I did not need to know this

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catholic1seeks said:
Let me tell you this. I am Catholic, but I am also gay
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Engaging in homosexual acts is gravely sinful. No active homosexual can be a faithful Catholic. And if an active homosexual receives Holy Communion, he commits another grave sin.
 
I can understand how you wish things were different. But please don’t wish you didn’t know the truth!

If he knows you know, and still love him, and want to see him, this could give him great comfort and strength to return to a clear conscience.

I’m not suggesting to have an overwhelming agenda to only want him to remain chaste, but that you love him anyway, and still hope him to be chaste.

Help him know you are a sincere friend during ANY period of his life, and you may be able to be a positive force in his desire to becoming chaste.

Just imagine the struggle he must face, if he is to be chaste, in his temptation!! And you must be the bigger person of you are to compel him towards chastity.

And possibly, he will find female companionship one day. But don’t count on that.
 
As others have said, why is it always about sex?

I’m committed to church teaching (even if I fail, often).
 
I agree. And on the one hand people understandably say that gay folk should not make sexuality a public issue, on the other hand, don’t understand when it is kept as a secret.
margaret42 said:
I for one have a lot of embarrassment discussing sex.
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That brings to mind a conversation I had with my mom one time. I am not married [with aspergers, I don’t think it would really work out too well] My mom and my sisters talk about their sex lives from time to time, so one day, citing that fact, she asked if I had a sex life. I thought I would die. I told her if I did, she would be the very last one to find out about it!
 
That’s because they go too far about it and call everyone else stoned-hearted pharisees.
 
Saxum said:
I don’t know any straight man who doesn’t feel sick thinking of two men having sex. It’s gross. It turns my stomach.
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Did you just fly in from 1950 or what? And unless the two men, or two people, are having sex in front of your face, which you should find equally gross whether it’s two men, two women, or a man and a woman because you’re not supposed to be seeing that, you have no business thinking about what two people do in private.

Your post turns my stomach.
 
"My grandson graduated from college and moved to a different state. His mother took me aside and told me that he is gay, but not to tell anyone about it. I haven’t breathed a word to anyone…

I did not need to know this. It seems he wants very little to do with his family.

The best times with him were when he was a child…"

You can pray for him. That may be what his mother wanted, consciously or subconsciously.

Why would you want to others this? Who would you want to tell?

Do you have contact with your grandson?
 
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Sounds a shame. You will be in my prayers and I hope things get better for you and your family
 
woolycaterpillar said:
Things have been very trying lately. My grandson graduated from college and moved to a different state. His mother took me aside and told me that he is gay, but not to tell anyone about it. I haven’t breathed a word to anyone.

It left me feeling empty inside, and sad. He moved to live with his current BF.

I did not need to know this. It seems he wants very little to do with his family.

The best times with him were when he was a child and we used to go to the zoo and other things. I will always treasure the times we spent together when he was small.
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It sounds like you mean ’ the times we spent together when I didn’t know he was gay’.
 
Most kids really cringe when they find themselves thinking about the fact that their parents have sex. I hope most grandparents are more mature than that. But if not, then I will tell you what I told my kid. STOP THINKING ABOUT IT!!!

Your grandson is the same person today as he was the day before you found out he was gay. Leave it at that and love him the same as you loved him the day before you knew he was gay. It is really simple.
 
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People change especially when kids grow up. In fact change is a popular television motif.
 
JulianN said:
Just don’t think about people you know having sex. I’d be pretty disappointed if I thought our friends spent time thinking about my husband’s and my sex life.
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I rarely think about homosexuals. They’re not relevant to my life and I have no homosexual friends - although I have several acquaintances.

Although I do pray for the homosexuals I know. I also pray for the alcoholics and drug addicts too. I place them all in the same category because they all abuse something that was created good.
 
Although we’re not asked to shun people, you don’t have to like everybody. Keep with people who “raise your spirits”, not bring them down
 
margaret42 said:
Although we’re not asked to shun people, you don’t have to like everybody. Keep with people who “raise your spirits”, not bring them down
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I agree, Margaret. I don’t shun homosexuals and I don’t discriminate against anybody. But I don’t like their sins. And I keep away from people who embrace the homosexual lifestyle. I don’t want to give anybody the impression that I condone their sins.
 
Who are you to decide who’s feelings are valid and whose arent?
 
Well, this thread has sure gotten meaner and more combative since my last post. Threads on homosexuality tend to do that. Why not get back on track in helping the OP?
 
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