Husband Flirting With Female Co-Worker

[Serap]

I’d like to admit to something.

there is a man at work that I am attracted to. We are both married with small children. I believe that (if I allowed it) we could have an emotional affair that could lead to a physical affair.

I avoid him b/c I want to stay away from near occassion to sin. If I have coffee or lunch with him, it’s always in a group setting. He is a nice man, but I sense that he’s unhappy in his marriage and he is vulnerable to an affair.

A married person has this responsibility and if they have crossed the line, they need to face the consequences of it. OP’s husband needs to be called on his behaviour asap.

 

[mamaslo]

I’d like to admit to something.

there is a man at work that I am attracted to. We are both married with small children. I believe that (if I allowed it) we could have an emotional affair that could lead to a physical affair.

I avoid him b/c I want to stay away from near occassion to sin. If I have coffee or lunch with him, it’s always in a group setting. He is a nice man, but I sense that he’s unhappy in his marriage and he is vulnerable to an affair.

A married person has this responsibility and if they have crossed the line, they need to face the consequences of it. OP’s husband needs to be called on his behaviour asap.

He might also need a nudge to go get help to fix what he has…you know he could never be any more than a brother. We are to please a higher “person” not just these people who are all mixed up. Focus higher.

We are our brother’s keepers. It wouldn’t be love if you had anything other than a sibling-based friendship. The grass is never greener. We all put our pants on one leg at a time. We all do stupid things. We all say stupid things. Besides his wife has probably done too much work on him and deserves all the progress he has made…as well as your husband deserves all the progress you have made.

I don’t know, sometimes a bit of perspective helps. (((Serap)))

 

[Serap]

He might also need a nudge to go get help to fix what he has…you know he could never be any more than a brother. We are to please a higher “person” not just these people who are all mixed up. Focus higher.

We are our brother’s keepers. It wouldn’t be love if you had anything other than a sibling-based friendship. The grass is never greener. We all put our pants on one leg at a time. We all do stupid things. We all say stupid things. Besides his wife has probably done too much work on him and deserves all the progress he has made…as well as your husband deserves all the progress you have made.

I don’t know, sometimes a bit of perspective helps. (((Serap)))

Yes. He and I have talked about our marriages (not intimately) and I’ve told him that marriage is hard and to hang in there and it will get easier. I am hoping to set an example for him and show him that an affair is not the right thing to do.

 

[styrgwillidar]

Jesus would even agree that adultry includes an emotional affair. It’s just wrong.

Fess up and communicate with your husband. Let him know you’re on to him and you have concerns.

He hasn’t technically cheated yet (I believe), but work romance often begins with an emotional affair. Nip it in the bud.

I will pray for you ! I’m sure he loves you…correct his behaviour before it’s too late.

Actually, he has cheated by the Navy definition. Many a late night discussion on this, what constitutes cheating? Bottom line- anything you know your spouse wouldn’t want you doing is breaking faith with them and cheating.

Long past time for the OP and husband to sit down and hash this out. With all the cards on the table, direct and to the point. What has been happening? Why has it been happening? What are both of you going to do to solve the problem.

Try not to play the blame game, there’s probably more than enough to go around, as human being it’s easy for us to rationalize what we’re doing. It’s not that bad, they should understand, they should accomodate me. Neither of you are mind readers, you need to discuss- as in state your points **and listen **to the other person and try and understand what they’re going through. Love is trying to understand the other person and give them what they truly need, not just what we think they should need or settle for or have.

 

[Pravoslavny]

I dunno I read the first thread. Everybody freaks out and says contact the priest contact the psychologist. Why not just talk directly to the husband about it?