As one Missourian to another, I will confide to you that I don’t know the answer to your question. But it is something about which I have given considerable thought since one of my adult daughters is very attracted to Eastern Catholicism and, frankly, I find it attractive in many ways myself. I would not personally consider Orthodoxy for a number of reasons; among them the close identification with states and ethnicity, their divisions over what I perceive as very little and the hostility of one toward another.
But my main reason for remaining “Latin” (as opposed to even Eastern Catholicism) is that,in blood and bone I AM a Latin; by heritage, by culture, and by inclination.
What does that mean? Well, certainly all my forbears were Latin Catholics; Irish, Italian and Alsatian. All of those groups are culturally “Roman” in the sense that their languages, their modes of expression, their ways of thinking are all far more influenced by the Latin heritage than by anything else. Our very street layouts, our general preference for being clean-shaved and with short hair, our language, our architecture, our laws and concepts of what laws ought to be, our monetary concepts, our trade concepts, our ideas of governance, our admiration for efficient engineering and technical proficiency, our practicality, our ways of reasoning, all are Latin to the core, if one considers “Greco-Roman” ways to be Latin. And notwithstanding the “Greco” part of it, the heritage of Greece is, in a sense, no longer the heritage of the place named Greece or the Orthodoxy that arose from it. There is more of classic Greece in Edinburgh or Calgary or Kansas City now than there is in Athens.
“We Latins” have particular views of the relationship between the physical and the spiritual. Look at the interiors of churches. Latin churches, as compared to Eastern churches, are rather spare and symmetrical. (something Protestantism took to a lifeless extreme in my opinion) Our statues and paintings are lifelike and celebrate the Divine in humanness as we see humanness with our eyes. Icons in Eastern churches are not lifelike, rarely full, without perspective. They are not “what we see with our eyes”. True, those Eastern images have a very different purpose. They are “invitations” into a transcendent experience of the Divine. Eastern liturgies are mystical and mesmerizing. There is good to that, and I’m not criticizing it. “Latin” liturgies are logical, literal, and direct. Eastern liturgies are aclutter and half hidden by iconastasis. Latin liturgies are out in the open, plain to see and intended to be seen. Again, not putting the Easterners down, but I am more comfortable worshipping in the latter than in the former.
Even the liturgical garments. You look at the Latin vestments; simple even when most ornate; very Roman, actually rather functional. You look at Eastern vestments; ornate beyond belief, beautiful but to a Westerner like me, well, just a bit too much.
Frankly, while I admire much in the Eastern churches, I know what I am. I know I cannot truly ever be anything but a “Latin” person, in every way there is to be one. I can study Eastern mysticism. But I can also study Western mysticism, and it’s easier for me to relate to the latter than to the former. I can study Western philosphy and theology and “get it” readily. Eastern writings just make my mind sort of swirl.
So, while I would not discourage you from seeking your home in Eastern Catholicism, I will caution that it’s, well, very Eastern, and might not quite fit the way your mind works. Westerners, like Easterners, have had centuries of a particular cultural way of looking at things, and we should not discount the effect it has had on us.