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It’s getting closer to that time of year when I begin looking for a new swimsuit for this upcoming summer. I am 21 years old. Last year, I decided that I would never again wear a bikini once I realized how ridiculously immodest they are and I feel super strongly about modesty as I’ve learned more about how visual men are and what exactly goes through their minds when they see provocatively dressed women. So I now make it a point to extend my modesty to the pool as well (apparently no other girls, even the so-called “Christian” girls I know, seem to understand that guys are guys, whether at the pool, school, work, etc.). Apparently one-pieces are so rare that even one of my best friends has noticed my choice of swimwear, and has even made some comments on it. She wasn’t derogatory about it- don’t get me wrong. She’s super sweet and decent about stuff like that. But I got the vibe that she probably was feeling as if I were being prudish or that I was somehow sticking my nose up at her, like I was better than her for not wearing a bikini. Obviously I don’t view it that way. Although I can’t help but have my blood boil when I think of how oblivious and clueless girls are when it comes to swimwear, at the same time, because I’m guilty of the same crime, I try not to be too judgmental. I guess maybe the reason I’m so against immodest swimwear is because I used to be a part of it- now I’m trying to make it up to God.
But if my friend asks me why I choose to wear only one-pieces, how should I respond? What should I say? Should I not say anything about it at all and just try to neutrally skirt around the topic? I don’t want to come across as preachy (the whole “a prophet is never accepted in his own native place” comes to mind) but I don’t want to sound as if I’m backing down either. Should I even go there?
And while we’re at it, if you could all pray for me that I not give in to the sin and temptation to buy and wear a bikini, I’d really appreciate it. I feel so tempted to give in, especially with every other girl at my age doing it and getting all this attention. I know it’s negative attention and I deep down don’t want that, but it’s so hard, especially when even your “Christian” girl friends wear bikinis with absolutely no conviction. Modesty is so hard in this culture, and although I don’t take it to the extremes of the Amish or have legalistic guidelines for myself, it’s such a struggle. Please pray that I don’t get discouraged about all this.
But if my friend asks me why I choose to wear only one-pieces, how should I respond? What should I say? Should I not say anything about it at all and just try to neutrally skirt around the topic? I don’t want to come across as preachy (the whole “a prophet is never accepted in his own native place” comes to mind) but I don’t want to sound as if I’m backing down either. Should I even go there?
And while we’re at it, if you could all pray for me that I not give in to the sin and temptation to buy and wear a bikini, I’d really appreciate it. I feel so tempted to give in, especially with every other girl at my age doing it and getting all this attention. I know it’s negative attention and I deep down don’t want that, but it’s so hard, especially when even your “Christian” girl friends wear bikinis with absolutely no conviction. Modesty is so hard in this culture, and although I don’t take it to the extremes of the Amish or have legalistic guidelines for myself, it’s such a struggle. Please pray that I don’t get discouraged about all this.
) Bless you for doing so and do not be discouraged…God SEES THIS and understands the sacrifice. Stay true to the Truth and do NOT, I repeat NOT be tempted to give in to the evil one that is trying to make you justify your convictions!!!