I REALLY want to recieve communion, Please Help!

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Today i went to confessions. Went GREAT. Much better than my previous one, the first one in like 6 yeats.

I told him i was trying not to cuss anymore but it still slips out. He understood.
Well, i was excited today because tomorrow i would recieve communion first time in like 2 weeks. 😦
But i was jokingly saying i couldnt find something for my "A **) because i was looking for clothes

Would this be mortal. Or EVEN a sin. It was to offend no one, but I wouldnt want to offend God.

And yes, I AM scrupulous.
I have been trying not to cuss, and i said that in confession today. I dont want to offend God. 😦
 
Today i went to confessions. Went GREAT. Much better than my previous one, the first one in like 6 yeats.

I told him i was trying not to cuss anymore but it still slips out. He understood.
Well, i was excited today because tomorrow i would recieve communion first time in like 2 weeks. 😦
But i was jokingly saying i couldnt find something for my "A **) because i was looking for clothes

Would this be mortal. Or EVEN a sin. It was to offend no one, but I wouldnt want to offend God.

And yes, I AM scrupulous.
I have been trying not to cuss, and i said that in confession today. I dont want to offend God. 😦
You do not go to communion for that?
Too bad.
In the beginning of the mass, we ask for the forgivenness of God. “Kyrie Eleison”. Go to communion every time you go to mass.
Every day on getting up and going to bed as ask for God’s pardon.
And go to comnunion. He came for the sinners not for the just.
 
You do not go to communion for that?
Too bad.
In the beginning of the mass, we ask for the forgivenness of God. “Kyrie Eleison”. Go to communion every time you go to mass.
Every day on getting up and going to bed as ask for God’s pardon.
And go to comnunion. He came for the sinners not for the just.
i know we have argued this before but this is HORRIBLE advice. Receiving Holy Communion while in a state of mortal sin only causes a person to incur more sin.

You say “He came for the sinners not for the just.”

That isn’t entirely correct either. Every person is called to turn away from sin and beg for forgiveness. I would ask you to look for some kind of church authority that says just go anyway. I would be interested to know where you got that idea from.

To the OP:

Cursing in itself is not a mortal sin. It’s all about the emotion behind the words you say and the context in which you say them. If you were to say that joke in front of a group of children, it would be sinful not because its a horrible thing to do but because of the scandal it would cause the children. That being said, it is best not to use foul language because once you start, its hard to stop.
 
There is a difference between vulgarities and blasphemies. The latter involve the use of God’s Name in vain and is sinful; the former only offends society and is not.

The worst of it is that vulgarities are more frowned upon by society and banned from a lot of movies and TV shows while actual blasphemy is not. Horrible disloaction of priorities…

Anyway, try saying a little prayer every time you hear God’s name taken in vain or do it yourself… I can’t think of the one I know (haven’t had my caffeine yet 😉 ) but I’m sure there’s one online!
 
I can’t see any way to consider that mortal sin. You can receive Communion.
 
Yes, your being scrupulous.

Go to communion - there are many opportunities during mass to show your sorrow as pointed out and then go to confession at the next opportunity especially with Easter being 2 weeks away…Its not a mortal sin so you can go.
 
I said it infront of my older sister. Ive been trying to stop,
I just said in a joking way, that i " couldnt find something for my bare nude a*s"

Not to offend anyone. Or blaspehmy.
Urgh. This is driving me nuts. I might refrain from communion.
😦
 
I said it infront of my older sister. Ive been trying to stop,
I just said in a joking way, that i " couldnt find something for my bare nude a*s"

Not to offend anyone. Or blaspehmy.
Urgh. This is driving me nuts. I might refrain from communion.
😦
Oh, for goodness sake, it’s just rude, it’s not taking the Lord’s name in vain. It’s not a mortal sin - I don’t think it would even count as a venial sin, to be honest. How can it be blasphemy? You didn’t mention the name of God or anything to do with God.

Almighty God isn’t a prissy maiden aunt, you know. Don’t refuse His wonderful gift of Holy Communion just because you said a vulgar word.
 
I ended up going.

Its still hard for me sometimes to be under obedience…its not like i chose too be like this…but I have to put my foot down. Sometimes it is hard for me to tell mortal from venials…
 
I ended up going.

