i am here looking for a good catholic husband

[BlueShadow123]

that is more reliant on bad parenting and public school…

I have been to private school before, its the same thing there.
There will be immature kids at any school you go to, public or private makes no difference. It would seem like it would, but it seriously doesn’t.

 

[RedSoxWife]

A knight :knight1: in shining armor is NOT going to appear and carry you off into the sunset to live happy ever after…It does not turn out that way!!!

Except that sometimes it really does turn out well. Not marriage is perfect because of our fallen nature, but if we work at our vocation (and it’s marriage) and pray things can be pretty wonderful.

If you think of a vocation as who you are called to serve (finding someone else who loves God helps a lot too!) it puts things in perspective a bit!

For almost all of the real world, correct. But who knows what his view of the purpose of marriage is. Cranking out babies every two years like clockwork for the next 20 years?

That’s my plan (God-willing). I wonder how many years I have left of that… I hope at least ten!

Women come with many strings and many demands these days. You almost HAVE to treat a woman badly. Most of the marriages I know have had a guy that was well known for doing mean things to the wife. Women I think like being treated badly.

Totally, totally, totally disagree.

 

[mamacita]

Except that sometimes it really does turn out well. Not marriage is perfect because of our fallen nature, but if we work at our vocation (and it’s marriage) and pray things can be pretty wonderful.

If you think of a vocation as who you are called to serve (finding someone else who loves God helps a lot too!) it puts things in perspective a bit!

That’s my plan (God-willing). I wonder how many years I have left of that… I hope at least ten!

Totally, totally, totally disagree.

**
Red, I agree w/ you on all above points!!! **

 

[Nelka]

hello i am 18 looking for a good catholic husband who wants to get married in the catholic church and wants to use nfp does not swear does not look at porn or commit adultery

Do not look on here for a man.

Go to church and find a nice man, my wife and I met in church.

 

[Rascalking]

Do not look on here for a man.

Go to church and find a nice man, my wife and I met in church.

Excuse me, but there are PLENTY of nice men on this website. Starting on a Catholic website would be a marvelous place to start looking for a potential husband.

For the record, even though I’m single I don’t include myself on the list. I’m nice, but not really looking.

 

[joandarc2008]

It’s ridiculous. A woman is not some type of higher creature incapable of sin. It seems that too many orthodox Catholics have this opinion. Then they have an opinion of men as ‘dogs’ or in some way the ‘bad guys.’ So many problems can and do flow from this line of thinking.

I think this particularly leads to women not giving men a chance (in the dating world) when they have one ‘big’ flaw. Someone said this on another thread. If you expect perfection from your partner, be ready for disappointment.

I agree with you - although I do hate to say it IMO there seems to be an innocent victim and a perpetrator when a Catholic marriage falls apart. It seems when a couple that cares enough to get married in the Church they don’t just walk out for “irreconcilable” differences. I however will not say it is always the man or always the woman. Usually it is the one that forgot about God -the third entity in the marriage. But this is all my opinion and possibly a bit jaded from watching thread after thread of he/she cheated, he/she abused me,and seeing it in the real world. Thanks for keeping it real Rusty.

 

[Rascalking]

I agree with you - although I do hate to say it IMO there seems to be an innocent victim and a perpetrator when a Catholic marriage falls apart. It seems when a couple that cares enough to get married in the Church they don’t just walk out for “irreconcilable” differences. I however will not say it is always the man or always the woman. Usually it is the one that forgot about God -the third entity in the marriage. But this is all my opinion and possibly a bit jaded from watching thread after thread of he/she cheated, he/she abused me,and seeing it in the real world. Thanks for keeping it real Rusty.

We should all remember to put God first. Well said Joan

 

[AggieCatholic22]

.my advice coming from someone who is close to your age: live life! and dance with God, he will let the perfect man cut in…(the guy whom he thinks is perfect for you)

 

[BlueShadow123]

I wonder of the OP even read all this?

 

[stringbeanduck]

Oh for crying out loud I’m sure she isn’t faking it. There are lots of young people looking for spouse.

At my age I certainly don’t plan on marriage in the very near future, but I am keeping an eye out for a girl that I’m meant to be with. I despise and never engage in sins of the flesh, do my best to make Mass, I’m quiet and to my self a lot but happy to talk when approached, ready to help when there is problem or something that need to be done… Those are some of the traits I have. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect, but I sure do recognize that I’m different from many guys when it comes to morals and knowing what to do with my life.

