How many couple are Best Friends

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BlueEyedLady said:
Yeah, they come around with their boyfriends/husbands every now and again, but for the most part they have no interest in staying up to see the midnight release of the new Iron Man movie, or going to a sports bar to watch yet another football game, or creating characters to play through a new fantasy D&D setting, or having a halo tournament. I’m pleasant with them, but I have more in common with their boyfriends (who I’ve been friends with for years), and yep, I’ve noticed that a lot of their conversation revolves around TV, and like you, I don’t have cable.

And maybe it’s because I’ve always had mostly male friends, but I feel far more comfortable having deep conversations with them and sharing with them than I do women. Of course now that I’m getting married there are definite boundaries there.
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I do have some females that I can have good conversations with, but I just don’t work with them. On the other hand, maybe deep conversations aren’t really appropriate in the work place anyway. I do often feel left out though…and bored. None of these people seem to have anything interesting going on in their lives.
 
Allegra said:
I do have some females that I can have good conversations with, but I just don’t work with them. On the other hand, maybe deep conversations aren’t really appropriate in the work place anyway. I do often feel left out though…and bored. None of these people seem to have anything interesting going on in their lives.
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It’s very strange for me to think of workplace politics in a teacher’s lounge. I’m less than 10 years removed from high school, so it’s very strange to think about what could have been happening behind the scenes in my high school. Who the popular teachers were, who were the outcasts, who was the guy everyone avoided, what the gossip revolved around, etc.
 
BlueEyedLady said:
It’s very strange for me to think of workplace politics in a teacher’s lounge. I’m less than 10 years removed from high school, so it’s very strange to think about what could have been happening behind the scenes in my high school. Who the popular teachers were, who were the outcasts, who was the guy everyone avoided, what the gossip revolved around, etc.
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I don’t know that we have popular teachers and outcasts. We only have one table for crying out loud. Maybe that’s because we only talk about TV and never anything personal. Maybe its a good thing. Or a sort of good thing. At least no one’s feelings get hurt.
 
I said yes, but with a caveat. I don’t think it’s fair to refer to her as my best friend simply because her being my spouse is so much more. She’ll actually ask me from time to time if she’s my best friend and I say, “No, you’re my wife.” It’s a far deeper relationship than any friendship. We’re with each other all the time, rely on one another in every situation and know that no matter what the other says or does, we’ll be there for one another at the end of the day.
 
Gordon_Sims said:
I said yes, but with a caveat. I don’t think it’s fair to refer to her as my best friend simply because her being my spouse is so much more. She’ll actually ask me from time to time if she’s my best friend and I say, “No, you’re my wife.” It’s a far deeper relationship than any friendship. We’re with each other all the time, rely on one another in every situation and know that no matter what the other says or does, we’ll be there for one another at the end of the day.
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That is so beautifully put!! Easter Blessings!!

Jill
 
Gordon_Sims said:
I said yes, but with a caveat. I don’t think it’s fair to refer to her as my best friend simply because her being my spouse is so much more. She’ll actually ask me from time to time if she’s my best friend and I say, “No, you’re my wife.” It’s a far deeper relationship than any friendship. We’re with each other all the time, rely on one another in every situation and know that no matter what the other says or does, we’ll be there for one another at the end of the day.
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👍

Yeah…this is so much better of a response!

I love this!
 
Yes, easily. I also don’t seem to have any interests that are exclusively “girly” and my husband and I have a lot in common.

I do have other friends - male and female - but my husband is definitely my best friend. And yes, so much more. 🙂
 
We fight a lot, but yeah, he is my best friend. Since we had kids, we have argued a lot more than we used to.

I know he has my back…he’s the only one on this earth that has my back…he’s my best friend.
 
My husband is my best friend. The others I hang around with and call on the phone are family (the ones I grew up with, biological family members, and my in-laws). I do have a few facebook “friends” who I interact with about various topics (some we have never met in real life but there is that Catholic connection) but that’s about it. I have one friend from high school I meet up with about once per year with our kids (we do run into each other sometimes when my family and I are running errands in her area). The only other non-relatives we interact with are my husband’s classmate from his diaconate program and their wives, his business partner (his wife is nice but there is not much in common I have with her), and random people from different parishes we have attended as well as our current parish.
 
The typical romance drama does not have this, especially with Korean ones.

Also, I think it was the CAFer named George Stegmeir who the OP was referring to.
 
Gordon_Sims said:
I said yes, but with a caveat. I don’t think it’s fair to refer to her as my best friend simply because her being my spouse is so much more. She’ll actually ask me from time to time if she’s my best friend and I say, “No, you’re my wife.” It’s a far deeper relationship than any friendship. We’re with each other all the time, rely on one another in every situation and know that no matter what the other says or does, we’ll be there for one another at the end of the day.
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I guess I don’t see them as mutually exclusive. You can have a cousin who is also your best friend, and I’m sure we all know married couples who aren’t friends at all. I think it’s best to be both best friends and husband and wife.
 
