How many dh's help with housework?

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I am just curious about this question for my dh doesn’t help much at all. He and I are both disabled and not working. I think if a dh works all day and the dw is at home, she can do the housework, but still think the dh can help out when he can. How about when both husband and wife work, who does the housework? I have a sister in that situation and she hires someone to do so, but no everyone can afford this luxury. How many of you that both of you work, get help from dh’s?
 
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I am just curious about this question for my dh doesn’t help much at all. He and I are both disabled and not working. I think if a dh works all day and the dw is at home, she can do the housework, but still think the dh can help out when he can. How about when both husband and wife work, who does the housework? I have a sister in that situation and she hires someone to do so, but no everyone can afford this luxury. How many of you that both of you work, get help from dh’s?
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My wife just started working after 17 years of marriage. She still does most of the housework. Although, I do all of the cooking and very often clean the kitchen. I must admit, I have not done a load of laundry since my wedding!
 
Mine does!
Granted myself and the kids do the bulk of it simply because we’re here more, but when he’s home if there’s work to be done he pitches in just like the rest of us.
 
**Mine does. I am at home disabled and now am also a full time mom. He has always helped out and most of the time ends up doing the majority of it. I do what I can and he does the rest. We don’t have the most organized house, or the cleanest, but that’s ok, lol.

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My husband has always helped with the housework. In fact, he does all of the cooking for meals; I do the cleanup afterwards. We have always shared household duties, though I do most of the housecleaning, and he takes care of the lawn and the vehicles.
 
I clean and help out with tidying the kitchen, straightening up the living room, and do most if not all of the yard work to include shoveling/snowblowing out of the Wisconsin snow storms! I also make supper a couple of times a week. My wife does much more than me but I try and help out when I can. I do watch our four young children so my wife can work (I work full-time as well but a different shift) and I have to admit…When I watch the kids very little gets done. I tell my wife all the time, women are given special graces to deal with all of it! (housework, raising children, helping with homework, etc…) I do not have the patience she has or most other women have.
 
My husband does. He works a lot of hours and I work half time, so I do more because I’m home more, plus the kids have their chores, but when he’s home he does whatever needs to be done, just like me.
 
Wow, this is great. My dh doesn’t help to much at all. I do the dishes, the vacuuming, the mopping, the making of beds in the morning even when he is the last to get out. I do the laundry the cooking and all dusting. It is to much for me at times and I explode with anger for he doesn’t help unless I get angry and tell him that he is being lazy. He tells me that his feet hurt so bad that he can’t do the cleaning, but I have seen him stand on his feet talking to neighbors for more than 15 minutes at a time. Mind you he comes in the house in extreme pain, but if we shared the responsibility, I would feel better also and be happier. I have extreme pains also, but I watch my weight because that could hurt my back, which is the major problem. My dh keeps eating and getting bigger and bigger. I guess I just am so angry that he doesn’t help at all and only helps if I ask him to do something. My dd is only 8 and tries to help, but tends to follow her dad’s example. I do give her things to do when I am cleaning and she helps for about 10 minutes and than she said he is bored and doesn’t want to clean anymore.

I was just wondering if husbands helped out. I just wish mine did. In the last three days, I have had to lay down most of the time because of back pain. He saw the dishes in a pile, but did not do them. I had to do it. Yes, I know we have some problems in our marriage. If I had to some it up, my husband is lazy. Sometimes I question his love for me. When I am sick and need help with dd, he doesn’t do it on his own and I have to ask him to help. Sorry for carrying on. DH does have some good qualities also. I don’t know why he doesn’t help out.:rolleyes:
 
Ironically, My wife and I were just talking about this topic yesterday. She told me that she believed Husbands should help out around the house as times have changed. I did agree with her to some extent but reiterated that I believed she was better at doing some of the chores than I was!😃 Have you sat down with your husband and told him that you need help? Even if it is just 5-10 minutes of cleaning it all helps. 5 minutes a day= 1/2 hour a week=26 hours a year!!!👍
 
Yup, he helps. I’m home during the day, so my do a bit more. But in the evenings when I have rehearsal or a show, I’m out the door by 5:30 and gone until about 10:30, so he deals with dinner and our baby.
 
Mine helps a lot! Especially now that baby is teething and will rarely play with daddy. He says it helps him decompress after work so I don’t feel so guilty about it. He also likes to take over in the kitchen sometimes too so I just stay out of his way.
 
Single dad, primary custody of a 5 yo and a 3 yo… It’s gotta get done, and I’m it (was doing most of it long before their mom left too, and I was the only one working outside of the home).
 
My DH will occasionally cook a meal or clean a room. He does most of the grocery shopping, pet care (we have a rabbit, bird, dog, 3 turtles in different tanks, and 3 rabbits) and takes care of the garbage.
He will not do any washing (claims he can’t unerstand how to work the washing machine but he is extrememly good with the video machine:rolleyes: ) nor ironing, sorting out clothes, cleaning out closets etc. He does a lot more than his father who doesn’t seem to be able to make a cup of tea for himself, but DH does a lot less than my father who really did most of the housework.

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he does a great job, and has over the years, and is in general a better housekeeper than I am. that being said, does anyone have a husband who does not do the one or two simple chores you ask him to do, but spends a lot of time doing something you don’t care about, didn’t ask for, and then expect you to praise him for it?
 
Growing up in a house of 14 we all had to share the house work, our parents insisted.
When my mother died in 1977 I had to cook and wash and clean for my little brother and 3 sisters and dad as the rest were long gone (married).

It don’t do any harm to give children things to do, in the end I loved pleasing my mother so would willingly do, (not always) 😊

But if you don’t bend the branch when it’s young, then you won’t bend it when it old.

I think being a good husband starts off with mum, if she spoils her son, then God have mercy on his poor wife.

Oh and yes I still help around the house.
 
Mine does almost none, but then I do almost no yard work, so it all evens out. —KCT
 
DH doesn’t help very often, but that’s OK because he’s working his can off long hours to make ends meet.

I do wish he’d help with the kids a little more, though. Especially with Jacob.
 
My DH helps with the housework and is happy to lend a hand. He loves to cook, which is his main way of helping out (plus cleaning up afterwards). He also often bathes the kids and helps with the mail and sometimes makes the bed. He’s a great help when he’s at home. 🙂 If I need help with anything else I just have to ask and he’s happy to give me a hand (say, entertaining baby while I fold some laundry, etc.).

I think you should sit down with your DH and make a list of all the chores that need to be done and then assign them all to either one or the other person. He will see that his list is smaller than yours and hopefully be motivated to jump in more and assume more responsibilities around the house. Also, make sure you stay caught up with the things on your list, because if he sees you’re not doing your chores, he will be less motivated to do his.
 
I forgot to mention that DH used to have to clean his whole house to “earn” getting to see me when we were dating in high school (lived 80 miles away and hadn’t gotten his license yet–so needed Mom or Dad to drive him). And he lived in a family of 6 in a big house. So our family now (2 adults, 2 babies) and our little house aren’t so bad to keep up with 😃
 
My DH is great about helping out, he actually does more than I do. 🙂 I work full time, so DH cleans a lot during the day while I’m gone. He does all the vacuuming, dusting, dishes, etc. The only things I do are cook (he does cleanup afterwards), clean the bathroom, and do about half the laundry. Other than that I just have to keep my closet organized, and he does pretty much everything else. When he gets a job during the day, I’m sure I will pick up some more of the chores since he will hardly ever be home to work on anything, but he loves helping out and will continue to do so as much as possible. 👍
 
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