Its still hard for me sometimes to be under obedience…its not like i chose too be like this…but I have to put my foot down. Sometimes it is hard for me to tell mortal from venials…
I was once terribly scrupulous myself for a few months. I thought everything was a mortal sin from the way I sat down to listening to The Priests’ Ave Maria. Father Vincent Serpa gave me excellent advice on the matter that helped in the long-run: If you aren’t sure it’s a mortal sin, it’s not. Mortal sin requires absolute certainty. Remember that you have a God that loves you, not a God that watches your every move so he can catch you doing something bad and damn you to hell for it. He wants you in heaven with him for all eternity. Know that saying a bad word is most certainly not a mortal sin, and this should never stop you from receiving the Eucharist unless there are other things factored in. If you ever need help you can message me privately. I am currently helping one scrupulous person and am trying my best to stop someone before he becomes scrupulous, and to add to this I have my own personal experience with scrupulocity, so I will try my best to help you.

If there is any thing I would recommend, it would be getting a spiritual adviser and reading the book Scruples and Sainthood. They will both hopefully help you to conquer this.
 
Maria1993,
Don’t worry about it. Foul language in this instance is not a mortal sin. At worst it’s venial, and probably not even that. Anyway, at the beginning of Mass we pray the Penitential Act, where we ask forgiveness for our venial sins and the intercession of the Blessed Virgin, the angels and saints, and the priest gives us absolution. Remember that the Eucharist burns away venial sin, so if all you have are venial sins receive Communion and they are forgiven. For something like this, I doubt you have anything to worry about. But I would suggest breaking the habit of foul language because it hampers our ability to interact with others and sometimes offends or gives scandal. If you completely break yourself of the habit, then you won’t have to worry about foul language offending or scandalizing or preventing you from properly interacting with others.

Remember CCC1857: ‘For a sin to be mortal, three conditions must be met: “Mortal sin is sin whose object is grave matter and which is also committed with full knowledge and deliberate consent.”’
 
I ended up going.

Its still hard for me sometimes to be under obedience…its not like i chose too be like this…but I have to put my foot down. Sometimes it is hard for me to tell mortal from venials…
Accidental swearing is not a sin. You need to do something on purpose for it to be a sin.

And swearing is not grave matter where it is not done maliciously to hurt somebody. You only need to refrain from Communion if you knowingly and purposely commit a grave sin.

Receiving Holy Communion will actually forgive you your venial sins if you are sorry for them, and will bring you into closer friendship with God.

Mortal sins are when you break the Ten Commandments directly, knowingly and intentionally. These are the main mortal sins:

Idolatry, atheism, denying one’s faith, occult superstition, despair, presumption, blasphemy, missing Holy Days of Obligation without good reason, disrespect to parents and rightful authority (e.g. lawbreaking), leading others into serious sin, killing or hurting others (in word or in deed) or intending to do so, hatred and wishing others evil, sexual sins, stealing, calumny, malicious gossip, revealing harmful secrets, bearing false witness and lying to seriously hurt others, covetousness (being not just a little jealous but being hateful and resentful to another person for possessing something you don’t.)
 
Isn’t it correct not to receive communion if you have engaged in fornication?
Another question would be: right before the sacrifice the priest used to say, “Lord I am not worthy to receive you BUT ONLY SAY THE WORD AND I SHALL BE HEALED.” When I was a brand new returning Catholic I interpreted that as I was being pardoned for my sins to receive communion. But then I thought, he says, “only say the word…”. Is he saying the word (of forgiveness) at that moment?

Another point is that this phrase has now changed after many years to, " Lord I am not worthy to ENTER UNDER YOUR ROOF but only say the word and MY SOUL shall be healed." This made me think that it was changed because too many people thought the original phrase meant that they were forgiven and didn’t have to go to confession. I don’t know.
 
You do not go to communion for that?
Too bad.
In the beginning of the mass, we ask for the forgivenness of God. “Kyrie Eleison”. Go to communion every time you go to mass.
kmuestwin is right when he called this horrible advice. ^

Not only that, but the OP (maria) said that she hadn’t been to confession in 6 years yet takes communion every week. I couldn’t help but wonder to myself (considering the topic of this thread) if at her confession she had confessed the grave sin of taking communion week after week for 6 years when not in a state of grace.
Maybe she is super-human though and can remain in a state of grace for 6 years without committing mortal sin or needing confession, it is not my place to judge. Her post did make me wonder though.

