How Many Women Have Housecleaning Help?

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Friends: How many of you moms with kids have housecleaning help? Please tell me. I appreciate all opinions.

As a mom with a nice home and a family of 8, including all animals, I feel I just cannot do it all on my own, and I need some assistance. I would really like to know how many are in my boat? And if this normal?

My H has at times compared me to his mom, who is totally a “bionic woman”, worked full time, still does at 83 at home, paid the bills, gets on the roof to paint, etc.,---- whewww---- this is just not me, I’m afraid. I can barely keep up day to day, and get most tired, and need help with the home.

Could you, friends, perhaps shed some light on what your situation is? Thank you.
 
I have been looking into getting cleaning help once a month for the last 2 years however every time I hear the price I drop the idea.
 
I have someone come in & clean once every other week. We hired her when I was homeschooling. The homeschooling I hated… the cleaning woman I loved! I was going to give her up when I quit homeschooling… but then the Pope got so sick… and she’s from Poland and a wonderful Catholic… and she was quite sad about him so I couldn’t let her go at that time. Then the Pope died… so I needed to wait a bit for her to properly grieve… then I got preganant… so… I decided to keep her until after I’ve had the baby. Give or take a few years… 😉
 
carol marie:
I have someone come in & clean once every other week. We hired her when I was homeschooling. The homeschooling I hated… the cleaning woman I loved! I was going to give her up when I quit homeschooling… but then the Pope got so sick… and she’s from Poland and a wonderful Catholic… and she was quite sad about him so I couldn’t let her go at that time. Then the Pope died… so I needed to wait a bit for her to properly grieve… then I got preganant… so… I decided to keep her until after I’ve had the baby. Give or take a few years… 😉
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What a story! You’re lucky you found her!!
 
Sorry - I never got household help when my children were little and i kept a better house then than I do now! You didn’t givbe me that option in your poll though.

I am not “bionic” woman either and have alway shad at theyvery lest two pets who would go outside and bring in all kinds of stuff stuck to their fur. If you need help, then you need help, there is absolutely nothing wrong witht hat 🙂

Brenda V.
 
I did not see the option for “kids are the housecleaning help” - growing up, we all had assigned chores. Now nearing 15, our son mows, keeps his room clean, sorts/puts away laundry, is in charge of dinner one night per week. He also helps where it is needed - Saturday night he moved about a jillion books for me 🙂
 
Brenda V.:
I have always had at they very least two pets who would go outside and bring in all kinds of stuff stuck to their fur. If you need help, then you need help, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that 🙂

Brenda V.
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Hi Brenda! So you appreciate the little furry critters too, huh? YAY!!! Guess I’m one of those moms who would rather have an imperfect house with animals than a perfect immaculate house with no pets for my kids:( And YES, I most definately need the help. Thank you for replying. 🙂
 
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I did not see the option for “kids are the housecleaning help” - growing up, we all had assigned chores. Now nearing 15, our son mows, keeps his room clean, sorts/puts away laundry, is in charge of dinner one night per week. He also helps where it is needed - Saturday night he moved about a jillion books for me 🙂
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Hey kage_ar: How do you do it? How do you manage this? It’s like pulling teeth to get my boys to lift a finger. Thinkin of writing a chore list out—but need H’s help. He’s just a big oaff of a couch potato watching games and drinkin beer. 😦 Does your H chime in? Let me in on your secrets OK?

Well my 2 older boys will clean their rooms, and do yard work, but it’s so hard…they still leave their messes, dirty dishes all over the house, and tend to be couch potatoes like their dad.—sigh:confused: LOL. Guess, I’m thankful I have them all the same. It was so cute last nite we went to church w/o dad, he was out, and my boys started the car, and fixed dinner, etc. It was a special nite. I love having boys really I do. But it can be hard being the only woman in the home. I’m bombarded with males. Yikes! And strong burly ones at that. 200 lb. ones--------They’re all taller and bigger than me, and louder! Gosh it’s hard to get a grip—poor mom-----😛
 
I can’t legitimately vote on this since I don’t currently have a household, but I can tell you right now that if my fiance doesn’t do it, we will not have a very well-kept house. I am simply not a great housekeeper. Actually I’m pretty much a slob. :o My dad did most of the work around our house too, and it was so in FI’s household as well.

I sincerely wish I was better at it, there’s nothing I hate more than coming home to my sloppy apartment every day. I can’t wait to get married so I can finally have a clean house. :yup: All that other marriage stuff… psht, whatever… I just want the clean house;).
 
