How to find a lovely catholic girl?

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I only ever find women that do not believe in God or don’t go to Church. Personally, I don’t go there often because I do not have a car as I am very poor financially. Also, I am not a fan of internet dating, so what other possibilities are there for me to find a nice, loyal, obedient catholic girl? I am more on the traditional side and most people would describe me as handsome. But why am I not finding someone? Where do I need to look?
 
If I want to catch Pacific Salmon, I do not go fishing in Lake Michigan.

If you want to date faithful, Catholic women you:

Be a faithful, Catholic man

Go to where the other Catholics are (that means mass, parish events, Diocesan events, etc.) You will find that most of these events have no cost to attend. You will meet faithful Catholic people who have faithful Catholic daughters, sisters, cousins, nieces, granddaughters.

Obedient? Good luck with that.
 
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But why am I not finding someone?
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You don’t have a car to even go to Mass, and don’t want to try online dating. Is that correct? Do you get out at all? Obviously, lovely Catholic girls aren’t going to just show up at your doorstep. 😉

In all seriousness, though, if you want something to happen in your life that has never happened before, you’re going to have to do something you’ve never done before. Maybe that means giving online dating a try.

TheLittleLady gave great advice, too. You have to go to where the Catholic girls are. You cannot expect them to just fall from the sky into your lap. That might mean you have to make personal sacrifices in order to get to those places. So you will have to decide how much effort you want to put into it.
 
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If you are wanting a traditional Catholic lady, she’s likely going to want to be a housewife
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Seriously?

While women do want to marry an adult who has their stuff together, to say that we traditional Catholic ladies want to be housewives is rather sweeping. I am a very traditional, working Catholic wife. I know hundreds of others just like me!
 
And this is exactly the problem.
Being labeled a “feminist Catholic” just because I don’t want to be a SAHM with a gaggle of kids!
This is why any one who claims to be a “traditional Catholic” is highly suspect in my book.
 
How to find a lovely Catholic girl?

I don’t know, I haven’t found one either.

Of course, I also haven’t been looking. :crazy_face:

I’ve heard plenty of success stories about online dating though. I know it might be hard for you, but you might want to give it a go. Otherwise, just go to Church functions. There should be lovely Catholic ladies there.
 
Well, my Mother was a SAHM. She homeschooled all five of us kids and everything worked out fine. Some people talk about it rather disparagingly; however, I believe it’s a wonderful vocation 😊 Granted, my father made enough money to keep everything afloat. So, economics is a major factor in whether one works inside the house. 🏡
 
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If you are married without access to contraception a gaggle of kids is the usual result. 😃 It could just be that marriage and the passel brats that accompany said relationship just isn’t your vocation. But entering into a Catholic marriage with the intention of trying to accomplish the impossible of controlling your fertility is a recipe for disaster.
 
Women generally (and this will be even more true for trad women) want a man who is both financially and mentally capable of taking care of them. I think you should focus on getting in a better position financially and working on your self-confidence before trying to find a wife.
 
Of course, the OP asked a serious question, but what happened next is a series of post denigrating housewives or traditionally minded people. Predictable here on CAF
 
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Yahh…no. you marry a grown woman, not a child. If you don’t want to go for a strange BDSM like role play relationship there is really no need to make the laundry obedient.

Grow Up, leave obedience to whom it belongs: the Lord.
 
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I sure do hope that you are not saying that my use of the term housewife is derogatory. It is only now that millennials use th term sahm, or even the older generation. My mom’s generation used housewife. Nothing wrong or patronizing about that, it is just a term. Maybe it has to do with cultural differences or which country you are from. From where I am, housewife is the term. And as I said in my previous post, I hate it when people, especially other women, look down on moms who don’t work. My mom is a houswife, I am an aspiring housewife (or SAHM) when I get married, if circumstances permit it.
 
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OP, you are a college student so you are supposed to be poor. Start now doing the things that your future wife and your future kids want you to do for them. I’m not really with you on the “obedience” thing, but how about you shoot for respect instead? Do what you need to do now so that you can make a good living for the wife that God has chosen for you, whoever she is. If you wait for the woman God wants you to have, you will get her respect by being a good and faithful husband and provider.

In the meantime, take it easy. It’s way too early to get stressed about not being able to find a wife yet. Pray every day for your future wife now, that God might fulfill every bit of his plan for her, and one day you will meet her in person.
 
There’s a lot of virtue-signaling going on in this thread. If you really must try to look good to others by disagreeing with the Church’s teaching on spousal obedience, could you not at least find an outlet for that other than a thread where a person is asking for advice. I doubt the OP wanted to have a debate.
 
There’s no way to tell where you need to look because even going to church does not guarantee you will meet someone. You need to try something though. Unfortunately, without a car how will you get around to meet women? How will you take a girl on a date? Seems to me that your best bet would be finding a girl through friends who know people. Do you have friends who are practicing Catholics?

Nobody is really a fan of internet dating but if that is your only option, it’s your only option. It took me almost 5 years before I became a item with my girlfriend who I met from Catholicmatch. So, internet dating can work. The thing is you need money to pay to use a site and then more money to take a girl on a date. And you will be rejected 90% of the time if not more so you need the stomach to handle that. Only “bad boys” get away with being broke, unemployed and no car in the dating world. So, although it may take a long time, I think you need to focus more on becoming financially stable. I know it’s hard, believe me, I use to have to save money from three weeks of pay to be able to take a girl on a date. I was so lonely and frustrated with never meeting girls at church or any other ministry I became involved with but sometimes it takes a lot of time. All you can do is work on yourself while you are single and make a attempt to date instead of waiting around for something to happen. But, having a car and money helps a lot.

Also, you need to go to Mass. Traditional Catholic who does not go to Mass every week? Come on, man. Not to be harsh but come on. And you want a traditional Catholic girl? That’s like a 400 pound man wanting a fitness model. Think about it.
 
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