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I joined my parish’s Worship Committee a few months ago because the pastor did some things at Mass that went against the norms, and I wanted to gently persuade him to “stick with the book.” I can share a few suggestions for anyone else who attends a parish where some of these things go on.
First, don’t assume that the pastor purposely deviates from the prescribed actions or words on purpose to be disobedient. Usually, they choose a certain deviation because they think it is more “meaningful” or they might be trying to avoid what they consider to be sexist language.
Here’s two specific instances where I and another member of the Committee were able to gently sway the pastor without being accusatory:
Ever since he arrived at the parish, the priest would have the Extraordinary Ministers of HC (of course, at our small parish they are used at each Mass; sigh) come up and he would first distribute Communion to them. Each of them would hold the host, and then Father and all the EMHCs would consume together. This is clearly prohibited – particularly in Redemptiononis Sacramentum – but I knew that if I pointed this out to him I would be labeled as “legalistic.” So I took a different approach: I pointed out that to distribute to the EMHCs in this way took away their right to receive Communion on the tongue (since they had to wait for everyone else). He thought for a moment, and said “Well, I suppose that’s a good point…” Sure enough, a couple weeks later I noticed that he had stopped the practice. I had appealed to his “progressive” side by claiming that someone’s rights were being taken away!
The second instance is when he suggested that we not purchase missalettes anymore, because he claims that the Scriptures are to be proclaimed and heard, and if each person has his head buried in the missalette, then the sense of “community” is broken. From earlier discussions, I was pretty certain that his real reason was that he is itching to use the Canadian lectionary for the readings, since those readings have more gender-neutral language, and no missalettes would mean that no one is wise to this move (yes, we live in the US, not Canada!).
My wife is a teacher, and I spoke up – saying that while the “hearing” of God’s word is the ideal, any educator can tell you that people absorb material differently. The memory retention of something that is read is usually better than if it is only heard. Plus, the lectors do not always annunciate properly. After I said this, the suggestion has faded away and we still have the missalettes!
If you see things in your parish that are off base, I encourage you to join the Worship Committee and work under the radar. Does anyone else have similar success stories?
First, don’t assume that the pastor purposely deviates from the prescribed actions or words on purpose to be disobedient. Usually, they choose a certain deviation because they think it is more “meaningful” or they might be trying to avoid what they consider to be sexist language.
Here’s two specific instances where I and another member of the Committee were able to gently sway the pastor without being accusatory:
Ever since he arrived at the parish, the priest would have the Extraordinary Ministers of HC (of course, at our small parish they are used at each Mass; sigh) come up and he would first distribute Communion to them. Each of them would hold the host, and then Father and all the EMHCs would consume together. This is clearly prohibited – particularly in Redemptiononis Sacramentum – but I knew that if I pointed this out to him I would be labeled as “legalistic.” So I took a different approach: I pointed out that to distribute to the EMHCs in this way took away their right to receive Communion on the tongue (since they had to wait for everyone else). He thought for a moment, and said “Well, I suppose that’s a good point…” Sure enough, a couple weeks later I noticed that he had stopped the practice. I had appealed to his “progressive” side by claiming that someone’s rights were being taken away!
The second instance is when he suggested that we not purchase missalettes anymore, because he claims that the Scriptures are to be proclaimed and heard, and if each person has his head buried in the missalette, then the sense of “community” is broken. From earlier discussions, I was pretty certain that his real reason was that he is itching to use the Canadian lectionary for the readings, since those readings have more gender-neutral language, and no missalettes would mean that no one is wise to this move (yes, we live in the US, not Canada!).
My wife is a teacher, and I spoke up – saying that while the “hearing” of God’s word is the ideal, any educator can tell you that people absorb material differently. The memory retention of something that is read is usually better than if it is only heard. Plus, the lectors do not always annunciate properly. After I said this, the suggestion has faded away and we still have the missalettes!
If you see things in your parish that are off base, I encourage you to join the Worship Committee and work under the radar. Does anyone else have similar success stories?