enter every interaction with honesty, integrity and good intentions, winning doesn’t matter.

I’ll bring the same intentions to a competitive challenge where the goal is to ultimately win, but with a focus on winning. If there is a team involved, I expect the same attitude from my teammates. If we lose, that’s fine. But there is no excuse for not giving it all.
 
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