I need help.

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Thank you everyone, please keep praying for me as I really need help.

I am trying my best to be positive and put my faith in the Lord but the pain just keeps getting worse and worse. People tell me it will get better “in time” and while this may be true I have so far seen no proof of this as the longer it has been the more unbarable the pain has become.

I am back at universtiy now and I thought it would help me as I have a lot to distract my mind with however it is worse than being at home. Usually when I am uni I can look forward to a certain weekend/week/other holiday where we will be reunited and have a lot of fun together and be happy but I do not have this anymore.
We spoke yesterday as I had to inform him I am posting his cheque and depening on the post will depend on when he receives it (theres strikes here) and it was a brief conversation but it was awful.

Please pray for him to get over his depression and see clearly, I have read numerous interviews with people who suffer/have suffered with depression and the effects it has had on their relationships. About 90% said it made them feel like they were no longer in love, very suddenly, and most broke up, but they all realised after varrying amounts of time that they are in love and it was depression making them feel numb or different. I truely believe that there is a chance once his depression is sorted or at least managable that he could come back to me. I was his rock, I was one of this best things in his life (his words) and he has pushed me away. He told me after the break up he is so low he doesn’t feel like he deserves to be happy - this could be his brain tricking him into thinking he doesnt love me or isn’t worthy of my love and that could be why we broke up. If so I would like it to change for the better soon.

Essentially all I want is for him to be happy and for me to be happy. I will accept either moving on completely or us getting back together (obviously I’d prefer the latter). I am praying so much for God’s will to happen soon and either outcome to occur sooner rather than later as I honestly feel like my life is slowly crumbling away.

Please help by praying for us both and if you have any words of wisdom that would be useful please share.

I am doing my best to be positive but I can’t seem to stop crying at the moment. I feel like this pain will never end.

Thank you all and God bless you
x
 
I’ve just found out that his sister is pregnant. I feel like I’m missing out on being an aunty :confused:
I really hope we can work it out 😦
 
Well,

We have spoke a bit the past couple of days (only on facebook chat but still).

Hopefully we are starting to develop a friendship again because without that nothing more can potentially grow.
Tonights conversation was pretty normal and nice. Tonight will also be my last day of my Novena so I am happy I decided to start one.

I truely believe we can get things back so I am just praying for God’s will to pan out.
I have offered my burden up to Jesus and asked him to take care of my heart.

Please keep praying for me and my ex though as it is still super hard.

Thank you all and God bless
xx
 
Thank you.

I am still very unhappy but I am trying to be positive and remind myself that we are now friends (sort of) and that hopefully it can lead to more.
I honestly believe he is my soul mate and that is why I feel so broken now that I am no longer with him. This break up would strengthen us as a couple if we were to get back together and thats the only positive spin I can put on things right now. I believe God has given me the signs that we will get back together so therefore I guess I just have to be positive, paitent and faithful its just obviously hard.

God bless you all
xx
 
milletsmo,

God has a plan for you. Keep trusting in Him.

Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Hail Mary full of grace, the Lord is with Thee. Blessed art thou among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus. Holy Mary mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death…AMEN!!
 
thank you all so so much.

we have been talking on fb chat for about 2-3 hours. at the start of the convo it was just very general stuff and his laptop died so he text me to apologise and say that hes trying his best to get back online. Usually you would not send this kind of text to a friend if you were cut off in a minor conversation, like we werent talking about anything serious at all.

now, randomly he said something about eating a lot of ice cream and he hopes he doesnt go round. I said “what?” because it had no relevance to what i had previously said and he said “ice cream” and i said “you hope your tummy doesnt go round?” and he said yes. I know this sounds like nothing major but we always used to say cute things like this to each other and i am hoping this is the start of him remembering how good we were and how much fun we used to have.

I finished my Novena last night so I think it is too coincidental for all these things to be happening unless the prayers are working (which we know they obviously do)

thank you all so much and please keep praying for us both.

