Husband who doesn't like to be intimate

[thomasf]

If he is afraid of pregnancy, then it must be a mighty powerful fear. I have been in a position to fear pregnancy and the heat of the moment and the ‘feelings’ of the moment all won out over fear, at least in the moment (after is another story). Most men in that position would be all about having as much sex as possible, especially once they are married. He’s either got psychological issues, a medical condition, or he’s gay. Just my 2 cents. I can’t see much of anything getting in my way as a newly wed at that age.

 

[mayxanh]

Please don’t take this the wrong way, but maybe he is gay.

My dad was a devout Catholic who drank himself to death by the age of 41. My mom tells me that he was extremely affectionate until they were married, and then did not approach her on their wedding night. The fact that they had two kids defies all odds, considering the number of times that they had sex. All of his coworkers thought that he was gay. Now, my mom is pretty much convinced that he was gay.

He was a very good man, extremely successful, and the dad that every kid dreamed of while he lived. He achieved more in his short life than most men do in twice the time. But he was tortured by his sexuality and trying to reconcile it with his strongly held religious beliefs.

This might not be the case with your husband, but you must consider it if he is not sexually attracted to women.

Good luck.

One of my male friend was in the same situation. He got married because he thought that would help him to overcome his homosexuality identity, but it did not work out. He had to tell the truth with his wife. They got divorced and the wife was very angry because she thought she was a victim of a liar.