It is rare that medication takes care of ADHD in the absence of counselling. This, you probably know. Also, your husband may need some help in learning to appreciate and navigate your particular way of being.
I know about ADHD, husbands who work alot, and kids who are happy to fill our every waking minute. There can be a lot of tension between the spouse who is “always getting something done” and the spouse who feels that s/he can never get anything done, especially if the “hard-working” spouse feels the same way. This should not be left unaddressed, trust me. First off, the two can easily project attitudes into the other person that are not there. It is very easy to become mutually resentful.
You and your husband need to spend regular time together re-connecting, possibly even more than couples who don’t have this mix of ADHD and a full-work-schedule-type personality to deal with. It doesn’t sound as if you have that time. Talk this over with your husband, and find out the kinds of things he might like to do with you. Marriages need this. Kids need their parents to have this. I don’t mean just serious conversation and I don’t just mean fun. I mean both. After all, there is a reason you married in the first place. When was the last time you got to enjoy that?
Talk to the psychiatrist who prescribes your meds about this. Also, if you don’t know about the Hallowell Center, check out their website and Dr. Hallowell’s related books. I’ve found them very helpful.
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