We use the term “apostolate”
. It has been an interesting experience in figuring out what to say or not say on the subject. My DH and I have always used NFP but I don’t know that my own children totally realized that a since it isn’t a conversation topic we’ve had with them but we also didn’t “hide it”. I tried not to nag about getting to the class earlier rather than later as required by our archdiocese so if they chose to use this, they would have some charting experience before marriage. She asked my opinion about the different NFP methods in choosing which one to attend. I do know my future son in law says he wants 10 kids!!!And the thread goes ever on.Thank you everyone for your replies!
I would appreciate if no more replies were made since my initial question has been answered. Thank you for your time!
That right there is scary.
Amen!
That’s my thought as well.
In fairness to the OP, she already said that she and her fiance spoke with a priest. I think it likely that he would bring up any of the concerns that we are able to come up with. And he would probably be able to discuss it with them both in a more productive manner than is possible on an anonymous internet forum…That’s my thought as well.
AND…a “catholic” is posting that we Catholics are wrong to advise against it…because the OP did not specifically ask for advice on the marriage."
Wow is right. OK, let’s just turn a blind eye to all people marrying, or Baptizing, or doing anything in “church” with an odd intention because they might be offended.
if the OP were going to worry about US offending, then the question would not have been posed here.
What would one expect from a Catholic site? Certainly not one Catholic accusing another for being unkind when expressing concern. But…you never can tell…
The questions really should be:
How can I and my fiancé thumb our noses at his parents beliefs and still have a wedding?
Privacy is one thing. Deception is quite another.
Correct. Neither is following the faith, so why even bother with the dispensation?
This may be true, but at the same time it is imprudent not to address and make clear the dishonesty and deception involved in this scenario. We should not leave the OP with the impression that what her and her future husband are doing is OK. Future CAF users with a similar inquiry may stumble across this thread and be mislead by the many lenient answers here that disguise themselves as “pastoral”.
You took my quote out of context as I am not one for evangelizing but teaching when asked for.
Actually, no. They may be getting married in the church of Christ building, but they are still going through the process to get married through the catholic church, so it is valid…hence “in the catholic church”… even though its not in the building.
Fair enough.
I said that my comment was not a criticism of you. You do not need to defend yourself.
Catholics are bound to follow canon law with regards to marriage, whether they are “cafeteria” or not. If the groom still self-identifies as Catholic and is willing to do his duty as a Catholic with regards to his marriage, why criticize him for it? If a Catholic is inclined to follow the law, it is not right to persuade them not to do it on the grounds that they don’t follow other laws. If their bishop permits the marriage, who is going to step in and tell him that he’s overstepped his authority?
My mother, sister and sister in laws are really very close but we NEVER discuss our sexual practices. Both my SIL’s are converts and probably contracept since unfortunately most Catholics of our age do. My sister and I don’t discuss that at all and truly, I don’t even wonder. For heavens sake she’s my baby sister and would never have sex (even though she’s 46 and married 21 years).