I guess. But I mean, it just really sucks. I mean, it’s kind of hard to follow God’s plan for me when I didn’t even start on it.
OH JESUS, does that mean my parents are going to Hell for having me? Because I literally don’t know how I could ever deal with that if so.
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The book of the genealogy of Jesus Christ, the son of David, the son of Abraham. Abraham became the father of Isaac, Isaac the father of Jacob, Jacob the father of Judah and his brothers. Judah became the father of Perez and Zerah, whose mother was Tamar. Perez became the father of Hezron, Hezron the father of Ram…”
Matt. 1:1-3
Do you know the story of Tamar and Judah, who are in the lineage that lead to Our Lord? Here it is:
*Judah got a wife named Tamar for his first-born, Er. But Er, Judah’s first-born, greatly offended the LORD; so the LORD took his life.
Then Judah said to Onan, “Unite with your brother’s widow, in fulfillment of your duty as brother-in-law, and thus preserve your brother’s line.” Onan, however, knew that the descendants would not be counted as his; so whenever he had relations with his brother’s widow, he wasted his seed on the ground, to avoid contributing offspring for his brother. What he did greatly offended the LORD, and the LORD took his life too.
Thereupon Judah said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, “Stay as a widow in your father’s house until my son Shelah grows up” - for he feared that Shelah also might die like his brothers. So Tamar went to live in her father’s house.
Years passed, and Judah’s wife, the daughter of Shua, died. After Judah completed the period of mourning, he went up to Timnah for the shearing of his sheep, in company with his friend Hirah the Adullamite. When Tamar was told that her father-in-law was on his way up to Timnah to shear his sheep, she took off her widow’s garb, veiled her face by covering herself with a shawl, and sat down at the entrance to Enaim, which is on the way to Timnah; for she was aware that, although Shelah was now grown up, she had not been given to him in marriage. When Judah saw her, he mistook her for a harlot, since she had covered her face. So he went over to her at the roadside, and not realizing that she was his daughter-in-law, he said, “Come, let me have intercourse with you.” She replied, “What will you pay me for letting you have intercourse with me?” He answered, “I will send you a kid from the flock.” “Very well,” she said, “provided you leave a pledge until you send it.”
Judah asked, “What pledge am I to give to you?” She answered, “Your seal and cord, and the staff you carry.” So he gave them to her and had intercourse with her, and she conceived by him. When she went away, she took off her shawl and put on her widow’s garb again. Judah sent the kid by his friend the Adullamite to recover the pledge from the woman; but he could not find her. So he asked the men of the place, “Where is the temple prostitute, the one by the roadside in Enaim?” But they answered, “There has never been a temple prostitute here.” He went back to Judah and told him, “I could not find her; and besides, the men of the place said there was no temple prostitute there.” “Let her keep the things,” Judah replied; “otherwise we shall become a laughingstock. After all, I did send her the kid, even though you were unable to find her.”
About three months later, Judah was told that his daughter-in-law Tamar had played the harlot and was then with child from her harlotry. “Bring her out,” cried Judah; “she shall be burned.” But as they were bringing her out, she sent word to her father-in-law, “It is by the man to whom these things belong that I am with child. Please verify,” she added, “whose seal and cord and whose staff these are.” Judah recognized them and said, “She is more in the right than I am, since I did not give her to my son Shelah.” But he had no further relations with her. When the time of her delivery came, she was found to have twins in her womb. *
Gen. 38:6-27
Look carefully at that geneology…do you see Solomon’s mother was the wife of Uriah, the Hittite? Do you remember that story? Was Solomon not part of God’s plan because of the sin of David committed to get Bathsheba? By no means!
Perez and Zerah were part of God’s plan, even though they came to be through a situation of both betrayal and deception. Solomon, too, was part of God’s plan, even though he would have not come to be without King David’s great sin. Do you know that there is a prayer for the Easter Vigil that says this? “
O happy fault, O necessary sin of Adam. which gained for us so great a Redeemer!” Never be afraid that you are not part of God’s plan, then.
Look at the Cross. It is the worst thing that ever happened, the greatest crime that ever happened. What did God make of it? God made of it the best thing that ever happened. How is that possible? Because there is no situation that God cannot transform on behalf of those who trust him.
Your parents did something that was objectively wrong, but even if they are entirely to blame for their choice, that puts you in very plentiful company. Jesus was born of a sinless mother. None of the rest of us were. Even Our Lord has a lot of “interesting stories” in his background! We are each in God’s plan, and so are you. We should all pray for our parents, and you ought to do so no more nor less than the rest of us.
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Even better of a point I think.