I am in the United States right now, but as a child I lived in Europe and Asia as well. I was born in 1990.My first question is what country are you in.
Is it possible your records were lost through misfortune
I was hoping to get support and advice on this thread, but most of the posters are calling me a liar and insulting my parents I do not understand.It might become very difficult to track down all your records. I suggest you and your wife sit with your priest, he is responsible for your souls , Talk with him and take his advice. This is not your fault or doing.
Let your priest guide you and your wife in your current marriage, whatever it’s status.
If you must attend RCIA for a couple of years, enjoy the process and get involved with it. Take it as an opportunity to learn and grow.
You are in my prayers
The Church makes clerical mistakes like anyone else. Everyone makes mistakes, that’s why pencils have erasers. A number of years ago, a neighbor died and he owned a plot in one of the Catholic churchyards around here. The church had planted someone else with the same name in his spot 40 years previously.It’s very unfortunate.
No one is calling you a liar. We are saying that someone is wrong or confused…whether that’s your parents, the priest, or yourself.mp through onerous hoops.
What is strange is that this was not discovered when you were Confirmed or Married. Both of those Sacraments required a valid, official, sealed
What? Where did she call you a liar?@Roseeurekacross I understand why my wife left. She assumed I was Catholic when I never was. My whole life has been ruined over the past 4 days because of this. The last thing I need is to be called a liar.
Rose never did, her answers were helpful and supportive. but other people have insinuated that I am lying about this situationWhat? Where did she call you a liar?
She’s upset because our child is very sick and is in the hospital. He will recover but I am no longer allowed to visit him while she is there. She is also mad at my parents for dropping this news right as my child is sick and needed my care.No one here is calling you a liar. We are going by what we know and some of us are employed by our diocese and know of what we speak with regards to sacramental records. If indeed you managed to fall through the cracks each time that a current copy of a baptismal record was needed, it’s truly unfortunate. As I said earlier, contact your Bishop if your parish priest refuses to do anything other than say, “oh well, everything is invalid and now you need two years of RCIA”. That is not what he should be doing. As far as your wife leaving you…I’m thinking there is way more to that issue than a nonexistent baptismal certificate and questionable sacramental reception. I personally would go to another parish and if that priest didn’t offer to work with you on a quick resolution (and offer an explanation of getting this taken care of ASAP to your wife), I’d call the Bishop and make arrangements for marriage counseling.
Amen.if your parish priest refuses to do anything other than say, “oh well, everything is invalid and now you need two years of RCIA”. That is not what he should be doing
My parents don’t understand why this is such a big deal. They said “it will take 5 minuets, stop making a mountain out of a molehill”. They have also called me a crybaby and a bad father because my child has a illness that we have no control over.We can only hope your parents’ timing of this disclosure was out of guilt and concern, given the illness of your child and a realization of our mortality. Your wife is overwhelmed, as I’m sure you are, too. A child’s serious illness causes severe emotional strain on the parents…the worry, the fatigue- I can relate to that. Please see if the Catholic chaplain or priest assigned to the hospital might have some recommendations for you; both with regards to your parents’ disclosure and providing pastoral care for you and your wife at this time. May St Raphael, patron of healing and marriages, intercede for you and your family.
Again, this two year RCIA requirement for someone in the situation you describe seems completely crazy. Maybe speak to some other priests about your situation and your desire for baptism and the convalidation of your marriage@Wesrock now i do know, and my wife is heartbroken that she married a non baptized catholic. She is devastated that I have to wait over 2 years until being baptized. She feels as if she was lied too as she wanted to marry a catholic and I was never one even if I had no idea
Or he received the subsequent sacraments at a parish that didn’t perform it’s due diligence. He said he was born in South Korea – is it possible he received (or thought he received) his other sacraments there as well and they weren’t as meticulous with the record-checking?Your parents are joking with you (not funny) or this isn’t a real situation.
They sound spiteful. For whatever reasons they have, they aren’t happy you practice your faith and are raising your child to do the same. I seriously think they made the story up. No way you get through all of those sacraments without having a verified baptismal certificate presented. Research where the records would be assuming you were baptized. Make some phone calls or send some email and verify for yourself that no baptismal certificate exists.They told our young child to his face that his parents were stupid and to resist going to mass.
So she knows it’s not your fault, and she still moved out? That’s very odd.She is also mad at my parents for dropping this news right as my child is sick and needed my care.