I am in love with an agnostic

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1ke said:
Because my parents, grandparents, and great grandparents did not have chaperones
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You’re missing the point and running off on tangents. Never did I say it was Church law, but it was expected as part of the Christian/Catholic culture for millennia. As for not long ago, I mean less than a century ago. It was the decent thing to do. The reason there is cultural rot and a broken society is the simple fact that society has turned its back on God’s laws. Most of societal ills are due to the misuse of the gift of sexuality. One need only see the difference between the sexed up culture of today compared to what it was a few generations ago. We live in a demonic age that couldn’t have been imagined 50 yeas ago
 
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Catholicanswers.22 said:
I’m asking for prayer warriors (and advice) here. I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year. I am a devout Catholic. He was technically confirmed Catholic but now claims to be agnostic
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I’m rooting for you. Get that man to heaven & our Father will say to you, Well done my good & faithful servant."
Catholicanswers.22 said:
I am feeling very disheartened. Any advice or way I can better explain it to him? He tends to respond well to sound research & scientific studies.
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Pray. Hope, & don’t worry.

I wish I could give you scientific research & what not, but I’m not that guy. Pray the Rosary every day. Go to reconciliation often, receive communion frequently, & pray.

Look for opportunities to offer up your suffering & do so with humility & joy.
 
Would he, in the name of supporting your growth and the growth of your relationship, do some sort of spiritual class or bible study with you? If he is willing, that might give you an opportunity to really observe him interact with religious material outside of just the occasional conversations about how it affects your future.

If he is not willing to, perhaps he is not willing to support you in the ways you will need spiritually down the road, and not willing to act out of self-sacrificing love as spouses ought.

If he is willing to, the types of conversations you have may plant seeds for him or at the very least help your discernment of if he is a suitable spouse for you.
 
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If he’s agnostic, this is not the only stumbling block. Others: his views about same-sex “marriage,” transgenderism, Euthanasia, abortion, divorce, your future children dating outside their religion, illnesses affecting the brain, and many other subjects.

My sense is that the OP needs to do some more research but is afraid of the answers that will likely come.
 
Lara said:
Others: his views about same-sex “marriage,” transgenderism, Euthanasia, abortion, divorce, your future children dating outside their religion, illnesses affecting the brain, and many other subjects.
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I don’t think she mentioned all those points of view? Not all agnostics are in support of every far left agenda, you know.

She has also not come back to follow up…
 
Constellation of beliefs. Ask all your friends who are pro-gay about the other subjects I mentioned, and they will likely take the leftist view. I’ve never known anybody to be an exception.
 
Illnesses affecting the brain? What does that have to do with anything?
 
You’re in love with him, this kind of marriage is permitted by the church, and it doesn’t sound like he’ll try to force you to compromise your belief system. I say go ahead and marry him.

People on this thread are too quick to write your boyfriend off, or to dismiss your love for him as irrelevant to the decision, and I think they are mistaken for doing so. Marriage is supposed to be about love; if a person marries for money or status or just to have children then that person got married for the wrong reason. I say marrying someone with a different belief system whom you’re in love with is better than marrying a coreligionist for whom you feel nothing.
 
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Lucy_1 said:
I’m married 29 years to a great guy and an agnostic.

I would not marry your boyfriend, full stop.
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Interesting quote. So it has worked for you but your advice is to not do it? Or perhaps what you’re saying is that it’s been a very rocky journey for you throughout, and that’s why you don’t recommend it?

Just wanted to throw in this thought. The general opinion (from what I’ve seen) on agnostics is that they are closer to belief than disbelief. When people hear ‘agnostic’ they often think ‘believer who has a lot of doubts’. I think the opposite. I think an agnostic is actually a lot closer to an atheist than a believer, but people call themselves agnostics because they don’t want to seem arrogant, like they think they know there is no God. I find agnostics usually tend to live their lives as though there were no God though. So perhaps ask yourself, as much as you love him (or believe you do), are you prepared to be together with a non believer?

Btw I notice the OP hasn’t written anything since he created the topic. Perhaps she made up her own mind?
 
If one partner gets Alzheimer’s, does that mean the other is free to leave the marriage and find somebody else? If one partner is in a vegetative state, such as Terry Schiavo was, what will the other partner do? If your child is on a ventilator and called brain dead, are you in agreement as to what you will do? These types of questions may result in different answers if a Catholic marries an agnostic or atheist. Even within one’s faith, these are important questions.
 
If your child is brain dead, he or she is dead. There isn’t any use in a ventilator.
I can see your point in the other examples though, but when it comes to dementia I believe that most people regardless of religion stay faithful. I don’t know about many 80 year olds who are dating.
 
BornInMarch said:
marrying someone with a different belief system whom you’re in love with is better than marrying a coreligionist for whom you feel nothing.
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Who is speaking of marrying someone you feel nothing, apart you?

It seems that you don’t see the point of this post who is divergence on contraception.
If the fiancé agree to follow her wife’s conviction even without strong conviction himself, I would find nothing to add. But here, the problem seems that he is unwilling to do.

Want a disaster marriage? Marry with this divergence not solve.

Or are you advocating that the Catholic should let her religious conviction behind and agree to use contraception?
 
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