Problem is that there no girls around my area who are at where I am at in my faith and direction in life. Those few that come close are taken up in other relationships, or (and I’m assuming this) they fear that I fit in the stereotype of other guys engaging in every secular wrongdoing possible.

Be that as it may, I’m very young. So I am focusing on college while making the most of being single. Perhaps there will be girl, years from now that God bring into my life.

So to the OP, I suggest just be on the look out, but be conscious of your own life for now and where He is leading you career-wise.

 

[BlueShadow123]

What does it mean to be a wheelchair?

I’m asking the OP because her biography says shes " i a wheelchair "

Did you mean you’re in a wheelchair?

 

[mjs1987]

Totally, totally, totally disagree.

I have yet to see a Catholic woman that likes to be treated well by a man.

They may exist but I havent seen them. Every time I treat a woman badly, they like me more. When I treat them well, they dont like me. My solution is to treat them badly since it works well.

One of my friends is an atheist. He always goes for Catholic chicks for just that reason. He makes no attempt to hide that he treats women poorly and yet he gets Catholic girls to give up their virginity and beg for him to take them back after he gets done with them.

Why should I treat Catholic women well when they like guys that treat them badly?

Also, look at these message boards. How many threads are there from woman complaining about their husband treating them badly?

If women responded well to me treating them well maybe I would think different. Im tired of being a gentleman and watching men that treat women poorly get all the women. When that changes, maybe I will consider acting like a gentleman again.

 

[BlueShadow123]

What does it mean to be a wheelchair?

I’m asking the OP because her biography says shes " i a wheelchair "

Did you mean you’re in a wheelchair?

I guess I do want to know.

 

[Mary_Gail_36]

Preaching to the choir on this one my friend. Be careful though, because when I’vbe tried to say something like this before people called me a misogynist, which is sort of funny-never been called that one before.

Both genders are capable of causing great pain to the other in ALL realms. Marriage is one of them.

And if you expect perfection from anyone (except me, because I am perfect) your in for a miserable ride.

You a misogynist? I’ve found you to be a nice gentlemanly fellow.

 

[BlueShadow123]

You a misogynist? I’ve found you to be a nice gentlemanly fellow.

Thats what I thought to.

 

[Rascalking]

You a misogynist? I’ve found you to be a nice gentlemanly fellow.

Thanks. That’s actually one of the greatest compliments you can give me, and I say that in all seriousness and humility.

I was pretty offended by it, but my sister said it best-“Rascal (she of course used my real name), your not even close to that. So why let it bother you?”

Smart girl, she is!

 

[Rascalking]

Thats what I thought to.

Thanks. Now stop, you’ll give me an even bigger ego. (that’s hard, but possible! )

 

[Rascalking]

I have yet to see a Catholic woman that likes to be treated well by a man.

They may exist but I havent seen them. Every time I treat a woman badly, they like me more. When I treat them well, they dont like me. My solution is to treat them badly since it works well.

One of my friends is an atheist. He always goes for Catholic chicks for just that reason. He makes no attempt to hide that he treats women poorly and yet he gets Catholic girls to give up their virginity and beg for him to take them back after he gets done with them.

Why should I treat Catholic women well when they like guys that treat them badly?

Also, look at these message boards. How many threads are there from woman complaining about their husband treating them badly?

If women responded well to me treating them well maybe I would think different. Im tired of being a gentleman and watching men that treat women poorly get all the women. When that changes, maybe I will consider acting like a gentleman again.

I pity your future girlfriends. If you think women like being treated poorly, and you do that, then you should be locked up and kept away from them.

Period.

 

[BlueSprite]

I have yet to see a Catholic woman that likes to be treated well by a man.

They may exist but I havent seen them. Every time I treat a woman badly, they like me more. When I treat them well, they dont like me. My solution is to treat them badly since it works well.

One of my friends is an atheist. He always goes for Catholic chicks for just that reason. He makes no attempt to hide that he treats women poorly and yet he gets Catholic girls to give up their virginity and beg for him to take them back after he gets done with them.

Why should I treat Catholic women well when they like guys that treat them badly?

Also, look at these message boards. How many threads are there from woman complaining about their husband treating them badly?

If women responded well to me treating them well maybe I would think different. Im tired of being a gentleman and watching men that treat women poorly get all the women. When that changes, maybe I will consider acting like a gentleman again.

