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at9009
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Oh sorry I misunderstood your post then. What I was trying to emphasize is that yes there might be an initial attraction towards someone but as a friendship develops it seems that the attractions lessen (at least for me). You are right there is a difference. So I guess I don’t understand exactly the point you were trying to make and I apologize for misunderstanding it.I get what you are saying but you also made my point. We cannot help who we are attracted to at first. We can decide we do not want to have FEELINGS for someone and we can get over those, but still find that person attractive. We cannot say “I want to never find a married person attractive again” and then never find another married person attractive again. What we can do is decide not to act on our attractions. There is a difference. There are plenty of women I found attractive and had feelings for then I decided I did not want to have feelings for them anymore and those feelings went away with time. It does not change the fact I was initially attracted to them.