I Called My Mother Disgusting When She Was Being Immature

[Bonnie]

Most of us have snickered at a fart joke in our time, too. Those of us who didn’t are not necessarily failing to laugh because we labor under an excess of grace, either. The most mature people do not take instances of immaturity in others quite that seriously.

I used to be quite the prude because I was raised by a prude. Truth is, Mom was uncomfortable with “earthy” humor & passed that on to me. Fortunately, as she got older she started to see the humor in all sorts of human situations - & so did I.

I thank God for my sense of humor - it’s great to laugh!

 

[LethalMouse]

So we here all pretty much know you have some self made super scruples.

You say you don’t read the bible, so basically random internet posts is the extent of your theological knowledge mixed with what you make up on your own?

You kinda sort of argue with your parents probably in part bc part of scruples suggests you are quite a nay sayer and think others are morally wrong in some way based on your own brand of Catholicism?

And then you say/do things that your perhaps non scrupulous “normal” parents literally dont even care about and you think you were soemthing along the lines of a coke head child who burned down their house… and you don’t think this is scruples at work???

You need serious pastoral care! Not to being your everyday every word to the internet for a mixed bag of advice that may or may not feed your disorder, and allow you to continue being troubled.

I have probably seen your threads get the advice of pastoral care more than anything but seriously dude there is a reason.

And priests can be busy and if time and such is a factor perhaps there is a catholic psychologist or therapist or whatever that can help you? Even a regualr one.

 

[LethalMouse]

Most of us have snickered at a fart joke in our time, too. Those of us who didn’t are not necessarily failing to laugh because we labor under an excess of grace, either. The most mature people do not take instances of immaturity in others quite that seriously.

Just a funish note about maturity.

I was once having a back and forth with this girl who advocated serious maturity. I said that we can not be too “mature” because then we get ulcers.

She replied: “That is not funny, I have one!”

I said: “Case and point! I win!”

We became friends and she lightened up I saved her from future ulcers via my cheeky fun

 

[pensmama87]

Just a funish note about maturity.

I was once having a back and forth with this girl who advocated serious maturity. I said that we can not be too “mature” because then we get ulcers.

She replied: “That is not funny, I have one!”

I said: “Case and point! I win!”

We became friends and she lightened up I saved her from future ulcers via my cheeky fun

I tend to be a very serious person, but my husband has taught me much about the value of using humor to lighten things up. And being as we have three young sons, there’s bodily humor a plennnnnnnnty to go around.

I don’t know what’s going on in the OP’s house. It’s all very strange, and I can’t tell if it’s the OP’s understanding of it or what. It would not surprise me if his mother made the comment she did as a method to diffuse tension. We also know from previous threads that the OP has unhealthy attitudes toward the body, so that complicates it further. His mother’s comment may have seemed neutral to most of us.

I agree that in addition to pastoral care psychological help would go a long way. But I don’t know that that suggestion is going to go anywhere, since the OP seems to believe that he’s fine and everything is fine, despite all these constant problems with issues that should be common sense for someone his age. And as a millenial myself, though a bit older, I’m not willing to blame it solely on the problems common to my generation.

Bottom line: Melo, lots of us do care about you. But we can only do so much. Sitting here reading that you won’t listen or insist that you don’t need help when you consider to show us evidence that you do can be very frustrating. Please consult a priest. Even print out a couple threads with your questions and our answers and see what he says. Or consult the student health center or counseling center at your college and do the same thing, or ask your pastor for a recommendation for a counselor. I feel like you say your situation is fine and normal because it’s familiar to you, which makes sense, but the fact that so many of us find it very very abnormal should say at least something to you.

 

[Bonnie]

Or consult the student health center or counseling center at your college and do the same thing, or ask your pastor for a recommendation for a counselor.

Catholic Charities, too.

 

[mommy_k]

My mother said something very immature, and I said that she was being disgusting. I did not intend to disrespect her, and she wasn’t offended. I don’t know if I offended God though. Did I disrespect her?

Also, what is disrespecting your parents?

… you cant just read the ten commandments.you need to know how your actions affect others to know why they are sinful or not as in this case…

I first thought perhaps you are a fairly new Catholic and need more education on the nuances of sin.

However:
You should also know when you are being disrespectful to your parents or others in social contexts, so this may mean there is something more going on.

 

[EasterJoy]

I used to be quite the prude because I was raised by a prude. Truth is, Mom was uncomfortable with “earthy” humor & passed that on to me. Fortunately, as she got older she started to see the humor in all sorts of human situations - & so did I.

I thank God for my sense of humor - it’s great to laugh!

Not to be macabre, but it is good to have a down-to-earth sense of humor before something medical brings you down to earth. When the time comes where you have to be able to laugh so you don’t cry, it helps to have some experience with laughter! (When life gets too clever by half, you may as well be a good audience.)

On a easy note, I knew an older couple who were at the point where they needed to have help in their home, which they didn’t want. The wife tried to help the husband get up to use his walker, but they both fell and wound up back on the bed. The wife turned to her husband and dead-panned, “Well, Daddy, we are a pair to draw to, aren’t we?” They both started to laugh, which was better than giving into the frustration of losing their independence. (They made scatalogical jokes, too, but I’ll spare the polite those.)