How to deal with annoying people

[guanophore]

I have to try not to think about her at all. She has been a source of serious stress. Whenever she pops up in my mind, I think “Jesus I trust in you”. It’s working. And I have prayed for her also; but this is now more a situation of self-preservation. She has disturbed my peace as though she were in league with the enemy himself.

Verily, our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities and powers if this present darkness. We must take authority over them, in Jesus’ name, and put on the full armor of God (Eph. 6). You can pray, 'God bless her, in the manner in which she most deserves".

 

[RosalieM]

Verily, our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities and powers if this present darkness. We must take authority over them, in Jesus’ name, and put on the full armor of God (Eph. 6). You can pray, 'God bless her, in the manner in which she most deserves".

This is great. It’s a brave prayer, not one of wimpering fear. I’ll do it. Thank you. Thank all of you.

Pax et Bonum

 

[rpp]

I wonder how an abortion doctor or a NARAL promoter would answer the question about how to deal with an annoying person? I wonder if they would be able to maintain logical consistency?

 

[AndyF]

Is this a sin to feel this way?

No. I think it is natural given all the personalities and upbringing everyone has had. Also the reason could be you, due to some deficiency say like jealousy,etc. Also it could be that this person has severed their friendship with God,(in a state of mortal sin.) which causes a spiritual aura of emptiness to some degree. Applies to you also.

But all the same you can…

1/ Tactfully excuse yourself from his presence.

2/ If you can’t do that, occupy your mind with something else. Mentally remove yourself from his sphere(contribution). His conversation should now be distant hardly noticible. Only keep enough information details that are work related and pertinent, and for everything else nod the occasionable, “That so!”,“Gee, I don’t know.”,etc. Contribute nothing,don’t ask for anything not work related not even the time,etc. Just the necessaries. But remain polite always. Eventually he’ll give up.

AndyF

 

[Salonika]

I have to try not to think about her at all. She has been a source of serious stress. Whenever she pops up in my mind, I think “Jesus I trust in you”. It’s working. And I have prayed for her also; but this is now more a situation of self-preservation. She has disturbed my peace as though she were in league with the enemy himself.

RosalieM - totally understand what you are saying and your need to keep your cause of serious stress out of your mind. Trouble is they pop up at the most unexpected moment even when they are out of your life. For example, someone mentions them, someone behaves in a similar way.

If my past cause of serious stress walked into a room where I was, I would walk out. If I heard her voice I would get away before she appeared.

These people are not annoying or irritating - they are out to damage and we need to protect ourselves from them.

What I most wish for her is to realise what she did to me and some of my colleagues so she would change her behaviour.

 

[Feste_1242]

I wonder how an abortion doctor or a NARAL promoter would answer the question about how to deal with an annoying person? I wonder if they would be able to maintain logical consistency?

 

[RNRobert]

We’re supposed to love 'em but we don’t have to like 'em.

Yes, if Jesus told us to “like our enemies,” we’d all be in deep trouble!

 

[Serap]

Just a different spin, but the way I see it is that I’m sure I irritate some people too, so who am I to judge or get upset?

When I see a manipulator or a “not so nice” person, I look beyond it and see the good in them. Perhaps that’s what Jesus meant?

Although, I do see the good in them, I don’t necessarily like them; everyone has some good in them for the most part. I focus on that part of them and it helps me a lot.

At work, I’m seen as easy going and positive. When I go home, I don’t even think about the people that I don’t particularly like. I don’t really care because to me it’s small stuff.

Sure I pray for people all the time. I just don’t stress over it because there is always good that can come out of bad…even bad or annoying people have interesting qualities that I can learn from.

 

[RosalieM]

RosalieM - totally understand what you are saying and your need to keep your cause of serious stress out of your mind. Trouble is they pop up at the most unexpected moment even when they are out of your life. For example, someone mentions them, someone behaves in a similar way.

If my past cause of serious stress walked into a room where I was, I would walk out. If I heard her voice I would get away before she appeared.

These people are not annoying or irritating - they are out to damage and we need to protect ourselves from them.

What I most wish for her is to realise what she did to me and some of my colleagues so she would change her behaviour.

I’ve been saying my regular and some new prayers about my cause of serious stress. I try to change my thoughts if she pops up in my mind. Today I had the good fortune to visit the new replica of the Porziuncola. More spiritual exercises and experiences can certainy protect us. So maybe damaging people help us spiritually by sending us running to our Lord faster than we would go without them trying to harm us.