I Asked My Son to Leave

[madelynn]

Look you’ll have to forgive me for the strength of wording in my second last post, I guess I’m just worried about this kid. I nonetheless should have worded my second last statement more respectfully and can no longer edit it. I do have a high regard for the USA, its just one point which I disagree with. And the OP sounds like she has some medical issues which would make things hard etc.

I guess I feel somewhat let down by my parents who promised me undying love when I was growing up and kicked me out at 15 for almost a year, took me back in and then kicked me out at 17. I was always “to blame” etc… I know this young man is 25, so I understand the age difference, but I’ve also seen parents put up with a lot worse than whats being described here (not that I’m thinking they should have).

I think its good your taking a tough line with him. Perhaps you could send him to a “civilian boot camp” of some sorts instead if such a thing exists… or get him to join the national guard to teach him some discipline.

All of this is just my two cents, your free to make your own decision.

Hello Brett,

I understand what you and LSK are saying. Kids do need parental help sometimes, especially in this day & age. In this case, however, the op mentions some health issues. That’s an important consideration. KLinda needs to look out for her health, otherwise she won’t be able to assist either of her kids. Also, if her son has a violent temper, or associates with criminals, he could be putting her household in jeopardy.

 

[Viki63]

This is so difficult for you.
My son left home and was “homeless” for 3 years, but actually living with a girlfriend’s family. When he was kicked out of there, I let him come home with the condition that he had to work or be enrolled in school. So he just finished a semester of school, and will continue taking courses next term. He’s 19.
If he stopped taking classes, I would have to ask him to leave. He’s in a program which will lead to a certificate in IT (computer tech) which pays well, all he has to do is get through it. He didn’t finish high school either; he may get a GED someday.

25 is definitely adult, but your son’s ambition may have been affected by drugs. I hate that marijuana is legal in our state now. The bad effects on our kids won’t show up for years, but the dumb liberals think it’s fine.
Perhaps you could find your son a program that would help him train for a decent job. Does he want to succeed? Does he have goals, a plan?
Many young people in his situation share housing with friends, and the friends tend to encourage them to better themselves to help pay the rent.
Praying for you.