I told my fiance I want to become Catholic

[Elf01]

It doesn’t. You’ll still be able to marry in the Church, but I agree with the people advising caution. Especially with his behavior and this post

It’s true that we are dependant on each other a great deal; I am quite ill currently and need his help to function on a day to day basis. I’m not sure that I could live on my own if I were to break up with him. If you can believe it, I was days away from checking out a Catholic church when I met him. But then we fell hard for each other and less than a year later I moved across the state to be with him. This is all so complicated and confusing.

I think you need to work towards being able to live independently if at all possible.

The Church advises against living together without marriage.
His behavior doesn’t reflect well on him
Even if everything seemed great, anything could happen to him.

 

[Xanthippe_Voorhees]

Xanthippe_Voorhees:

I mean this in all seriousness.

Please google the signs of a co-dependent and abusive relationship. Lashing out, namecalling and then pseudo-apologizing by “letting” you do something as he has done is not a good sign.

Your descriptions of events concern me a great deal.

It’s true that we are dependant on each other a great deal; I am quite ill currently and need his help to function on a day to day basis. I’m not sure that I could live on my own if I were to break up with him. If you can believe it, I was days away from checking out a Catholic church when I met him. But then we fell hard for each other and less than a year later I moved across the state to be with him. This is all so complicated and confusing.

If your in the US I would recommend looking a legal avenues for disabled people. Being that dependant on someone you are not married to and treats you the way you do is a recipie for disaster.

 

[Horton]

Do you have family you can count on? Would they help you leave the situation you’re in currently?

You may be able to get some help through the Catholic Church depending on where you live and the resources available.

Having a desire for the Catholic Church may be God’s way of letting you know something has to change in your life. If the BF is not supportive of your desires, even to the point of being critical, then you get to choose. Do you want the BF more than God or do you want God more than the BF? (There is really only one correct answer here).

I made that choice many years ago. Ended a relationship with the man who introduced me to the Catholic Church. I chose God instead of the relationship, which was the right choice. Over the years since I been extremely ill with a difficult chronic illness that took close to three years to diagnose. I medically retired from one career and now that I am stable in my illness, I started a new one. Life hasn’t gone according to plan at all since I made that choice, BUT…I can deal with all of it so much better with God in my life than I ever would have been able to do with that man in my life.

Choose God.

 

[Katherine438]

I’m sorry if this sounds rough, but in response to some bits of Satanism, my opinion would be to run, not walk, run away.