That’s a great question, one I’ve pondered upon for a while too.
Marriage shouldn’t be a struggle for power. That only distracts you from the things that are most important. I respect my husband as the head of the family but that doesn’t mean I cannot make decisions. We make them together. Sometimes, I make them when it concerns something I’m more experienced at. It’s hard accepting hierarchy in such a small unit as a family, especially if you’re supposed to be ‘one’. But I do think it’s in the Bible for a reason. No structure tends to work without hierarchy. The same goes for a (small) family unit. I think submission to your husband is an act that, however difficult, makes you grow as a wife and as a woman. We are given different sexes and we are fundamentally different. I think this traditional family dynamic helps us to discover the more female qualities in ourselves. When we are less preoccupied with making decisions and keeping order, we have more energy to take care of our family members. Our modern society has mashed up traditional patterns and it remains a struggle, especially for young families like ours, to find our rightful places as mother and father. But units with a clear structure just tend to function better. I guess keeping in mind a structure that has worked for ages, can at least help us to gradually restore society a bit, starting in our own homes.