Oh no, I’m male. I think the popular culture has it that men run from marriage while women embrace it. However, I am also fifty-five years old, which means that, while I am single, I have had time to observe many happy marriages amongst my friends. One friend just passed after having been married over sixty years, mainly happily so.Are you female or male? My male friends agree with me about marriage but my female friends think marriage is great and wonderful.
I think it’s far more than just the non-cheating aspect. Couples that have been in a happy and contented marriage for many years usually know one another well: one another’s foibles, interests, joys, etc are common knowledge. Also, as you age, to have a partner who really knows you better than anyone else and will always be there for you, whether you are happy or miserable, is an invaluable thing. Older people have seen the truth of this, I think, which is why they generally approve of marriage. And practically speaking, a widow/widower is eligible for Social Security benefits based on the deceased spouse’s work history, and sometimes for some or all of their private pension, as well. A ‘partner’, I.e. non-married, gets nothing. It may seem crass to point it out, but it’s not a negligible consideration, especially as one ages.Right. I’ve noticed older people saying that marriages are great while younger people say it’s not that great. Maybe because older couples don’t cheat as much
Um, I’m here to tell you this is a complete myth.Maybe because older couples don’t cheat as much
My husband is baptized protestant, but not even a believer in any sort of christian trinity. He helps me on my road to heaven, as he supports me with living my faith and questions me often enough so I get deeper into speaking for my faith. The reason is he´s a moral and loving husband, which is not necessary the same as a good believer.Protestants are still christian. I figure marrying one is better than marrying an atheist. But not all Protestants are made equally. Be glad you found a good one
For me, it was simply difficult to feel as child. I had to be responsible for my own mental needs with 13 and financially with 16. The time before is cloudy and not very present in my emotional life. I didn´t knew how to behave like a child, even as god´s child. Jesus as friend was far more understandable for me.I like god as father because my dad wasn’t there for me. God is
^^^^^This, so much. I understood so much more of the nature of love, the love of christ also, when I felt trust in my marriage.I don’t know the loving Father as he is…but Christ I know as the bridgegroom of the church. My husband has been a wonderful role model of Christ and his love for me. He has given me such love, acceptance, and peace and helped me heal in so many ways. He’s helped me find my self-worth enough in him that I can begin to look to Jesus as my husband as well. All love is of God, so spousal love is another great way to experience the love of God.
Again, I have almost exactly the same situation. My mother contracted multiple sclerosis when I was four years old, and had other problems with drugs and alcohol, so I couldn’t count on her. When I was going through RCIA at the age of thirty-two, it was an immense relief to be able to look to the BVM as my own loving mother. To this day I am devoted to her, especially in her appearance as Our Lady of Fatima.I like god as father because my dad wasn’t there for me. God is
I have often given thanks that I was raised in an atheist household. When I realised, at the age of twenty-three and after much searching, that I believed in Christianity, I was virtually a tabula rasa, with no preconceived notions or biases to get in my way. I spent the next several years investigating every Christian denomination I could find, and was finally received into the Catholic faith just shy of my thirty-third birthday. Had I actually grown up, say, in a Baptist household, I could well have had major issues with Catholicism and might never have found my way to the Church. But perhaps that isn’t true. Certainly all things are possible with God.My family has not affected my relationship with God (thankfully, they were abusive) BUT I have watched how it damaged my mother.
She was desperately abused by her father. She is distrustful and often afraid of God. She does not like to pray to him directly, she focuses very heavily on Jesus and she doesn’t believe in the Trinity because it comforts her to think Jesus is separate and not a ‘father’.
So yes, families can greatly change how we approach our relationship with God.