I wonder about this too. I’m a 27-year-old girl, and I’ve never dated either. (Yet, I’m hesitant to even mention this, because it seems so unusual!!) Do people consider it strange when you hit a certain age without dating experience??
They do, but that should not make you feel worse. Let me tell you something: dating experience is
not prerequisite to anything. Dating experience exists because we have limited faculties in judging our relationships, because we change and “outgrow” certain relationships, and because of other factors. Secular people will sometimes say they don’t want virgins because virgins don’t know how to have sex. Thinking that people without dating experience are somehow second-rate is akin to that line of thinking.
If a guy becomes hesitant after hearing you don’t really have any experience, that may be for two reasons: he may fear to hurt you or he may think you’re weird. If the latter is true, skip him right away.
I’ve been a member of some of the Catholic dating sites for a couple years; nothing so far. I’m going to a “Catholic” college, but, unfortunately, there are few Catholic students in it (and even fewer practicing!!) I joined a large (for this area) parish, but there just
aren’t a lot of young people in Vermont!! I’ve never seen a single man in my parish that was under the age of 80.
I’m running out of ideas, lol.
I live in a Catholic country. 90% of the people are baptised Catholic, of the rest some are Orthodox or Protestant. However, much fewer people are practising and I suppose that perhaps of the practising ones, some “disagree” with certain teachings. Can you believe how hard it is for me to find someone? I’m not ugly or anything. According to my office roommate, half my law firm would die to go on a date… except it never comes to reality in practise and except I just am not going to make moves on a secular girl with whom I already know my values and my ways of thinking with clash.
Another thing is that most Catholics here are politically liberal. That means they vote for the lib party, not the “true” liberals (in the real sense) who are actually few. That party is something I consider dangerous to our country and I believe PR and empty promises are something they know better than real actual work that brings results. And I can’t accept their actions or words, as they don’t meet my standards of honesty. People who support that party (under 40% nationwide, but much higher in big cities - and mine is the capital) seem misguided to me, to the point I’d hardly be able to overcome my philosophical differences with them and I generally doubt their ability to think on their own, as I see them as being under the lib party’s spell. I once went through a lot of profiles on a dating site and I saw only two women with “conservative” as their political views and one with “moderate”. Everyone else “liberal” to “very liberal”. Again, that wouldn’t be so bad unless it inevitably translated to supporting the PR-heavy work-light lib party, which it unfortunately most probably does.
And now consider that there must be something special between people, some spark to catch fire, so it’s not enough that you align religiously and philosophically and are able to respect the other’s political views. There must be some attraction, some connection…
All in all, seeing many pretty girls the right age, exchanging smiles and short conversations with some of them every day, I still can’t really think of anyone… In fact, given what I see, I am beginning to doubt that “one” exists.
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