I need advice with mass attendence

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Obsidi4n

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I work out of town so the plan was set for us to all go to mass today.

I went to vigil mass by myself.

my wife took our kids, 9/6/2 to the mass in our town.

when i got home she had a meltdown about how the kids were so bad they left right before the liturgy of the Eucharist about 35-40 minutes in.

then before i could say anything she told me she was done with everything and not going to mass tomorrow, shes been having emotional melt downs all the time about her depression, weight, family, doesnt matter its all the time it could be anything.

now im unsure of what to do, am i obligated to take my kids to another mass and am i sinning if my kids dont attend mass tomorrow? or did they stay long enough to fulfill the obligation?
 
As I understand it, the present Code of Canon Law does not prescribe any definite portion or duration of the Mass that fulfills or does not fulfill the Sunday obligation. Moreover, the children aged 2 and 6 are canonically infants and have no obligations under canon law.

I would say just to use your common sense, and if it is possible to get your children to Mass, do so, but if it is not possible for whatever reason, I wouldn't worry about it. The Sunday Mass obligation is not absolute, and there could be any number of legitimate reasons you would not be able to fulfill it.
 
ok thanks, im gonna try to convince my wife to take our 9 year old tomorrow morning that way they are both attending, if she refuses i will take her to mass because my conscience cant allow me to do nothing otherwise it may be a mortal sin i dont know
 
Obsidi4n said:
ok thanks, im gonna try to convince my wife to take our 9 year old tomorrow morning that way they are both attending, if she refuses i will take her to mass because my conscience cant allow me to do nothing otherwise it may be a mortal sin i dont know
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If your conscience tells you that you must take the child to Mass, then do that. Whether the 9-year-old fulfilled his obligation, I cannot say with certainty, and in any event, under normal circumstances, the child could not go alone. (I say "under normal circumstances" because, for instance, if we were in small villages many years ago, yes, a child could go alone, but in American life today, that would probably not be advisable.)
 
"I" would seek that you and your wife are comfortable with one another and with mass attendance plans. Even talk to Father about this, as we are intended to live in peace. Women have different stressors than men. My advice is that both of you must be at peace within yourselves and between yourselves. This may require counseling, spiritual direction or perhaps some other method. Certainly prayer and time spent before Christ at Adoration or reposed in the Tabernacle when at all possible. offering the Rosary together is a great path to peace.
For a time, DW and I attended half a mass each while the other kept tabs on our hyperactive son. God knows what we are made of and the challenges that children pose.
 
Find a church that has a childrens' room separated from the rest of the church. Many cannot do so because there just isn't one within easy reach but maybe if you looked, you'd find one.
 
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