How old were you when you got married?

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I was 21 and it was 26 years, six children, two daughters-in-law and one granddaughter ago.
 
We were both 18 and just had graduated high school. We have been married 32 years.🙂
 
Me and my hubby dubby got married when he was 30 and I was 22 after 3 years of dating. We were mature enough, but marriage truly is work…we take our marriage vows as the sacrament they are, and we will work through this. Please pray for help for us to ease the marriage bumps in the meantime please. 3 living children, and one beloved with God. On a side note my own mother was 19 and had me exactly a year later at 20 years old.
 
i was 22 and hubby was 26…this coming feb 24th we will be celebrating 10 years together:D:p
 
Once again, I am off the chart with my answer.

To begin with, getting married young seems to lead to trouble.Getting married before age 40 always seemed premature to me. Young marriages are usually more prone to problems.

So 40 came and went with astonishing speed, and I didn’t even have a girlfriend. But there was plenty of time. 50 zoomed past. Still no girlfriend. Now I’m 60, and no girlfriend in sight. Maybe I should get a telescope.
 
Magickman said:
Once again, I am off the chart with my answer.

To begin with, getting married young seems to lead to trouble.Getting married before age 40 always seemed premature to me. Young marriages are usually more prone to problems.
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Umm for a woman if you plan on having a family waiting until 40 is most definitely not a good idea.
There are pros and cons to marrying earlier or later. There can be maturity issues with marrying young and less financial stability but those who are more established are also more likely to be used to being independent, more likely to be set in their ways and may have more difficulty being flexible, compromising when they are used to not having to answer to anyone for many years.

My husband and I literally grew up together through our marriage and we had some hard years but there is something very bonding about getting through life’s struggles together and looking back and thinking we were just kids and we made it through this and look at us now.
 
I was 19 and my wife was 18. We met almost three years before and dated for 2 1/2. We will have been married for 34 years in March. Three living children and three grandchildren.
 
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Everyone keeps telling my husband and me that we got married REALLY young. We were both 23 … I don’t think that’s THAT young. It’s just a thing with the culture, that people are getting married later now. But I’m getting the impression that here in Catholic circles, people tend to get married a bit younger than in the surrounding culture. So – what age did you get married? (Or, if you’re engaged, at what age will you be getting married?)
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If all goes well hehe, I’ll be 29 when I get married (he’ll be 27). I have a twin who married at 23 and she has been very happy. I am kind of jealous that she already has 3 kids… not sure if I’ll ever “catch up”! Lol.
 
I was 27, my hubby was 34. We are married for 13 years and going strong!

I had no idea when we started dating that he was that much older (he still looks very young) and by the time I found out, I was already starry-eyed! LOL! Then I realized what was wrong with all those other guys I had dated – they were too young!!!

IRT to 23 being “too young” - I stay away from blanket statements like that. It is way more about the 2 people involved. I know some 23 year olds who are more mature than 30 year old I know.

I am thinking of my family & friends who are happily married, and here are some stats:

married at 23 & 22 - 26 years ago
Married at 24 & 24 - 24 years ago
Married at 23 & 23 - 14 years ago
Married at 25 & 26 - 15 years ago
Married at 30 & 31 - 12 years ago
 
Magickman said:
Once again, I am off the chart with my answer.

**To begin with, getting married young seems to lead to trouble.Getting married before age 40 always seemed premature to me. ** Young marriages are usually more prone to problems.

So 40 came and went with astonishing speed, and I didn’t even have a girlfriend. But there was plenty of time. 50 zoomed past. Still no girlfriend. Now I’m 60, and no girlfriend in sight. Maybe I should get a telescope.
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Well, I hope this doesn’t offend you – but most women I know who married an extended bachelor are NOT happy.

I think as you get older, it’s harder to adjust to sharing your life with another person.

I am thinking of 2 friends in particular, and their husbands were both married for the first time in their 40’s, and those men have not given up their bachelor ways. (By this, I mean : Being used to doing what they want to do, when they want to do it. Getting annoyed by their wives’ dismay at these habits. I don’t mean cheating - I mean, poker games, Vegas, bike riding, surfing, etc.) Basically, they treat their wives like roommates.
 
StJudePray4Me said:
Well, I hope this doesn’t offend you – but most women I know who married an extended bachelor are NOT happy.

I think as you get older, it’s harder to adjust to sharing your life with another person.

I am thinking of 2 friends in particular, and their husbands were both married for the first time in their 40’s, and those men have not given up their bachelor ways. (By this, I mean : Being used to doing what they want to do, when they want to do it. Getting annoyed by their wives’ dismay at these habits. I don’t mean cheating - I mean, poker games, Vegas, bike riding, surfing, etc.) Basically, they treat their wives like roommates.
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Yeah, if God wanted us all to wait until 40 to answer the call to marriage, he wouldn’t have designed women to start losing their fertility at age 35. I think we could argue that marrying young and marrying later both have their own sets of challenges… one is not better than the other, but different. I would opt for marrying younger over marrying older, if I had a choice.
 
29, and not a day too late. Thank God I didn’t get married any sooner as I know I was not ready for it :o

Now, I have a lasting marriage with a wonderful lady. I shudder to think what I could have ended up doing in my more impulsive days…
 
My husband and I were married when I was 18 and he was 20. One week after I graduated from high school. We will celebrate our 34th wedding anniversary in June. 😃

My MIL had a fit and said we wouldn’t last. :eek:

Her other two sons were older when they were married and one is on marriage number 2 and the other is on marriage number 3. 🤷

I am sure some family members were counting down the months until a baby arrived, but they were sadly disappointed when our son didn’t come for another year and a half. To top it all off I was the “dreaded Catholic” in the family and my husband joined the church before we were married. I ruined him!! (they thought):rolleyes:
 
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