How to proceed when CAF makes you angry, frustrated, or disgusted?

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How do you handle this?

When people, especially fellow Catholics, frustrate and anger you, how do you make sure it doesn’t scandalize your faith? How do you make sure you’re aren’t led into sin?

What are some practical tips?

Any personal experiences?
 
I heard a homily a while back that said when people annoy or upset you, it is God’s way of telling you they need your prayers, so pray for them.

Also, it’s the Internet…if you can’t let stuff roll off or hit the “mute” button and forget it, it’s time to take a break and go walk in the sunshine.
 
CAF, like anything, can get to you. When that happens walk away, and stay away long enough to be meaningful.

Anger on the internet is not good for the health of the body or the soul.
 
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How do you handle this?

When people, especially fellow Catholics, frustrate and anger you, how do you make sure it doesn’t scandalize your faith? How do you make sure you’re aren’t led into sin?

What are some practical tips?
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Take a break. There is life outside CAF. I promise. 😁
 
I would reflect to make sure it is not you that might have the problem. Many today do not like to hear the Truth or an opinion that differs from theirs.
 
I would reflect to make sure it is not you that might have the problem.
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Kind of a counter-productive post of the sort I’m talking about 😉
 
Don’t take it so seriously. You are encountering people here you might not spend 5 minutes with if you met them in person. Be able to walk away. If you cant do that you shouldn’t be here at all.
 
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How do you handle this?

When people, especially fellow Catholics, frustrate and anger you, how do you make sure it doesn’t scandalize your faith? How do you make sure you’re aren’t led into sin?

What are some practical tips?

Any personal experiences?
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Are you speaking of someone breaking the forum rules or being openly confrontational or doing something disrespectful? Or are you talking about a personality or way of expressing oneself that annoys you?
 
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Go on vacation from CAF, that’s how. Just give it a rest for a few hours, days or months. Do something else with the time you would have spent here getting angry, frustrated or disgusted. People that give up CAF for Lent often return with a new or different perspective.
 
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Self reflection is certainly productive if you are honest with yourself. Nobody can make you angry. This forum has many liberals & dissenters that could scandalize faithful Catholics. The scandalizers would be accountable for the scandal but the faithful Catholic would be accountable for their anger. Of course we use the Spiritual Works of Mercy to correct error but it should not make us angry. And there is such a thing as righteous anger but that is more like a cry to God. A time away from the forum to self reflect might be just what you need.
 
This forum has many liberals & dissenters that could scandalize faithful Catholics.
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Hmmm, I wouldn’t point my finger at the “liberals.” I mean, many of the “dissenters” are just as respectful on here as anyone else. I’m mainly talking about disrespectful attitudes and the like — which can also be expressed by the self-righteous orthodox as much as the liberal dissenters.
 
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I sense that this Thread will be locked 🔒 as that seems to be the trend now.

Honestly, this place has never made me angry. Perhaps temporarily frustrated but that’s it.
 
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Most people here agree with you that walking away is best, but I wonder if an alternative is equally as good. How about confronting the person gently and respectfully? Tell the person why what he or she is saying annoys you and give him or her a chance to learn from the experience and make a change?

I mean, think of the alternative: If everyone who gets annoyed walks away, won’t the only people left on the forum be the annoying ones? Who then would want to come to the forum when all they meet are annoying people who care nothing about encouraging others and helping hem learn? Also, what would visitors seeking the truth about Catholicism think of Catholics if everyone they met here was annoying and unhelpful, because all the encouraging and helpful Catholics were taking a break?

Years ago I came here to debate, when debate was more tollerated. While debating, I met some incredibly patient, kind and helpful Catholics whose actions impressed me even more than the truth of their words. How they treated me had a lasting effect on me, and opened my eyes to the possibility that I wasn’t as right about things as I thought.

Just a thought…
 
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I did say we should perform the Spiritual Works of Mercy to correct the liberals and dissenters. That is for their benefit not ours. When I suggested a time of self reflection away from the forum I was referring to the op’s anger issues. The op is accountable for his anger and a time of self reflection away from the forum is for her/his benefit. Also the anger could be caused just because she/he doesn’t like what is being said even if it is said charitably in truth.
 
Just remember that everyone on this forum is a complete jerk except for myself, of course, and two other people. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be. This general rule can be applied to the population at large, also. Always keep your expectations low, and you’ll never be disappointed! :crazy_face:
 
I struggled with these same feelings when I first started CAF. There are time you really have to pick and choose what you will respond to, especially when the thread turns into a back and forth between a few posters. I also find it best if I can post early in the thread, before it gets out of hand. I try not to post multiple times on the same thread unless it is for encouragement. For the thread I suspect a troll - just ignore.
 
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