Husband wants me to have an abortion

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Of course.

But it shouldn’t be made under duress and because of pressure to have an abortion.

Husbands are not supposed to treat their wives this way.
 
But they do. Many women are pressured into abortion because their husband will leave them.
 
A big thanks to all who gave such great advice!
It brought to mind a situation I was in many, many years ago and I thank God for the courage He gave me (though at the time, not all thought I was brave–I hate to think of the words they used to describe me).
@Christianbook please heed all these smart people, we are all praying and pulling for you xoxoxox
 
Since I have family members who have adopted two lovely children, I know some unusual things about adoption agencies. For one, it is no longer rare for married people to give up their children for adoption! Since the stigma of having a baby out-of-wedlock has diminished. I was surprised that so many married women-or even those in committed relationships-were such a source of babies to adopt!

You could even consider an ‘open’ adoption. Why does your husband seem so set on abortion? This way, you could know that your Child is alive and with people who love him/her!

Please, consider all open-to-life options. And don’t let yourself get bullied into an abortion! The greatest gift God has given us is life. Please, please, don’t be party to depriving your own Child of his!

Stay safe, and God Bless!
 
I haven’t been on this forum in years and I’m not a big believer in signs but this just may be a sign. ADOPTION is always an option. I have very recent personal experience with adoption and I don’t think I just randomly clicked on this post on this board. If you’re looking for a sign, here it is. The baby you carry is a life. I don’t think you’re arguing that. So don’t argue with yourself or your husband that that baby deserves the best life possible. A life lived is always better than a life never seen. Please consider giving a prepared, stable, loving, willing family your child if you are not able to fully care for him/her. Giving this child the best life possible doesn’t mean you can’t have children later and it DOES mean you love him/her with all your heart.
 
I will be praying for you every day, I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you. Although there is not much I can do to help, maybe going to an organization that will assist you can help?
 
I think the reason her husband is so set on abortion and not considering adoption is because he wants to keep it a secret between the two of them that this baby ever existed and he doesn’t want others to know how cowardly he is not to raise his own child. This is even at the expense of his child being killed.

OP I want you to know that sometimes husband’s do change their minds after the initial shock of an unplanned pregnancy and will accept the baby. I also want to let you know that if you are worried to go to a safe place it will not be as bad as you may think. I went to a safe place last year after experiences years of abuse.I was afraid of how it would be for the children and me. It wasn’t ideal but we are now free and able to make a life for ourselves.
 
It’s YOUR body and he doesn’t have the right to make decisions that harms it.
 
And he can’t just ‘throw you out’. Divorce laws don’t allow for abandonment-he’d be required to pay something toward the child’s support. All he could do would try and prove that your Child wasn’t his, which could be disproved with a DNA test almost immediately (or, if the pregnancy were high-risk, until right after the baby’s birth.

And, really, would you want to continue a marriage, with a man who would desert you, only because you refused this heinous procedure? Forced you to be party to killing your own child?

Please-stay safe! And God bless! Prayers for you, and your unborn child! May he born and welcomed!

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Divorcing you and ‘throwing you out’ is abuse. Have you spoken to a priest yet? If not, do so right away. I’m praying that you explain things clearly to your priest, and that he can carefully explain all life-affirming options. If your questions are not fully answered, try calling Catholic charities. Someone here mentioned the Knights of Columbus. Message him, or call the K or C. Look them and Catholic Charities up online. If there are no local chapters, I’m sure at least one of them has an 800 number!

You are not alone or friendless. Once you contact one of these organizations, or your local abused women’s center, you’ll be surprised at how many people have similar problems. And are willing to help you.

Things might be a little slow, with the COVID problems. But they will take you seriously! It might be possible that you’re hoping your husband is in shock, and will ‘come around.’ I truly hope that is the case! But, in case it isn’t, try to make sure you have someplace to go!

There are people who care about you, and your baby…sight unseen! All you have to do is reach out! Call Catholic charities today!
 
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Have nothing to add that hasn’t been said, but hang in there! There is help available through the various resources others have posted about. I witnessed people raise lovely children in difficult circumstances, so it can be done. 🙂
 
I think there is a lot more to this story than meets the eye. First of all, if you are in any sort of violent or threatening situation, please contact law enforcement and get help. There is absolutely no shame at all in asking for help. You need to consider your safety and your child’s safety first and foremost. No one has the right to force you into an abortion.
Do you have any family members who would be willing to help you raise your child? What about adoption? I am sure all of these things are easier said than done, but they are better options than the pain and loss of an abortion.
You are in my prayers.
 
I think they meant the husband wouldn’t be the one leaving, he would tell the OP to get out.
 
Yes, she did say she was afraid he’d ‘throw her out’. And implied there’d be no Child support. If this were this man’s plan, I think he’d be long gone, by now. Sounds like he’s a controller, though. They seldom leave, on their own.
 
I am also praying for you, that you will choose life for your baby.
The whole purpose of marriage is to have and raise children, if God sends them.
When I told my then-husband that I was pregnant with our second child, he threw a bucket of water on me, he was so angry. But once the child was born, he loved him dearly. People can change their minds and hearts.
Another resource is Birthright, a confidential pregnancy center whose 24 hour line for love and support is 1.800.550.4900.
God bless.
 
Thank you for your prayers. God has answered my prayers. Thank you so much for your reply.
 
Thank you for your prayers. God has answered my prayers. Thank you so much for your reply!
 
Thank you for your prayers. God has answered my prayers. Thank you so much for your reply. I am also talking to a therapist about my situation and relationship. Thank you so much
 
He did change his mind. Suddenly. I am so greatful that God has made him realize what he was doing to me. Thank you.
 
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