Relevant info that some may find helpful.

The Holy Eucharist is the most important of the seven sacraments because, in this and in no other sacrament, we receive the very body and blood, soul and divinity of Jesus Christ. Innumerable, precious graces come to us through the reception of Holy Communion.
… Before going to Communion, however, there are several things one needs to know.

To receive Communion worthily, you must be in a state of grace, have made a good confession since your last mortal sin, believe in transubstantiation, observe the Eucharistic fast, and, finally, not be under an ecclesiastical censure such as excommunication.

First, you must be in a state of grace. “Whoever, therefore, eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord in an unworthy manner will be guilty of profaning the body and blood of the Lord. Let a man examine himself, and so eat of the bread and drink of the cup” (1 Cor. 11:27–28). **This is an absolute requirement which can never be dispensed. To receive the Eucharist without sanctifying grace in your soul profanes the Eucharist in the most grievous manner. **

A mortal sin is any sin whose matter is grave and which has been committed willfully and with knowledge of its seriousness. Grave matter includes, but is not limited to, murder, receiving or participating in an abortion, homosexual acts, having sexual intercourse outside of marriage or in an invalid marriage, and deliberately engaging in impure thoughts (Matt. 5:28–29). Scripture contains lists of mortal sins (for example, 1 Cor. 6:9–10 and Gal. 5:19–21). For further information on what constitutes a mortal sin, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church.

Out of habit and out of fear of what those around them will think if they do not receive Communion, some Catholics, in a state of mortal sin, choose to go forward and offend God rather than stay in the pew while others receive the Eucharist. The Church’s ancient teaching on this particular matter is expressed in the Didache, an early Christian document written around A.D. 70, which states: “Whosoever is holy *, let him approach. Whosoever is not, let him repent” (Didache 10).

Second, you must have been to confession since your last mortal sin. The Didache witnesses to this practice of the early Church. “But first make confession of your faults, so that your sacrifice may be a pure one” (Didache 14).

The 1983 Code of Canon Law indicates that the same requirement applies today. “A person who is conscious of a grave sin is not to . . . receive the body of the Lord without prior sacramental confession unless a grave reason is present and there is no opportunity of confessing; in this case the person is to be mindful of the obligation to make an act of perfect contrition, including the intention of confessing as soon as possible” (CIC 916).

The requirement for sacramental confession can be dispensed if four conditions are fulfilled: (1) there must be a grave reason to receive Communion (for example, danger of death), (2) it must be physically or morally impossible to go to confession first, (3) the person must already be in a state of grace through perfect contrition, and (4) he must resolve to go to confession as soon as possible.

Third, you must believe in the doctrine of transubstantiation. “For anyone who eats and drinks without discerning the body eats and drinks judgment upon himself” (1 Cor. 11:29). Transubstantiation means more than the Real Presence. According to transubstantiation, the bread and wine are actually transformed into the actual body, blood, soul, and divinity of Christ, with only the appearances of bread and wine remaining. This is why, at the Last Supper, Jesus held what appeared to be bread and wine, yet said: “This is my body. . . . This is my blood” (Mark 14:22-24, cf. Luke 22:14-20). If Christ were merely present along side bread and wine, he would have said “This contains my body. . . This contains my blood,” which he did not say.

Fourth, you must observe the Eucharistic fast. Canon law states, “One who is to receive the most Holy Eucharist is to abstain from any food or drink, with the exception only of water and medicine, for at least the period of one hour before Holy Communion” (CIC 919 §1). Elderly people, those who are ill, and their caretakers are excused from the Eucharistic fast (CIC 191 §3). Priests and deacons may not dispense one obligated by the Eucharistic fast unless the bishop has expressly granted such power to them (cf. CIC 89).

Finally, one must not be under an ecclesiastical censure. Canon law mandates, “Those who are excommunicated or interdicted after the imposition or declaration of the penalty and others who obstinately persist in manifest grave sin are not to be admitted to Holy Communion” (CIC 915).