Allegra said:
So, you spend time with them socially, but don’t really feel a connection to them? I feel that way about alot of the women I work with. It’s not that they’re mean or stupid or anything like that, but I just have practically zero interest in anything they are talking about. Most of them are extremely pasionate about TV and spend the whole time talking about the shows that were on the night before and don’t you just love so-and-so. I have nothing to contribute. I don’t even have cable. Oh well. I guess I should just be happy that they aren’t in the lunch room gossiping about each other. That’s always the worst!
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BlueEyedLady said:
Yeah, they come around with their boyfriends/husbands every now and again, but for the most part they have no interest in staying up to see the midnight release of the new Iron Man movie, or going to a sports bar to watch yet another football game, or creating characters to play through a new fantasy D&D setting, or having a halo tournament. I’m pleasant with them, but I have more in common with their boyfriends (who I’ve been friends with for years), and yep, I’ve noticed that a lot of their conversation revolves around TV, and like you, I don’t have cable.

And maybe it’s because I’ve always had mostly male friends, but I feel far more comfortable having deep conversations with them and sharing with them than I do women. Of course now that I’m getting married there are definite boundaries there.
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haha…I don’t really have any female friends or cable either. Funny.

My husband is definitely my best friend. I tell him that all the time. There’s no one else I’d rather spend my time with. My mom is a close second. I’m very introverted and don’t really have any friends that I hang out with.
 
BlueEyedLady said:
Meh, most of my interests are stereotypically male things. I like video games, sports, D&D, action movies, etc. I don’t like chick flicks, clothes shopping, etc and I don’t even know what “girl talk” is. My one female friend is much like me in that regard. I’m even entering a male dominated field. I’m more comfortable with men and don’t relate very well to women.
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I know this is kinda off-topic, but my “girl talk” consists almost entirely of discussing D&D, video games, and anime (along with occasional rants about more serious topics). We have a D&D group with only one guy in it. 😃

I think it’s good to have friends of both genders… But obviously spouses are one flesh, so I don’t see how they could NOT be “best friends” if the relationship is healthy. Maybe some people just think that terminology is weird? 🤷
 
I cannot think of anyone that I would rather have as a best friend than my wife! She is my best soul friend! 😉
 
What do we mean by “best friend”?

Do I enjoy her company more than all others? Mostly, yes.
Do I spend the most time with her? Well, yes, but that’s a given because we live together.
Do I entrust her with more intimate information than anyone? Certainly.

So that would seem to be a “yes.”

But I voted “no” because I define “best friend” as a term that is exclusive of one’s spouse, and usually (though not always) exclusive of family members. However, that is just a personal definition of the phrase “best friend.” Under other people’s definitions, they might consider my wife and I best friends.
 
My husband was a friend before he and I started dating. We have always been best friends. I can’t imagine being married to someone if he was NOT my best friend. I am very thankful for his friendship.
 
Absolutely my wife is my best friend. There is NOBODY on this Earth that I’d rather spend my free leisure time with.

I love our three sons and love spending time with them, but a father-son relationship certainly isn’t one of “best friends”. I’m not trying to be their friend but rather their mentor.

But when it comes to doing the leisure activities I love (biking, hiking, snowshoeing, or just reading quietly by the fire) there’s nobody I’d rather be with than my wife of nearly 25 years.

It hasn’t always been like that, we’ve certainly had our share of ups and downs, but we both had a profound conversion experience of sorts a few years ago and it’s been like a continous honeymoon since then. 🙂

I never thought that our fifties would be the best time ever for our relationship!
 
My husband & I are best friends, have been since our relationship began. I can’t believe someone thought that was weird. Wow, just can’t grasp that mindset. To me, weird would be if you & your spouse are NOT best friends!
 
My wife is absolutely my best friend. She is the one I go to first with everything, the exciting things and the challenging things. I give myself to my wife and trust her with my life. That’s what marriage is.

My wife and I were great friends for several years before our marriage. That actually was crucial for me when we started dating…we didn’t have to go through the “what’s your favorite food” phase! 🙂

I honestly believe that is why my wife struggles in our marriage. She never had the “ooshie-gooshies” with me when we were dating. She was comfortable with me from the start, so the flush of new love never hit her with me. Marriage was very easy decision for us. Now several years down the road after all the initial excitement of marriage (children, jobs, houses, etc) are over, she has the “I love you, but not ‘in’ love with you” feeling.

Will she tell you I am her best friend? I’d wager yes, but then she doesn’t have many close friends. She’s the introvert and I’m the extrovert. I have to be cautious I don’t overwhelm her sometimes, even as a friend (not to mention being her husband!)
 
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