I want to become a born again Catholic, but I feel like I won't be welcomed

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Right now I would consider myself agnostic. But I really have a desire to become apart of the Catholic church again. It’s just I feel like a lot of the things I do and believe in contradics Catholic beliefs. To get the big one out of the way, I am pro-choice. I also curse, which through this website I learned is a mortal sin apparently!? I don’t masturbation is bad, and am quite confused how it’s considered a sin. I support lgbt rights. And I really have an issue with the traditional gender roles that I see being perpetuated between a husband and wife.
Anyway, despite these beliefs, can I still re-become a Catholic or is it pointless? I’m willing to bend on some of my beliefs, but a lot are set in stone.
 
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Hello_katie, welcome to the forum.
Were you baptized Catholic? Have you made your First communion and confirmation? It would help people answer if they knew the answers to this. And your approximate age.
 
I guess I just wanted to tackle everything at once. But it might be better to split it.
 
Oh yeah, sorry. I am 22 years old, and I was baptised a Catholic, received my first communion and confirmation 🙂
 
Also, as far as I know, the Church does not really teach any specific when it comes to gender roles other than the husband must love his wife like Jesus loves the Church and be willing to put his life on the line for her. In turn, the wife must love and obey her husband, but there is a lot of debate over what that part entails.

As for whether one or the other must stay in the home, skirt vs. pants, etc. the Church has no set teaching. Stuff like that is more typical of younger Protestant denominations whose idea of proper gender roles are informed by a particular era, as opposed to more ancient churches, like the Catholic and the Orthodox.
 
I guess because I was raised a Catholic and it’s all I know
 
If you want to get a thorough understanding of what exactly the Church teaches and why, best to split it.
 
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a lot of the things I do and believe in contradics Catholic beliefs.
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Don’t look at it as just Catholic beliefs. You are separating Jesus from His Church. Those beliefs are teachings of Jesus. It’s His Church, He founded the Catholic Church and gave the Church the key mission of the salvation of souls. The identification and condemnation of sin is necessary in carrying out that mission. If you go to RCIA (a good one) you will learn how a true personal relationship with Jesus can only be had through the Catholic Church. If you still have disbelief there is no obligation.
 
I’ll pray for you as you walk on your spiritual journey 🙂❤️
 
You’re only 22 years old and a lot of your beliefs are “set in stone”? Well you have completed the initiation sacraments so YOU’RE CATHOLIC. ❤️💒☺️ Just don’t receive Communion until you go to confession. Pray and speak to God about your beliefs about abortion etc. Ask Him to give you understanding. Your desire to Come Home is from God. Keep going with it.
 
Some Parishes have a Landings program that meets and discusses returning to the faith. Also, taking an RCIA program even though I had been away from the faith took time but I’ve abandoned all of my former beliefs that contradict the churches teachings. I had held many progressive views too. It took time and study to change them.

You are actually in a good place, being called back to the Catholic faith is a huge Grace from God and should not be taken lightly. Jesus and Mary love you and want you back in full communion with the church. They will help you and lead you to people who will welcome you. I recommend speaking to a priest about your particular issues and seeing what you need to do in order to begin to receive Holy Communion.
 
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Thank you and you’re right. I still have alot of time to morph my beliefs to be more in line with God.
 
The Church doesn’t push “traditional gender roles”. Many Catholic women I know have a good professional career as well as a long-term Catholic marriage and kids. My mother and both her sisters had careers back in the 40s, 50s and 60s although Mom chose to quit working when she got married and become a SAHM (she was in her late 30s by then and tired of working). There are a subset of Catholics who are into “traditional gender roles” but that is their choice and their views/ opinions are not required by the Church.

I think for the other things you mention you’d be better off starting separate threads or maybe watching some Fr. Mike Schmitz videos on those topics.
 
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I’m sorry, this is just from an observation of couples at my old church. As well as interactions with other Catholics.
 
There are hundreds of Catholic parishes and Catholics out there, and they’re all over the map on that stuff.

As a Catholic career woman myself, the vast majority of my Catholic interactions are with other Catholic career women, so that’s what I see. I went to an all-girls Catholic high school that emphasized college and careers for us students.
 
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Anyway, despite these beliefs, can I still re-become a Catholic or is it pointless? I’m willing to bend on some of my beliefs, but a lot are set in stone.
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I’m nobody, but I believe If you can say the Apostles Creed sincerely there’s a hope. I suggest you say it when you wake up, before you start work, at lunch, on the way home, before dinner, then before you go to bed.

Do that for a week. Go talk to a priest & go from there.
 
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