I can’t help but feel hopeless

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I’ve seen all the ones that could help😂 don’t get me wrong, they have helped, just not as much with avoiding lust.
 
I know, but I’m not convinced someboy is scrupulous. Beating yourself up for a sin can indicate three things: (1) you really have a sin problem, and you need God to break through with His love, (2) you lack understanding of what sin is, or (3) you are scrupulous. It doesn’t always mean #3.
 
Probably should’ve mentioned in the original post, I am indeed scrupulous. (name removed by moderator) knows that because she has been helping me through messages for a while now
 
OK, I’ll take your word for it. It could still be the case that he doesn’t understand the moral law the way he should. If perchance he thinks that glancing too long at a girl, without thinking about sex, is a mortal sin, the I don’t think he understands law correctly.

(BTW, I realize some people on CAF disagree with me about this. I haven’t been convinced by their arguments.)
 
Once again, do you know any websites I could go to to get a better understanding of this moral law?
 
Have you read the Catechism? JPII’s Theology of the Body, or a good summary thereof?

But ultimately, you need to talk to a mature Christian man face-to-face about this. That is not an option; it is a must. If you were sick with cancer, you could not treat yourself by watching videos or reading websites, no matter how good they were. You would need to go to a doctor. This is the same.
 
And if social anxiety is what is keeping you from doing that, then focus on the social anxiety as your #1 issue, not lust.
 
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you need to talk to a mature Christian man face-to-face about this. That is not an option; it is a must.
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You were the one who suggested I watch Fr. Mike’s videos, but one of his videos is literally “no spiritual director, no problem!”
 
Someboy113 said:
You were the one who suggested I watch Fr. Mike’s videos, but one of his videos is literally “no spiritual director, no problem!”
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I haven’t said you need a spiritual director (though maybe you do). I said that you need a virtuous Christian man in your life who you talk to face-to-face about these issues.
 
Sounds harder to find than a spiritual director, but thanks for the advice.
 
Yes I have a large family who are all Catholic. My uncles all live far away, and my dad would simply not be a good person to talk to about this, trust me.
 
Maybe you can talk with your uncles on the phone. It’s not quite as good as speaking face-to-face, but might be of some help.
 
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Someboy113 said:
…my dad would simply not be a good person to talk to about this, trust me.
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I’m sorry to hear that, and I suspect it is at the root of a lot of your difficulties. If you happen to be going to college soon, there would be a really good chance to find older men there, in ministries, that could help guide you through all this.
 
No my dad is far from the root of my difficulties, he just wouldn’t be a good person to talk to about this. He isn’t like a bad person or anything.
 
Someboy113 said:
No my dad is far from the root of my difficulties, he just wouldn’t be a good person to talk to about this. He isn’t like a bad person or anything.
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I’m a dad. It is our job to be approachable and sympathetic. If you don’t feel your dad is approachable and sympathetic, that’s not good. But perhaps there’s some other reason you think he wouldn’t be a good person to talk to. No need to explain.
 
How do you know i wasnt in despair,hopeless,depressed or full of scrupules?😦 or even now?
 
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Still find my post very positive.
As for spiritual directors and confessors of course
God bless
 
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