Husband wants me to have an abortion

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Honestly this is not the case. I am afraid that he will divorce me and throw me out. I understand there are shelters, but it hurts that I would have to divorce him.
 
:pray:t2:Praying for the safety of you and your child. May God guide you and bless you, in Jesus name, Amen. :pray:t2:
 
That’s such a horrible reason for him to want to divorce you 😦 I really hope it does not come to that but do not ever blame yourself or think you’re making the wrong decision by not getting an abortion
 
call someone, anyone, from you local Knights of Columbus.

They will get you to the resources you need.

For that matter, PM me with contact info and I’ll get them moving out wherever you are.
 
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Abortion crossed my mind when I got pregnant after dating a guy for 4 months. We were arguing and I was worried about what people would think, especially in my local church. Anyway, in the end my conscience would not let me go through with it and now I have the most gorgeous son and we are married (not arguing anymore)! I feel horribly guilty for even contemplating abortion now when I look at him but glad I made oh so the right choice! I hope your husband manages to mellow to the idea. You sound like you are in a better position then I was…
 
God wants you to be a hero, and give the precious gift of life to your child.
Your husband is acting irrationally because he is afraid.

A two-fold response is best:
  1. Go visit your parish priest, ask your husband to go with you.
  2. There are myriad options of assistance for you, the priest will have a local list of pro-life resources.
In the end, perhaps adoption is what is best. Perhaps parenting. You will figure that out in time, with some of the resources I mentioned above.

I am praying for your husband, that he would go with you.

Sometimes God calls us to be saints, even when the timing seems off to us,
Deacon Christopher
 
My prayers for the three of you.

Blessed Mother, please intercede for us.
Hold the sorrowful-
Mother and love the weary, abused, neglected
or forgotten among us-
Give your aid to all needing help or healing-
Assist those who are sick, in pain or suffering-
Be with those needing peace-
Console the lonely or brokenhearted-
Comfort the lost or hopeless-
Strengthen the fearful-
Guard the unborn-
Pray for those who are dying or who have died-
Soften those with hardened hearts-
Enlighten those who do not yet see truth-
Help us be brave enough to let our hurt and anger go-
Show us the way to do the right thing-
Protect those who are in danger, and
Guide us from every evil.
May all who keep your sacred commemoration
experience the might of your assistance.
Amen
 
Is it possible . . . he . . . will let you put the baby up for adoption? Is that what you would consider? Sorry, but his not being ready isn’t your problem. He needs to man up.
 
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Your “husband”? I’m not going to lie to you, I’ve never been married, but there was one time when I thought there was a possibility that I may have gotten, my at the time girlfriend pregnant , and abortion never came up, because we’re both pro-life. I didn’t say we weren’t hypocritical in some other aspects. She wasn’t. Prayers, for you and for your husband to have a conversion of heart. A baby is a baby, not rubbish to be tossed in the bin because it may be inconvenient.
 
She’s a married woman. I’m not really comfortable with the suggestion she put the baby up for adoption.

He’s the dad, her husband. He’s morally and legally obligated to take care of the child, at the least financially.

What kind of marriage would this be if the husband forces and pressures his wife to chose him or the baby?
 
Yes. And I don’t get any sense from the OP’s post that she doesn’t want to keep her baby. There are many legit reasons for needing to give a child up for adoption, but financial reason’s shouldn’t be one of them, nor should hanging on to a useless male. There are many helpers out there for women in the OP’s situation. They just need to find their way to her.
 
Being open to life is one of the requirements for a valid marriage. It’s one thing to be afraid of how you will cope with an unplanned pregnancy. It’s quite another to be so anti-life that you want to send your wife to get an abortion!!! Lord have mercy.

A candid conversation with a priest is definitely in order.

It’s your decision not his! Please don’t kill your child. Even if he leaves you. Please don’t do it. Even if you aren’t sure how you will manage. Please don’t do it. Even if you end up having to give the child up for adoption. Please don’t do it! Please.

Your diocese should have resources available to help you. Your local government should as well. If you need help figuring out how to get help PM me. I will make the phone calls for you.
 
If he really did such a thing as throw out his wife for not killing his child, then he would be showing you that he is no sort of proper husband. If that were the case–and I hope that it is not, that he will overcome his initial feelings–then it would be a favor to you if he were to ditch you.
 
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If he really did such a thing as throw out his wife for not killing his child, then he would be showing you that he is no sort of proper husband. If that were the case–and I hope that it is not, that he will overcome his initial feelings–then it would be a favor to you if he were to ditch you.
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This a million times. Praying for you and your unborn child, @Christianbook. 🙏 There is help for you and your baby, as many have mentioned in previous posts, and even offered to contact the pro-life services for you. You are most certainly not alone. Please choose life for your child.
 
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