" I know too much about life to be optimistic"

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Its cool you’re in grad school. My nephew is finishing up his PhD. Long, very hard road. And working 2 jobs. No wonder you feel exhausted. I’m sorry you feel the world is cold and all are desensitized. That’s an isolating feeling. My mom use to say—I’ve just got a case of the mully-grubs. No idea where that term came from but we knew that she was struggling with something and was working through it. Anyone in the family can say mully-grubs and its an instant notification—hey, got a weight on my shoulder right now, etc.

I think just about everybody has hit that wall during their life. When you just get so blame tired and down and you throw up your hands and say–oh what’s the point. Its a sad place to be.

But its a place that we pass THROUGH. This will not last forever. Can I promise sunny days and rainbows? Of course not. There is a difference between Heaven and Earth. But I can say if you sit quietly and tell God what is running through your mind, your fears, your sadness, that He will hear you. I can promise you if you offer to help someone else in just a small quiet way with kindness on your heart, the results will kind of blow you away.

blink of an eye…100 years…buried and rotting away.
Well, yes, that’s how it works. We are born, we live our life, and we pass away. But if that’s all you wanted to do, you wouldn’t be in grad school. You wouldn’t be working 2 jobs to cover it. You wouldn’t be asking for help. And there is so much more to the born/live/die cry. Much more. Hang on. Life is worth living. Kindness is there, sometimes you just have to extend your hand to see it.

I’m so glad you came here to talk. Its a pleasure to meet you. And seeing what you are accomplishing----you made me feel my age. Good gravy, you’ve got some energy.

 

[Luvz2travel]

i’m a pessimist. i really do’t know why anybody can be optimistic. i’m 22 and in grad school and its just constant misery especially working two other jobs to afford to go through it… the world is so cold and everybody is so desensitize to each other… i don’t mind grad school but i know life is just going to get much harder…but whats the point: you wake up, go to your s*it job 9-5.come home alone. bed then repeat.

that just life: just s*t because in the grand scale of time we are nothing but a blink of an eye and in 100 years from now we will all be buried underground rotting away. sigh…i really don’t know why i get out of bed anymore … i really don’t see it getting better. advice?

I prefer to look at things this way I’m a realist. The only thing I can control is how I live and what I do. I have no control over others and little influence so I do the the best with what I have and live the best life I can while I’m here. Not always easy with all the goes on in the news but then I don’t watch the news at all anymore. Rather not know what the idiots in Washington are up to anymore. Maybe that bad but it keeps me sane and I’m much happier. Best of luck.

 

[estesbob]

I prefer to look at things this way I’m a realist. The only thing I can control is how I live and what I do. I have no control over others and little influence so I do the the best with what I have and live the best life I can while I’m here. Not always easy with all the goes on in the news but then I don’t watch the news at all anymore. Rather not know what the idiots in Washington are up to anymore. Maybe that bad but it keeps me sane and I’m much happier. Best of luck.

Agreed-we have little control over what happens in this world-we have total control over how we choose to react to it.

 

[meltzerboy]

i’m a pessimist. i really do’t know why anybody can be optimistic. i’m 22 and in grad school and its just constant misery especially working two other jobs to afford to go through it… the world is so cold and everybody is so desensitize to each other… i don’t mind grad school but i know life is just going to get much harder…but whats the point: you wake up, go to your s*it job 9-5.come home alone. bed then repeat.

that just life: just s*t because in the grand scale of time we are nothing but a blink of an eye and in 100 years from now we will all be buried underground rotting away. sigh…i really don’t know why i get out of bed anymore … i really don’t see it getting better. advice?

Your feelings are not unique although you may think they are. Many young people your age go through a period of questioning, disillusionment and even despair. For most, this emotional malaise eventually changes when they gain more life experience, learn coping mechanisms to deal with the bad times in life, and especially when they come to appreciate life and its many joys for the gift that it truly is. This appreciation takes on a special dimension particularly when you find someone to share the good and the bad with and after you finish graduate school and embark on a satisfying career. But beware the middle-age crisis, another period of malaise many experience during which it is important to re-evaluate your priorities in life. You must learn to give to others as well as care for yourself.

 

[Vic_Taltrees_UK]

Just found your other thread.

Casting my mind back to when i didn’t have much time I would say piggy-back on some old interest (wholesome) that is dormant and have a couple of books in the corner and flip them open to chill.

Some years ago I decided to re-create my childhood collection of aeroplane books. That kept me away from harmful subjects.

I have joined some classe for the autumn and that reminds me that evening classes are a way of occupying oneself in front of others. The relationships are relaxed because they are not the focus.

 

[george92]

what really grinds my gears is that i give,give, and give, and people constantly underestimate and under appreciate the work i put in …its like they have their heads up their a## that i can’t hang with the best of them? think again!

 

[Ricky_C]

what really grinds my gears is that i give,give, and give, and people constantly underestimate and under appreciate the work i put in …its like they have their heads up their a## that i can’t hang with the best of them? think again!

Sorry that you’ve had to deal with this; just remember that it’s God’s approval that matters; if you’re looking for other people to give you approval, you’re going to be disappointed a lot. Not that God will always approve, either, but his approval is infinitely right and good. Stay humble, don’t judge others, and do the will of God, and eagerly keep in mind that He’ll save the righteous through His divine power.
May God through the Trinity guide you and all who are dealing with these issues on a path of righteousness, and may He bless you all with wisdom! May God bless you!

 

[GrandmaLaLa]

I am sorry you are so depressed. There are many ways to improve that and I am sure there is a counseling center at your university that can help you. Seriously, what you feel is not typical of someone in their 20’s with everything to look forward to: parties, dating, marriage, children, a career, travel, celebrations, deepening your faith, reading, swimming, skiing, music, concerts, theater, a Porsche, a great job, money, etc.

You do not mention friends, family, fun? What do you do for fun? How do you get out and about and live in the world --not just in a grad school, job, to bed, existence?

Sheila

 

[BobCatholic]

The secular world is quickly becoming the Titanic. No wonder you’re pessimistic!

Ask Jesus to be your lifeboat. He will be your source of hope and optimism.