How to explain modesty and swimwear to a friend?

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Kelfa28 said:
I’ve become a fan of the tankini.

Not so much for modesty purposes but having 2 kids and being pregnant with number 3 has basically limited my choices in swimwear.

I just don’t have the same figure I had in my mid-twenties anymore. 🙂

I dunno…I still really enjoy bikinis and would probably still wear one if I had the figure to do so. I’d probably pair it with a sarong or a skirt.

My :twocents: and I shall quickly depart from this thread before the stones start wizzing by my ears.
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It’s really nice to be able to purchase the top and the bottom separately to be able to match our particular needs in each area.

Also, a two piece is more convenient for bathroom-going.
 
Xantippe said:
It’s really nice to be able to purchase the top and the bottom separately to be able to match our particular needs in each area.

Also, a two piece is more convenient for bathroom-going.
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YES.

I had to buy a maternity swimsuit for the first time ever this year and elected to get a tankini-style two piece. Since pregnant ladies tend to go more often, the thought did cross my mind that even if I’m making more frequent trips, at least they will be easier!
 
Xantippe said:
It’s really nice to be able to purchase the top and the bottom separately to be able to match our particular needs in each area.
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Definitely! I don’t think I’ve been able to find a one-piece that fits me since I was like 14. Even when our church group required one-pieces, I had to wear swim shorts over a one-piece to be decent while meeting the dress code. Hated it too.
 
I tried a two-piece swimsuit for the first time in over a decade. It was a tankini top with a modest, skirted bottom. I was pleased at first. It fit nicely, as I could get the pieces in different sizes. It was cheap and I could easily use the bathroom. Once I got in the water, it was a whole other story. The darn top would not stay in place no matter what I did. I have to hold it down with one hand while I swim. This year, I’m back to one pieces.
 
Tell her you don’t like the huge scar you have from the c-section you had when you were 13. Be sure to take a picture of her expression. LOL.👍👍
 
Allegra said:
I tried a two-piece swimsuit for the first time in over a decade. It was a tankini top with a modest, skirted bottom. I was pleased at first. It fit nicely, as I could get the pieces in different sizes. It was cheap and I could easily use the bathroom. Once I got in the water, it was a whole other story. The darn top would not stay in place no matter what I did. I have to hold it down with one hand while I swim. This year, I’m back to one pieces.
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I’ve considered making my own one-piece out of a tankini and swim shorts, to fix that problem while still being able to breathe.
 
DarkLight said:
I’ve considered making my own one-piece out of a tankini and swim shorts, to fix that problem while still being able to breathe.
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It should be possible to have some sort of attachment system that would deal with the balloon up issue.

I’m mainly a water park swimsuit wearer (rather than a pool swimmer), so the ballooning effect is usually not a problem.
 
Xantippe said:
It should be possible to have some sort of attachment system that would deal with the balloon up issue.

I’m mainly a water park swimsuit wearer (rather than a pool swimmer), so the ballooning effect is usually not a problem.
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A few strategic snaps would probably be the simplest solution.
 
Obsidion:

As a guy who was on some swim teams as a kid, here are a few pointers:
  1. I’m sure you can find a good one-piece that is modest and stylish. My mother was a swimming teacher most of her life (I remember her saying years ago that she never taught swimming lessons in a bikini - no need to elaborate) and I do happen to remember that she would buy suits at the end of the season and save them for the next year. That saved her quite a bit of money. I don’t why I remember this, but when I was about 12 or 13 I remember her saying that she preferred to buy one piece suits with a built-in bra.
  2. I would stay away from the Speedo brand - even the one piece suits for females. When a girl has been in the pool for a long period of time (or the beach), I think you will figure out why I am mentioning this tip.
  3. I don’t know why I remember this, but thinking back to my time as a kid, I seem to recall that my mother would never wear a bikini to a public pool or the beach. Now at a private pool, like our backyard pool, she would sometimes wear a bikini, but in a public place, never.
  4. If you are planning on doing any diving, a good one piece is better suited for this task.
Obsidion, I hope this helps and it doesn’t sound too weird.

P.S. For men, board shorts are becoming common. I sometimes wear them myself, and they are modest. I think the old “Birdwell Beach Britches” are making a comeback - they were really in when I was kid in the early 1980’s. My mother told me if I wanted a pair, I had to buy them, and they were expensive.
 
Giggly_Giraffe said:
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Pair with a great boarder short and your set to have fun in the waster: from water parks, to slip and slide in the city, to the beach, through the white water rapids of the rivers, or a casual water gun fight with your besties.

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I wasn’t certain what a rash-guard was?? glad to have come upon this post…
thanks:)
 
I used to life guard at both beaches and pools and I taught a lot of swim lessons for all ages, including coaching the local Y swim team.

I wore Speedo one pieces for swim lessons and never had an issue with anything. I’d be in the pool for hours and then have to sit in a chair and guard and then be back in the pool for several more hours.
As long as I took good care of them I wouldn’t have any issue. I also knew some swim teachers that would double up suits that were wearing down after years of use.

When I worked at the beaches, you’d be in a chair for 8 hours a day. I hated wearing one piece suits and avoided them at all costs.
One was a bathroom issue. Another was a general comfort issue.

So I would wear red two-piece suits with a sports-bra like top (for a sens of modesty and professionalism and comfort) and shorts for the bottom.

We’d wear t-shirts if the weather wasn’t too hot but that mid-day sun meant you were baking and off the shirt would go.

Rash guards are very nice and I’d recommend them.

I didn’t use them as a guard though. Too hot and uncomfortable after so many hours.
 
I just bought my first one-piece suit in about 6 years last summer. It is the cutest, most flattering, most fun swimsuit I have ever had-and that’s why I bought it. I have gotten a lot of use out it, and so far no one has said anything. And if anyone asked me why I was wearing a one piece, I’d give them a dirty look and ask if they often give strangers a hard time about not showing more skin.

If a friend asked, I’d say I got it because I really liked it. If I got it for modesty reasons and a friend asked, I’d probably just say “Oh I don’t think the world is ready to see that much of BEL just yet” in a playful tone. If I got it for modesty reasons and wanted to share that with people, I’d say “As I’ve gotten older and more active in my faith, modesty has become more important to me”. If your friend gives you a hard time for it, explain that this is important to you and you expect your friends to be supportive. Quite frankly, anyone who gives you a hard time about what your wearing and/or your religion is not a good friend to you anyway.
 
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