I think there’s some truth to what you’re saying in that many people (men and women) seem to fall under the spell of wanting what they can’t have - as in “people want what they can’t have.” If a man plays the “aloof” card or “unavailable” act (thus treating them poorly which I think mjs1987 is referring to) it does, often work…just like guys love to chase after those women that are impossible to get. It does work. Now I’m not one for playing games, but I have to say, in almost every case of dating, where I went on a date and didn’t want another one, I think in about 95% of the time, the men went crazy and would call/text/email more…and I don’t know if that’s because they were that crazy about me to start with…or if the rejection set off some kind of internal “sensor” that made them want to date me more…I’m not really sure…but it was always, always, always the case.

That being said, mjs1987 - there are a LOT of nutters out there…so consider yourself lucky. Just think of all the heart-ache you’ve probably been spared in not dating women who weren’t interested in a “nice” guy. If a woman wants a “bad boy” (and I have a few friends like this…) then I feel, they’re not really ready for a true relationship, and will probably only cause you problems down the line. They may seem great in the beginning, but the cracks will begin to show in the facade in a short matter of time…

Oh, and re: your friend…he may view his conquests as “successes”…that is, bedding as many women or Catholic women as he can…but these aren’t relationships. This is fun…play…superficial stuff that temporarily feeds his ego. And the girls he’s with are not facing reality either…the ones that go for these types of guys…they want to believe he’ll “love” them…they want to believe he’ll “change” - but the reality is they don’t want reality just like he doesn’t want reality - and you know what these kinds of relationships make? Disasters. Disasters all around, because you essentially have two incredibly immature people drawn together out of their shared desire to escape reality.

So ask yourself…do you really want that kind of drama in your life? Really? It’s amounts to nothing. It’s 100% trivial. You know it’s incredibly easy to play these kinds of games- all it takes is an ounce of good looks, a few marbles upstairs, and the moral uh, flexibility to pull it off…but can it be viewed as a “success?” Is is something to be proud of? I’m sure it makes your buddy feel powerful, but all it does is stroke the ego of the vain…

Anyway…from my perspective on it - don’t get discouraged. There ARE decent women - people - out there. But you have to keep looking. It’s a tough crowd.

 

[Daegus]

I have yet to see a Catholic woman that likes to be treated well by a man.



They may exist but I havent seen them. Every time I treat a woman badly, they like me more. When I treat them well, they dont like me. My solution is to treat them badly since it works well.

You know what’s funny? The women you’re describing sound a lot like what most people like to call ‘cafeteria Catholics’ or secularists. The kind of girls that take ‘Church advice’ from people like Nancy Pelosi and claim to be Catholic while holding deistic views.

One of my friends is an atheist. He always goes for Catholic chicks for just that reason. He makes no attempt to hide that he treats women poorly and yet he gets Catholic girls to give up their virginity and beg for him to take them back after he gets done with them.

2 words. I’m sure you know (or can guess) what they are because I already mentioned them.

Why should I treat Catholic women well when they like guys that treat them badly?

Why should anyone believe that Jesus is the way and the truth and the life, and no one comes to the Father but through Him, and without Him there is eternal damnation? It’s much easier to hold a view of indifference. (Hopefully you know where I’m going with this. If not, point being: you should treat them well because it’s the right thing to do, even if the latter might be more convenient than the former.)

Also, look at these message boards. How many threads are there from woman complaining about their husband treating them badly?

I’m sure there are a lot of those threads, but in all honesty, since we cannot discern the depth of certain circumstances and can only speculate, would it not be righteous to at least presume the truth, given that there’s no reason to believe otherwise? Who are we, as speculators, to say that these women aren’t telling the truth, and aren’t really just looking for advice?

If women responded well to me treating them well maybe I would think different. Im tired of being a gentleman and watching men that treat women poorly get all the women. When that changes, maybe I will consider acting like a gentleman again.

You need to find some new women. Pray to the Lord and heartily ask Him to bring you the right one in good time. Or perhaps the Lord’s will for you is not for you to get married. Who knows? All I know is that your current views certainly can’t be helpful. Remember: what you ask for with faith in Him you will be given.

Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s not like I don’t see some of the things you’re talking about in [some] women (or at least, young ladies in my youth), but I think you’re being a little too pessimistic. The only kind of women who sincerely enjoy being treated like less than they’re worth are not women of God and you should stay away from them until they can get their priorities straight. Don’t let a couple of spoiled rotten women get in your way. Keep your eyes wide opened and have your head up.