How to find a lovely catholic girl?

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Not sure why. I would second Joe_5859 sage advice. A Newman club would be a good place to start.

Also, get your house in order… if you are looking for that lovely lady with strong Catholic values, not going to church consistently isn’t going to win any points. Handsome has some, but limited value… it’s what’s in the heart that counts far more.
 
I hope that you do meet a nice catholic girl in the near future DL ,keep the good self talk going and perhaps do something extra during lent maybe some charity work if you could.It could be a good place to meet kind hearted people.
Will keep you in my prayers,God bless.
 
No Father, it’s not just you. It happens a lot. The OP’s question or dilemma is forgotten because a couple of keyboard warriors start right fighting. I wish we still had the Ignore function.
 
I am not from the US. University in Europe is quite a bit different and I am pretty sure that there is no such club here …
 
I am sure that one of these groups could provide you information on your nearest young adult group:

cymfed.org.uk

CYMFed – Catholic Youth Ministry Federation

CYMFed seeks to shape and support Catholic youth ministry. CYMFed members work together to deliver a shared vision for youth ministry, offer training and support and share best practice for the benefit of young people across England and Wales. Find out more
cymfed.org.uk cymfed.org.uk

http://catholicgapyear.co.uk/
 
I don’t always agree with people’s methods of debating; however, I feel more than capable to hold my own. :man_shrugging:t2:

I’ll be honest, this is an Internet Forum not a structured debate platform. It really doesn’t bother me much. Once there’s NO breakthrough in a debate, I make my closing remark and leave.
 
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I referenced you because of your postnº50 in this thread. You, I and others were commenting on the subject of aggression on CAF. Only reason.

Well, I like to have a conversation and being the subject of personal attacks (or slander) does hinder the ability to chat with CAF friends and acquaintances.

I thought it noteworthy (I was quite surprised at realizing) that certain folks have the attitudes that I attempted to address. Because it is misleading to think you are talking to Catholics, people of good faith and intention, just because they are on CAF. And I have been fooled more than once in a conversation with what seems like unfair trickery from some.
 
Yeah, sometimes it’s better to just walk away. It’s hard sometimes 😐 Some Threads I call Traps! They’re created to get everyone upset.
 
I know those threads…The problem is when you are going about your chatting and the same user(s) consistently come after you. Then you might need to take an attitude to dissuade continuation. And when that same user has a track record of hundreds of posts full of sarcasm and aggression, then you might as well publicly classify his conduct - if there is no other way.
 
TheLittleLady said:
Yet, Casti Connubill is an encyclical. It expresses the opinions of a pope on a matter, it is not doctrine.
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It also contains some stuff that is contrary to the idea of 100% wifely obedience:

"27. This subjection, however, does not deny or take away the liberty which fully belongs to the woman both in view of her dignity as a human person, and in view of her most noble office as wife and mother and companion; nor does it bid her obey her husband’s every request if not in harmony with right reason or with the dignity due to wife; nor, in fine, does it imply that the wife should be put on a level with those persons who in law are called minors, to whom it is not customary to allow free exercise of their rights on account of their lack of mature judgment, or of their ignorance of human affairs. But it forbids that exaggerated liberty which cares not for the good of the family; it forbids that in this body which is the family, the heart be separated from the head to the great detriment of the whole body and the proximate danger of ruin. For if the man is the head, the woman is the heart, and as he occupies the chief place in ruling, so she may and ought to claim for herself the chief place in love.

“28. Again, this subjection of wife to husband in its degree and manner may vary according to the different conditions of persons, place and time. In fact, if the husband neglect his duty, it falls to the wife to take his place in directing the family. But the structure of the family and its fundamental law, established and confirmed by God, must always and everywhere be maintained intact .”

So, 100% wifely obedience is not Catholic and not supported by church documents.
 
I think you are wrong, and I’m going to go get three close allies to contest this position of yours, unless you don’t argue back. If that happens, we will just have to call that a wash and move on to the next opportunity.
 
Talitha’s advice is spot-on. Speaking as a single Catholic girl, I’ll also add that you should look at chapter 13 of 1 Corinthians, specifically verses 4-8:
Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, [love] is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
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Replace “love” with your own name. If you find that it doesn’t describe you, change something. I check myself with that verse every once in a while and use it when determining whether I should pursue someone as a romantic partner or not.
 
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A bit late, but still apropos, especially after the dreaded “o-word” was mentioned.

This whole conversation makes me think of the story of Job.

Minor Demon: Boss, I’m confused. We destroyed Job’s property, murdered his sons and daughters, and ruined his health, but we left his wife alive, why!!!

Satan: Trust me, I know what I’m doing.
 
hi,

It could be the right time to shearch a women, but not the time to marry yet.

First, If you want to find a catholic woman, you have to have catholics hobbies, catholic mass all weeks, and catholics friends.

You are probably not the only catholic student in your university.
It’s possible to do carpoling?
Phone or take information at your local parish, or a parish with youngsters.

You have to grow in your spiritual life if you want to attract catholics women.

And if you want a housewife obedient to you, you will need to have the ways to support her.
You could do with a low income, if you are carefully, but It would be hard, and a sacrifice.
 
I’m in Europe too.

What contry are you from?

Perhaps you are not in a place where there is much catholics but the distance are shorter than in US, so It could be easier to move to go to catholics events?

You don’t have to be depressed now, you are young and have some times to find a spouse.
 
For the most part, those types of discussions are not perpetuated by a he, but shes.
 
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Would you share how the concept of submission in marriage works out in the day to day with your own wife? Since the OP himself mentioned an obedient wife and confirmed that the obedience would be to him and God, it would be helpful for him to understand how this plays out in real life with real examples. You have posted on multiple threads about wives being submissive, so it would be nice to see how that works in your own marriage and would likely be very helpful for this young man to read about real marriage examples, as many seem to have a skewed idea of what submission actually is.
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I’m actually not married. I leave it to those who are to explain how this should work in practice, my purpose in this thread was (originally anyway) to counter those who were attacking the OP for agreeing with this doctrine (and wanting a wife who also agreed with it).
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So, 100% wifely obedience is not Catholic and not supported by church documents.
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No one, on this thread anyway, has claimed that it is. On the other hand, some posters have held that obedience has no place in marriage, or that the duties of husband and wife are equivalent. That is the reason why I’ve emphasized obedience and not its limits, because only the former is challenged.
 
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