How to feel unimportant, not special and humble?

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How do I do this? The “gift” of humility doesn’t come too easy for me; as I am a centre-of-attention type person that has this “urge” to always feel important.

I currently have the litany of humility in my prayer regimen, but aside from prayer, can anybody recommend any “active steps” ?

You don’t have to be detailed. Point form will be more appreciated.
 
To develop oneself in humility one may consider following practices:
  • Devotion to Our Lady who was very humble
  • Contemplating frequently the humiliating Passion of Our Lord
  • Frequent and thorough Confession
  • Letting others go first by voluntarily being the last in the Communion line, bus lines and shop lines
  • Concealing and keeping discreet about good works one has performed
  • Apologizing smallest faults and avoiding defending oneself
  • Kissing the floor in honor of Our Lady
  • Accepting the lowliest household chores
  • Forgiving all your enemies and praying for people who have demeaned you
  • Reading about the humility of the Saints
 
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To develop oneself in humility one may consider following practices:
  • Devotion to Our Lady who was very humble
  • Contemplating frequently the humiliating Passion of Our Lord
  • Frequent and thorough Confession
  • Letting others go first by voluntarily being the last in the Communion line, bus lines and shop lines
  • Concealing and keeping discreet about good works one has performed
  • Apologizing smallest faults and avoiding defending oneself
  • Kissing the floor in honor of Our Lady
  • Accepting the lowliest household chores
  • Forgiving all your enemies and praying for people who have demeaned you
  • Reading about the humility of the Saints
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I will add that it’s important to watch out for yourself. There are people who target the meek and humble.

But to answer your question: remember to always live your life with joy.

If you’re looking for a model of humility, I suggest watching John Paul I’s speeches.
 
TemplarKnight1 said:
How do I do this? The “gift” of humility doesn’t come too easy for me; as I am a centre-of-attention type person that has this “urge” to always feel important.

I currently have the litany of humility in my prayer regimen, but aside from prayer, can anybody recommend any “active steps” ?

You don’t have to be detailed. Point form will be more appreciated.
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Humility,firstly,is not putting one’s self down or knowing you are gifted,but denying the fact that you are.Humility is simply accepting one’s worth.If you are attractive,intelligent,a great singer,artist,etc,admit that you are,but recognize that this comes from God.And it’s only because of Him that you possess such qualities.

When God chose our Lady to be His mother,she did not deny the fact that she possessed such humility,that was so pleasing to God,but did acknowledge any good in her came from Him - "Behold the handmaid of the Lord.Be it done unto me according to thy word."See yourself through the eyes of God,this will surely prompt you to insignificance;in comparison(to Him)we are but mere dust in the wind…

God bless,

JMJ
 
We are like a pencil in God’s hand. He does the thinking, He does the writing. The pencil has nothing to do with it. The pencil has only to be allowed to be used.–Mother Theresa

When Mother Theresa won the Nobel prize, she dedicated the prize not to her work. Sshe dedicated it to the poorest of the poor as a homage to them, so that the existence of the poor would be recognised. She took no credit for herself. She instructs to take our eyes away from ourselves, to serve and love the outcasts of society, to love until it hurts, to give until it hurts. A truly humble person is not affected by praise or disgrace becuse you know who you are in Christ.
 
Patience and practice are what I believe works and I have had the same problem throughout my life. There is a fine line between being confident and grateful for the blessings God has given you and being humble for these gifts. Whenever you fail, put it behind you and try better the next time, when you are around people try very hard to listen as others talk and focus on what they are saying not how you have done it before or had the same experience. Find a way to say something in every conversation that shows you have listened to what others are saying to you. It will get easier and easier with practice, try it!
 
Self-knowledge is part of spiritual growth and those who fail to learn and grow their true selves, fail in their spiritual journey.

Seeking to be the center of attention is the ego driving your emotions. The ego is developed over our youthful years, and it’s good to look back and understand how that happened, in order to let go, forgive and move on.

Humility begins with accepting your true self, and destroying the false masks the ego has created.

Of course, to know yourself you need to know God, because as soon as we think about God, we are also aware of our naked true self in his presence. We should seek to grow in faith, which will help us become the person that God intended when He created us.

Also, try to become aware of your thoughts, and to let go of thoughts which are self-serving. Learn to live in the present, where God is. The ego is weakened in the present, but becomes strong by dwelling on the past or looking to the future. The ego, tries to justify itself by the actions you took in the past, but also tries to create an image of self through the imagination.

In the present moment, the ego has little power. The present is where God is. God has no time, but is in the present.

Of course prayer is the source for building a relationship with Jesus Christ, who alone knows your inner-self.

Jim
 
Fasting from things, food or situations.
Service to others
Daily examen and regular confession
 
The best way to feel unimportant, not special, and humble is to take on a truly difficult task and do it anonymously so that you get no thanks or recognition for it. You will wish that someone knew it was you and you will feel like you should be thanked for it. But when no one knows it was you and you don’t get thanked for it, you realize that the important thing is not that YOU did it, but that the task needing to be completed was done.
 
TemplarKnight1 said:
How do I do this? The “gift” of humility doesn’t come too easy for me; as I am a centre-of-attention type person that has this “urge” to always feel important.

I currently have the litany of humility in my prayer regimen, but aside from prayer, can anybody recommend any “active steps” ?

You don’t have to be detailed. Point form will be more appreciated.
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In regards to being the center of attention, I would recommend speaking less and listening more. This works mountains of wonders.
 
TemplarKnight1 said:
How do I do this? The “gift” of humility doesn’t come too easy for me; as I am a centre-of-attention type person that has this “urge” to always feel important.

I currently have the litany of humility in my prayer regimen, but aside from prayer, can anybody recommend any “active steps” ?

You don’t have to be detailed. Point form will be more appreciated.
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Become homeless. Your life will be miserable but what’s 50-60 years of misery compared to the glory of Heaven?
 
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