Husband leaving

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Thank you all for your heartfelt prayers and I get relief from just reading your replies. I am continuing to take the high road and my husband now seems to be pushing me even farther away. I emailed him about a date? He said he was seperated now and did not want to date. I was trying humor. Now I am not going to call and pester him, because that is what I feel I am doing. He only half hears me when I speak anyway. My hands are tied no matter what I do. He ignores our 2 children. Doesn’t call them all week since he has been gone for 7 weeks he has seen them a total of maybe 10-12 days. That is including Friday after 4pm. My heart breaks for the feelings that they must have. They miss their dad being a father to them and they let me know with each thought and question they have about Daddy. I love my children so very much and it pains me to see them hurting. The man I married and love seems to have died. I pray that God shows him the proper path back to his family. Thank you all for your suggestions and I greatly appreciate all of your help… I pray for you all. May God bless each and every one of you for sharing yourself with me just as I have shared with you.
Kristen
 
kmc404 said:
Thank you all for your heartfelt prayers and I get relief from just reading your replies. I am continuing to take the high road and my husband now seems to be pushing me even farther away. I emailed him about a date? He said he was seperated now and did not want to date. I was trying humor. Now I am not going to call and pester him, because that is what I feel I am doing. He only half hears me when I speak anyway. My hands are tied no matter what I do. He ignores our 2 children. Doesn’t call them all week since he has been gone for 7 weeks he has seen them a total of maybe 10-12 days. That is including Friday after 4pm. My heart breaks for the feelings that they must have. They miss their dad being a father to them and they let me know with each thought and question they have about Daddy. I love my children so very much and it pains me to see them hurting. The man I married and love seems to have died. I pray that God shows him the proper path back to his family. Thank you all for your suggestions and I greatly appreciate all of your help… I pray for you all. May God bless each and every one of you for sharing yourself with me just as I have shared with you.
Kristen
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Hi Kristen,

I am so sorry to hear this. I will definitely keep you in my prayers. He might be feeling pressure and might just need some space to decompress so please do not give up hope. I would let him make “the first move” on when your next social contact. The kids are a different story, but in terms of him coming over for dinner etc. Let him be the one to ask.

I think it takes men more time to process feelings sometimes, so do not give up hope!

You are in my prayers!

Sincerely,

Maria1212
 
kmc404 said:
Thank you all for your heartfelt prayers and I get relief from just reading your replies. I am continuing to take the high road and my husband now seems to be pushing me even farther away. I emailed him about a date? He said he was seperated now and did not want to date. I was trying humor. Now I am not going to call and pester him, because that is what I feel I am doing. He only half hears me when I speak anyway. My hands are tied no matter what I do. He ignores our 2 children. Doesn’t call them all week since he has been gone for 7 weeks he has seen them a total of maybe 10-12 days. That is including Friday after 4pm. My heart breaks for the feelings that they must have. They miss their dad being a father to them and they let me know with each thought and question they have about Daddy. I love my children so very much and it pains me to see them hurting. The man I married and love seems to have died. I pray that God shows him the proper path back to his family. Thank you all for your suggestions and I greatly appreciate all of your help… I pray for you all. May God bless each and every one of you for sharing yourself with me just as I have shared with you.
Kristen
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I wish your DH would post here, too, so that I could tell him that he needs to make a decision soon before its too late and his DW gets tired of trying to get both back together. 🙂

Keep the faith! 😃
 
Kmc404,
Now is the time to play hard to get. Do not call, do not IM, do not text him. Ignore him and spend the time with your children playing games. Let WEEKS go by before you talk to him. Make the holidays something VERY special and really get into decorating for your kids’ sake. If they see you happy (or at least acting happy), they will probably feel much better.
Remember - you don’t want a man who doesn’t want you. Even if he calls up and whines about how he “can’t make up his mind”, tell him politely that you can’t talk right now, you’re busy. And stay busy!
He’s got everything the way he wants it right now. He has the power over you because you let him have it. Take it back. Don’t talk to him and when you do, sound happy and content. Don’t make time for him. Don’t offer dates - he’s just turning you down and making you BEG for his time. That is bull****! Don’t let him get away with it!
Make HIM be the one to grovel around wanting to come home. Why should he want to come home right now…he’s holding all the cards. I would pursue a separation agreement to make him responsible for the bills and then sit back and refuse to talk to him for a while.
I did this with my husband several years ago and now he treats me like a princess. You can’t let men have it all their way. They’ll lose respect for you.
 
Dear Kristen,

I agree it is good to give your husband space, but I would not puruse a separation agreement unless that is what you want. I think it sends him the wrong signal. Of course, I know you will need to talk about finances etc. and that is okay. But I would not pursue legal separation yourself. I think that would be “playing games.” If that is what you want, it is one thing, But I would not do anything you do not mean. Let your actions mean what you feel. But again, giving him space right now is a good thing. Pursuing activities with your children and keeping busy are excellent suggestions.

We are praying for you!

Sincerely,

Maria1212
 
Thank you all for your continued support and prayer. I intended not to ask my husband about anything, but it is so hard. I want to be with him very much. I don’t want to be cold because that is part of the reason he left in the first place. I have sinned against my husband, I verbally abused him and did not show him the affection that was deep in my heart. I did not have any good role models in marriages. My parents fight like cats and dogs all the time and are not affectionate so I just fed off of that, but I understand now that this does not have to be the case. I understand now how to make this marriage work if my husband would only give us a second chance. This pain sometimes is too much to bear and I thank you sincerely for your words of encouragement. God Bless you all.
Kristen
 
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