i am here looking for a good catholic husband

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stockbrick240 said:
So your saying I’m ugly? Well if you are…
  1. You have never seen me to know what I look like.:rolleyes:
  2. Even if you or anyone else has seen me and thinks that I dont have nice looks…take it up with God. Hes made me. 👍
  3. I dont really care what you think lol 😛
  4. And if girls dont think I look nice (which Ive had many say that I do) and thats why they dont want to date me then they are to shallow for me anyway.
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I never said you were ugly - I was saying your description was a “too good to be true.” We all flaws and baggage. Not one of us is perfect. I am curious as to why you posted mine - all I was saying is yours sounded like an advertisement - this is not a singles dating site. This is a Catholic Forum for Catholic discussion. So yes admittedly I was a bit tongue in cheek with you to draw some discussion - I apologize if you took it offensively - and I hope the right girl comes along for you. May I make a suggestion that you try a Catholic singles site or find a Catholic young adults group or different ministry. Or maybe look at some of the reasons why relationships have broken up (not judging - I don’t know you) - we can all learn from our mistakes and experience can be a good teacher and teach us about ourselves if we are willing to learn.
 
stockbrick240 said:
So your saying I’m ugly? Well if you are…
  1. You have never seen me to know what I look like.:rolleyes:
  2. Even if you or anyone else has seen me and thinks that I dont have nice looks…take it up with God. Hes made me. 👍
  3. I dont really care what you think lol 😛
  4. And if girls dont think I look nice (which Ive had many say that I do) and thats why they dont want to date me then they are to shallow for me anyway.
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Why in God’s name did you quote me on that? I never said your ugly in the least.

And if you really didn’t care what people think, you wouldn’t feel the need to say it.
 
Stockbrick, nobody said you were ugly. Sorry if it seemed that way.
 
You guys make me laugh. . you’re really silly. BlueShadow, don’t be a fartknocker. Stockbrick, good answer. Just keep waiting for the person that God wants you to be with. Now stop fighting. 😛

This thread concerns me. . and it’s not necessarily because of the original poster’s age. I mean, yea, she’s a little young, but some people can handle being married at 18, “modern times,” or not. .

But. . as I read this, I wondered if the OP was serious. True, I’m sure she does want a good man who doesn’t commit adultery, but at the same time, I couldn’t help but wonder if this post was made as a gag or something. . Or just to ruffle some feathers.

Well. . if this isn’t a joke. .

Dear OP,

Please be patient and very discerning in your search for a husband. Pray that God’s perfect will be done in your life and that you do what He wants you to do. Trust in Him. He’ll put you in the right place, at the right time, and perhaps with the right person, so long as you follow and trust in Him. .

You’re only 18. While marrying young does not doom you a failing marriage, it certainly makes some things more difficult. Having said that, I really hope you’re focusing on school. Perhaps you should think about college before thinking about something so serious?

I got married when I was 20. My husband was 21. I don’t regret it, and I think we’ve got as much of a shot as any other Christian couple to having a successful marriage, but let me tell you:

If I knew then what I know now. . If I could do it all over again, I probably would have waited until I graduated and my husband got out of the Military. My marital status has greatly affected my qualification status for grants, making it much more difficult for me to pay for the rest of my schooling. So far, my husband and I have paid a few thousand dollars out of our pockets just so I could keep going to school. Another major stress for me is the fact that my husband is active duty Military. Life with the Military has been extremely difficult for me, to say the least. In hindsight, it may have been a better idea to wait so that we wouldn’t have had to face the stresses of being “married to the Military,” and honestly, it would have also given my husband some time to grow up.

But, you know what? -I can’t re-do what I’ve already done. Again, I don’t regret what I’ve done. I know I can’t change it, and I know that my life is better with my husband–despite the extra stresses, like those that come from our involvement with Military–than it would have been without him. Things aren’t perfect, but I have faith that we will make it. We’re in it for the long haul. But. . I digress. . 😊

Needless to say, things don’t always go according to plan, and marriage comes with a lot of stresses and responsibilities that you may not even be aware of. Will you be ready for them. . ?

So. . give yourself some time. .

And go to college, darn it! :yup:
 
Well, MJS, what do you think of this post now? :ehh:
mjs1987 said:
-]Women/-] Men come with many strings and many demands these days. You almost HAVE to treat a -]woman/-] man badly. -]Most/-]Many of the marriages I know have had a -]guy/-] woman that was well known for doing mean things to the -]wife/-] husband (in front of others, I might add!). -]Women/-] Men I think like being treated badly. If they didnt, they would go for the many good single -]guys/-] women out there.

-]Women/-] Men fall for the same tricks every time.:rolleyes: At some point, you have to stop blaming the -]guys/-] gals and blame the -]women/-] guys. -]Women/-] Men allow it to happen to them. They should really stop complaining about -]guys/-] women because they are the reason why -]guys/-] women treat them badly.
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This goes BOTH ways, my friend! BOTH ways.
 
Rascalking said:
At 18 you should NOT be looking for a husband. That’s WAY too young.
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I used to think 18 was too young too, but know of several very good marriages where the couples met while still in high school or shortly thereafter. They didn’t get married right away, but waited a few years and really got to know each other. However, they are all still together 25 and 30 years later, in very solid marriages.

I know several people who waited and met their spouses later in life, married in their late 20s, whose marriages have since fallen apart. I am one of those.

There are no guarantees in life and relationships. If you meet the right person, then age is irrelevant.
 
