I would be committing a sin if I went through with this correct?

[jenlovesyu]

The nursing programs at the community colleges in my area have a two-year waiting list so anyone who applies for admittance may have to wait up to two years to actually start the program. My mom works at one of these colleges as a nursing instructor and she was having a spot held for me so I could start this upcoming January. I didn’t think much of it until today she mentioned that it is against the law for the employees to hold spots open . What makes me more important than the other students anyway right :tsktsk:? My mother is going to be very upset with me if I tell her I can’t let her hold that spot for me anymore because I am expecting a child and the financial burden is going to fall on my family.

BUT, this is wrong right? I can’t be “cutting others in line” just because I have a child to take care of.

 

[Ceil-1]

If it is against the law, I suppose it would be a sin in that sense. In another sense, it may be a perk of her job. It sounds like a just law, and people who have been waiting deserve the chance.

I am more concerned with the fact that you feel you must go to school for nursing when you are expecting. The first two years, or more, should be devoted to raising your baby. Why must this pressure be placed on you to go out and bring home the bacon? Our society is so warped to expect that of you.

I am unclear about which is a burden to your family. The baby, or your schooling? If it is the baby, shame on them. That is their family. What is a nursing career, or any career for that matter, next to a baby. If it is the schooling, then wait. Nursing is overrated, if you ask me. I don’t see the attraction in it. (23 years and counting, for me). The hours are bad, it is hard work, and nowadays, the caliber of people doing it is low, even among the more educated and skilled ones. Teaching would be better, if you ask me.

I don’t mean to be a gloomy gus, but, I’ve been close to where you are. Because of the money nursing brings in (today, that is, who knows what the future will bring, I made 7.09 my first nursing job), because of the money, women like you end up doing two jobs. I ruined my health working nights so I could be with my family during the day, but was too tired to do a quality job. I would never, repeat never, do it again no matter how poor we were.

Your mother is wrong, and is being too ambitious for you. I understand the pressure you are under, and I don’t know your whole circumstance. I do know that if you choose your activities around the needs of your child, you will receive graces from God for it, and, in spite of some temporary discomfort on behalf of your worldly-thinking family, will come out on top.

You are in my prayers. So is your precious gift.

Ceil

 

[jenlovesyu]

That was a very sweet & kind post Ceil-1, I appreciate your feedback

I practically go to school [legally] for free (as long as it is at one of the community colleges) so yes I was referring to the baby possibly being more of a burden to my parents than the schooling. I suppose I rushed into it because the way my mom spoke of things it made me feel like nursing was my only option. I still have to discuss things with my parents so I will have to wait and see what their reaction will truly be.

I don’t want to rush anything but at the same time I don’t want to have stay with my parents for longer than necessary. But it looks like I have more prayin to do in order to understand God’s Will.

Thank you again for your (name removed by moderator)ut! What you posted about nursing is pretty much what I am worried about. I want to be with my son as much as possible.

God bless

 

[djeter]

If it is against the law, I suppose it would be a sin in that sense.
Ceil

"Not all intrinsically evil acts involve a significant violation of justice, the precondition for making an act illegal. No serious candidate for national office maintains that masturbation, homosexual acts or contraception should be outlawed in the United States today; and most Catholic legal theorists, whether conservative or liberal, would agree with them.

Consider first a man who burns down his own building one night for the insurance money, foreseeing but not intending that a single mother at work there will die in the blaze. He does not want her to die; her death forms no part of his purpose or plan. He simply does not care whether she dies or not. Now this is a heinous act, revealing great depravity on the part of the perpetrator and causing great harm to the victim. It is not, however, intrinsically evil. The object of his act, to burn down his own building, is not wrong in and of itself. The act is wrong because of its motive (theft by insurance fraud) and because of its circumstances: the likelihood that an innocent woman would lose her life in the course of it.

Contrast this with a situation involving an elderly man suffering from Lou Gehrig’s disease. Fearful of undergoing a protracted and difficult death, he begs his wife to kill him. Finally, she acquiesces to his pleas and kills him painlessly with an overdose of barbiturates. The wife has committed an intrinsically evil act. She has intentionally killed a helpless, innocent person. Her act is seriously wrong, yet her personal blameworthiness is mitigated by her motive of alleviating suffering. Moreover, the objective injustice is mitigated by the fact that her husband not only consented to the act, but begged her to do it.

The law ought to prohibit both acts, because both harm the common good. At the same time, however, the legal system ought to recognize that the first act, which is not intrinsically evil, is morally worse, both subjectively and objectively, than the second act, which is intrinsically evil. District attorneys would be eager to prosecute the death-dealing defrauder to the full extent of the law, but many of them would decline to press a murder case against the wife whose love and loyalty to her suffering husband took a deeply misguided form."

From an essay explaining “intrinsically evil” by M. Cathleen Kaveny.

The complete essay (dealing with homosexuality) is at

payingattentiontothesky.com/2009/07/07/%e2%80%9cis-it-really-me-they-spite-is-it-not-in-fact-themselves-to-their-own-confusion%e2%80%9d/

Regards

DJ

 

[Ceil-1]

It’s a good thing you can go to school for free. Can you go part time or full time? If you can go part time and still have it paid for, good for you. A double major is your best bet. You could get a degree in something else while you wait for nursing. My professor highly recommended it. He told me I could “write my ticket”, and it only needed to be a two year degree with each. Then, as time went by, if I beefed up one of the degrees, there’s no telling where it would take me. My patient’s son has two two-year degrees in some mechanical, car-related stuff and has a fabulous, high-paying job. It was dirt cheap. What a pay off.

With an RN under your belt with something else, you would have it made in the shade. While you are waiting to get into the nursing curriculum, try a teaching, human services, or even better, a more techinical, or specific degree, say, in medical records, or laboratory science. The more specific the skill, the better for you.

It would be a shame to waste a free education. And, do not concern yourself with how long you live with your parents, as aggravating as that may be, because it will be better for the baby. This is just my opinion, mind you, but, definitely take advantage of the free schooling, and get two degrees, even if you have to pay for one of them. Your options will double. Good luck, and God bless.

 

[sharmin]

Please keep in mind that there is nothing morally wrong with being a working mom…especially if it takes some of the burden off of your spouse. I know a couple where the husband works two jobs just so his wife doesn’t have to work. It is terrible that he barely spends any time with his children so that his wife can spend all her time with them! (He’s just gone so much, and he told me how sad it makes him. ) You do what is best for your family. Sometimes it is having two working parents. That has many advantages too, like kids can spend time with BOTH parents, there are no stresses about how you are going to afford the rent, etc.