Provided they are in a state of grace and have met the above requirements, Catholics should receive the Eucharist frequently (cic 898).

catholic.com/tracts/who-can-receive-communion*
 
Today i went to confessions. Went GREAT. Much better than my previous one, the first one in like 6 yeats. (
Maybe I am misunderstanding but if this was your first confession in SIX YEARS and you received communion 2 weeks ago that is a mortal sin. We are bound to confess our sins at least once a year during the Lenten season, not doing so is mortally sinful. As the other posters stated, only taking the Lord’s name in vain constitutes mortal sin. It is best to not say vile words though.
 
No, i had been to Confession PRIOR to this.
I didnt have the knowledge back then that i have now. Which is why i am NOW attending and will be attending the Scaraments more, because i now know the rules.

I am not superhuman.
 
I didnt have the knowledge i have now, i didnt know the rules.
And this was my second confession, but i have met with the priest for spiritual guidance before my second confession.
I didnt even know not going to mass was a sin. I lacked knowledge. And thank you be to God i NOW know. Its like the Scrupulosity and intrusive thought brought me closer to him and am learning more.
Thats it really, I actually want to live out my faith now.

ANYWAYS REGARDING TO THE ORIGINAL POST… Thank you for your help… I have been trying to refrain from it…sometimes they just slip out and after that happens im just like “uh, man!”

I try to but at times when im just talking it just like slips out, usually when joking…when angry sometimes it happens in my thoughts though. Im trying to train myself and will pray for the help to stop.

I think i shall start that little rubber band on my wrist, so that everytime it slips out i snap the band,lol 😃
 
ent?

Another point is that this phrase has now changed after many years to, " Lord I am not worthy to ENTER UNDER YOUR ROOF but only say the word and MY SOUL shall be healed." This made me think that it was changed because too many people thought the original phrase meant that they were forgiven and didn’t have to go to confession. I don’t know.
No, johnyjones, you’ve got that back to front. The words are, ‘Lord, I am not worthy that you should enter under my roof, but only say the word and my soul shall be healed’. We are not entering under the Lord’s roof! Hasn’t your parish got pew-cards with the new words on?

Don’t you remember the Gospel account of the healing of the Centurion’s Servant? The words we say before Communion are a quote pf what the Centurion said, with the change of ‘my servant shall be healed’ to ‘my soul shall be healed’, to make it applicable. Read the Gospel account to understand why he is quoted - you will find that Jesus is impressed by his faith.
 
No, johnyjones, you’ve got that back to front. The words are, ‘Lord, I am not worthy that you should enter under my roof, but only say the word and my soul shall be healed’. We are not entering under the Lord’s roof! Hasn’t your parish got pew-cards with the new words on?

Don’t you remember the Gospel account of the healing of the Centurion’s Servant? The words we say before Communion are a quote pf what the Centurion said, with the change of ‘my servant shall be healed’ to ‘my soul shall be healed’, to make it applicable. Read the Gospel account to understand why he is quoted - you will find that Jesus is impressed by his faith.
You are right about the wording and I most certainly remember the centurion. My parish does not have pew cards in connection with this. Thanks for the correction. My question though was does the “original” wording or the current wording have any baring on the acceptance of communion. It seems a healing of sorts is rhetorically asked.
 
I didnt have the knowledge i have now, i didnt know the rules.
And this was my second confession, but i have met with the priest for spiritual guidance before my second confession.
I didnt even know not going to mass was a sin. I lacked knowledge. And thank you be to God i NOW know. Its like the Scrupulosity and intrusive thought brought me closer to him and am learning more.
Thats it really, I actually want to live out my faith now.
Well done, Maria1993. Good on you for wanting to live out your faith. It is important to be well aware of one’s sin and what it is and isn’t, but it is also important not to be scrupulous and remember that mortal sin requires full knowledge, grave matter and consent of the will.

A good rule of thumb is to confess possible sins that involve grave matter because then you’ll never leave a mortal sin unconfessed, and you can discuss with the priest to see if the other two factors were met.

Well done also for seeking to learn the faith. Once you learn the principles behind all this, it will all make much more sense.

May your desire to learn lead you closer to Him and enrich you spiritually. I wish you all the best in your walk with God.
 
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