If we went back 2,000 years chances are you would have been married already. But this is 2010, it wont kill you to wait. 😉
 
stockbrick240 said:
On the Catholic dating sites Ive run into a lot of snobs and or girls that are not devout lol.
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Then what are they doing on a dating site? 🤷

Thats the thing though, you don’t really know if its really FEMALES.

You might be surprised on your wedding night. 😉

lol jk.
 
OK Stockbrick - I went back through and I reread some of your posts. The girls are snobs or not devout enough. Or they don’t want you because they think you are too attractive. Do you see what I am getting at with this post - and everyone else please be nice - I am not saying that you are this way I am just pointing out how it was written - but then again email is not the best method of communication.
 
lil_flower_luv said:
Hey Rascal, dating very young doesn’t always mean getting married very young. 👍
And who are you to judge that, might I ask? It’s time you take the advice of your own signature.

Now I’m beginning to wonder if the OP is MIA because of some of the responses on here. 🤷
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I agree. Some posters on here are talking as if she can’t see the posts, so rude imo. 🤷 Not being very charitable…
 
mamacita said:
I agree. Some posters on here are talking as if she can’t see the posts, so rude imo. 🤷 Not being very charitable…
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I think we’re trying to protect her if anything. At least I am. I know many 18 year old guys, and I wish she would realize that waiting might be for the better. The guys at that age are very immature. At many of them.
 
joandarc2008 said:
I never said you were ugly - I was saying your description was a “too good to be true.” We all flaws and baggage. Not one of us is perfect. I am curious as to why you posted mine - all I was saying is yours sounded like an advertisement - this is not a singles dating site. This is a Catholic Forum for Catholic discussion. So yes admittedly I was a bit tongue in cheek with you to draw some discussion - I apologize if you took it offensively - and I hope the right girl comes along for you. May I make a suggestion that you try a Catholic singles site or find a Catholic young adults group or different ministry. Or maybe look at some of the reasons why relationships have broken up (not judging - I don’t know you) - we can all learn from our mistakes and experience can be a good teacher and teach us about ourselves if we are willing to learn.
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I never said I was “perfect” I its not a dating site…I was not the one that started this thread lol.
Rascalking said:
Why in God’s name did you quote me on that? I never said your ugly in the least.
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Sorry I didnt even realize I quoted yours on it.
 
Battle_Warrior said:
A knight :knight1: in shining armor is NOT going to appear and carry you off into the sunset to live happy ever after…It does not turn out that way!!! My parents are divorced :bighanky: 😦 and they were 27 when they married. I have seen enough (fighting, yelling and 911 calls) to safely say that when a marriage goes bad its the wife and kids that suffer the most because most of the abuse comes from the Dad!!! You are setting yourself up for disaster…

-Rebecca
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So only a man can ruin a marriage? That’s news to me…
 
rusty20 said:
So only a man can ruin a marriage? That’s news to me…
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Sadly, this is a common way of thinking among too many Catholics. The impression that I get is that people think women are more virtuous than men, in particular in the marriage/family field.

😦
 
BlueShadow123 said:
I think we’re trying to protect her if anything. At least I am. I know many 18 year old guys, and I wish she would realize that waiting might be for the better. The guys at that age are very immature. At many of them.
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So are the women. It amuses me how so many people can just claim that one gender is immature where it is implied the other is not. There is no measure to determine at what age either gender is ready to marry. I’ve met incredibly mature high school boys and incredibly immature women in their 30s, and vice versa.

To make a sweeping generality about this is simply untrue. It’s one thing to say men typically have a bigger/more intense sex drive, because that is, by and large, a true statement. But when you start claiming facts about maturity, you go beyond what can be reasonably concluded.
 
Rascalking said:
Sadly, this is a common way of thinking among too many Catholics. The impression that I get is that people think women are more virtuous than men, in particular in the marriage/family field.

😦
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It’s ridiculous. A woman is not some type of higher creature incapable of sin. It seems that too many orthodox Catholics have this opinion. Then they have an opinion of men as ‘dogs’ or in some way the ‘bad guys.’ So many problems can and do flow from this line of thinking.

I think this particularly leads to women not giving men a chance (in the dating world) when they have one ‘big’ flaw. Someone said this on another thread. If you expect perfection from your partner, be ready for disappointment.
 
rusty20 said:
It’s ridiculous. A woman is not some type of higher creature incapable of sin. It seems that too many orthodox Catholics have this opinion. Then they have an opinion of men as ‘dogs’ or in some way the ‘bad guys.’ So many problems can and do flow from this line of thinking.

I think this particularly leads to women not giving men a chance (in the dating world) when they have one ‘big’ flaw. Someone said this on another thread. If you expect perfection from your partner, be ready for disappointment.
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Preaching to the choir on this one my friend. Be careful though, because when I’vbe tried to say something like this before people called me a misogynist, which is sort of funny-never been called that one before.

Both genders are capable of causing great pain to the other in ALL realms. Marriage is one of them.

And if you expect perfection from anyone (except me, because I am perfect) your in for a miserable ride.
 
rusty20 said:
So are the women. It amuses me how so many people can just claim that one gender is immature where it is implied the other is not. There is no measure to determine at what age either gender is ready to marry. I’ve met incredibly mature high school boys and incredibly immature women in their 30s, and vice versa.

To make a sweeping generality about this is simply untrue. It’s one thing to say men typically have a bigger/more intense sex drive, because that is, by and large, a true statement. But when you start claiming facts about maturity, you go beyond what can be reasonably concluded.
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Why would I have mentioned the women if she already is a woman?
If it was a guy who made the thread, it would be a different story.
 
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