God bless xxxx
 
This morning is super painful. I wish God could tell me 100% that I’d either get back with him or get over it. I honestly don’t think I’ll everfully get over this loss though. 😦
 
Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Every time I try to be positive theres always something that makes me sad again.

This time its stress from Uni and even though it has nothing to do with my ex it makes me miss him because normally I’d be able to call him and he’d make me happy again. Argh!

😦

xxx
 
A couple of hours ago I found out that a girl who is supposed to be my friend and was only friends with my ex because he was my bf has received some post from him.

First of all I am annoyed bcause when we split she messaged me loads to find out what happend etc and thinking she was a friend I trusted her and told her. However as soon as she found out she stopped messaging me and started becoming close and closer to him. They were never friendly enough to send post! She has recently moved to the other end of the country for uni and she said its because she mentioned to him how homesick she was so he sent her a letter and some leaves from home. I know its a nice thing for him to do but I can’t believe hes doing that to her and not to me.

Second of all, since Janurary she has (at least) hooked up with 7 different guys - and I know for a fact she slept with at least 5 of those! I know we’re not supposed to judge etc but she is defo the kind of person who wants what she can’t have, then she gets it “really likes” it for a while then gets bored and moves on.
My ex KNOWS THIS and HATES these kinds of girls, yet, like all the other guys, he is getting sucked in by her “charms”.
In the past two years she lost weight and got more confident (tho its probably false) and thats when she started getting with so many different people. She obviously loves the attention and needs to be centre of attention with the men.
I know you might say she wont do anything as shes my friend HOWEVER a few weeks before she moved to uni she fell out with her BEST FRIEND because she started sleeping with someone her best friend liked - I said to her I didn’t understand why she’d potentially ruin her friendship for someone she only had a matter of weeks with - because lets face it they weren’t going to do long distance and low and behold they haven’t! So if she can do that to her best friend, she obviously has no problem doing that to any other “friend”.

Because she lives far away it helps, however she is going home for Halloween and I know she’ll manage to convince my ex to go out. I have my friend going to the same club as her to spy and see if anything happens and report back. I hope he doesn’t go in all honesty. I really do, but at the same time if he doesn’t he might see her at another point that weekend and my friend won’t be there to witness so I hope if anything does happen that my friend is there to see and tell me.
Part of me really believes he won’t do anything with her because he doesn’t like those kind of girls and he’s not that kind of person to hurt me like that. However I’m also having doubts because I truely believed he’d never break up with me and he did. And he is being sucked into her charms even if it only is friendship.

I am trying to pray and stay positive, but I feel like whenever I move one step forward something comes along and pushes me 30 steps backwards.

I just want to know WHY God is letting this all happen. I cannot cope!!!

My friend said the worst case is if he gets with her it wouldn’t last because A. she always gets bored and B. she lives miles away now and that if they did hook up it might be what he needs to realise he wants to be with me (or what I need to get over him). But I’m trying not to think about it because honestly it is too hard to cope with.

Please please please help me!!!
 
Please help

I feel like I’m dying and feel like God is deserting me.

😦
 
milletsmo,

I’m glad to hear things are getting a little better. FWIW though, remember that when you ask God to show you the way, or change a persons heart or whatever you must then step aside and let God in. The prayer request, by Him, for Him and with Him, is to allow God to do His work, that can’t happen when we continue to try and fix or change things ourselves. If you truly want God to do His Will with this relationship you must ask and leave it entirely in His Hands.

I know first hand, because I’m an addict I am continually getting in the way of His Work and His Plan, even after I’ve laid it at His Feet.

May God Bless and Protect you both!
 
thank you

I don’t know what FWIW means tho, but I still understood where you’re coming from.

I am trying my best to let God do His will, I really am. Its just hard. I finished my Novena and we were friends again which is great and I was feeling positive for a couple of days. Then last night I found out about my supposed friend.
I just feel like I go one step forward and 30 back. I feel like the more I try to be faithful the more (probably because of the devil) I get pushed further into despair. I am trying to trust in God I am but it is so hard when you feel like a black cloud is hanging above your life.

😦

Thank you though
God Bless
x
 
Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
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