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vluvski:
I can’t legitimately vote on this since I don’t currently have a household, but I can tell you right now that if my fiance doesn’t do it, we will not have a very well-kept house. I am simply not a great housekeeper. Actually I’m pretty much a slob. :o My dad did most of the work around our house too, and it was so in FI’s household as well.

I sincerely wish I was better at it, there’s nothing I hate more than coming home to my sloppy apartment every day. I can’t wait to get married so I can finally have a clean house. :yup: All that other marriage stuff… psht, whatever… I just want the clean house;).
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SO>>>>>you just better make sure you marry someone who is a good housekeeper then. Discuss it before hand. A very good idea! I hear ya! I hate a mess too. But never knew my H was such a slob. Ye Gads! That’s why I have to have help!
 
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sparkle:
SO>>>>>you just better make sure you marry someone who is a good housekeeper then. Discuss it before hand. A very good idea! I hear ya! I hate a mess too. But never knew my H was such a slob. Ye Gads! That’s why I have to have help!
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He knows all too well. He laughingly says that’s the only way he knows I’m not perfect. He asks me not to clean when he visits (once in a blue moon can he get away from school and work long enough for a worthwhile trip) so he can help me with vaccuuming and such. What a sweetie!
Speaking of cleaning, I need to get some done now.
 
we all pitch in at our house. the first person who complains about something not getting done - they get assigned that chore. hiring help is VERY expensive. We cannot afford it. Anyone who has money issues in any way shape or form who hires outside help for housekeeping does not have any money issues in any way shape or form…
 
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Anyone who has money issues in any way shape or form who hires outside help for housekeeping does not have any money issues in any way shape or form…
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I totally disagree. I do believe it’s just a matter of their priorities and their needs. Someone who feels housecleaning “is out of the question”, just might spend $25.00 on a bottle of nice wine, or $50.00 on dinner out, or $80.00 at Barnes & Noble, or on something else. I feel it is much more a matter of PRIORITIES, than a matter of what one can afford. We can all afford what is a priority for us.
 
1 sentence would solve all your problems.

PUT THOSE KIDS TO WORK!

It’s good for them & it’s good for the family.
 
I no longer have young children at home, but I care for my DD SIL and have a house full of grandchildren, etc. very often. I have never had household help even though I have threatened often enough. My problem is that I would have to clean house before I had anyone come to clean…but maybe in the future when I can no longer continue doing it all myself, I shall indulge. No one should feel guilty to have help when they need it. the budget can be re-arranged to fit what your real needs are. To allow yourself to be stressed over the household cleaning is not worth the “savings”, if any.

Love and peace

Mom of 5
 


All my help is here in these closets and cupboards. They work very cooperatively 365 days a year and ask for no pay for overtime hours.
 
Rob’s Wife said:
1 sentence would solve all your problems.

PUT THOSE KIDS TO WORK!

It’s good for them & it’s good for the family.
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Hey thx! I agree! But without a H to back me up it’s really hard. I do think kids today are so completely and utterly lazy, and it’s just too easy to seem to fall by the wayside on computer and TV. We have a lock for one TV, but the computer----oh my???H doesn’t get home until 8:00—I pick my boys up and they’re like wild beasts when they get home. Help!!! I’m just not strong enough to enforce rules, etc. What do you suggest?
 
I wish I had help. Well, I do have help…my hubby. But after he has a long day/week at work I feel guilty having him do most of the “grunt” work around here.

I would love to be able to have someone come in and just do the big jobs (floors, bathrooms etc). I can handle the little jobs like dishes and laundry most of the time. But right now we cannot afford it…that would be a luxury. Maybe one day

Malia
 
Oh, I am so glad you started this thread, Sparkle. It is so hard for me to keep a clean, spotless house. Don’t get me wrong, we are not slobs or anything, but I just feel like I never get “caught up”. I’m either doing laundry, dishes, straightening up the living room, cleaning the cat box, etc, etc. And it always seems like the kitchen is full of dirty dishes! Or the floors need mopped…
I am not even going to get into what our computer room looks like. :eek: It is my goal to “organize” everything in here eventually. This room is mostly my husband’s, though, and he’s not exactly tidy.
I don’t think if I had the extra money I would hire someone else to do it for me. I think that would be a waste of money. I’d rather do like someone else mentioned above & go blow the money at Barnes & Noble.
 
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