I'm ashamed of my mother

[Nana_Rose]

Dear Magdelena,

Welcome, glad you posted on here. I just wanted to encourage you to continue to grow in your faith journey. You cannot change your Mom, of course, but you can make changes for yourself. Honor God in your choices, and your sister will see this, even if she doesn’t seem too. Prayer is a most powerful tool.

I would like to add one thing, people mentioned contacting your parish priest, which is a good idea. And check to see if you have “Catholic Charities” or Catholic Social Services in your area. They can maybe help you and your sister with living arrangements, health care, food etc. They can maybe find a foster home that would help your sister until she is old enough. They help regardless if you are Catholic or not. But don’t give up, stay prayerful and I will be praying for you and your sister. If you do not have a rosary or a Bible, let us know and maybe we can get you some materials.
God Bless you Magdelena

 

[STJOMO]

Magdelena:
I love your name – it’s my wife’s Confirmation name and Mary Magdalene is one of my favorite saints.

Take some advice from a crusty old former teacher: You cannot send the right message to your sister when you, yourself, are doing what you preach against.

You say that you’ve been with your boyfriend for five years and that you plan to get married. All of that is fine. But you have to think of your sister. She looks up to you, you say. This is not an example to set. She will pay attention to your deeds, not your words.

If your boyfriend truly loves you – enough to spend the rest of his life with you – he certainly will understand your decision to MOVE OUT UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED.

Please consider what I’ve said. My fingers are tired from all of this typing, and I’d like to think they gave their lives for your spiritual well-being – and your sister’s.

 

[magdelena_paris]

Thanks. I cant move out rightnow. i dont have the moeny. right now he is paying for everything. Maybe once I have some money saved up to both pay rent and go to school then i will consider moving on my own, but i already lived on my own for more than a year and I hated it with a passion. I am so happy where i am. We’re not having sex anymore, weve already discussed that. So i don’t see where the problem with god is. My sister, knows my feelings about her situation. I’m rather upset right now, because I hadn’t spoken to her in a week, though we normally talked everyday. I called her at school last week, begged her to call me or email me, and i still havent heard from her for yet another week. So i say whatever, if she wants to be like me, then she can go ahead without me cause i was alone the entire time i moved out. If she wants to know what it feels like than she can cause I’m not going to help her anymoreunless of course she calls me at somepoint and needs me.

And I would rather have her live with me than go into foster care. We were in foster care for 8 years and it was the worst experience in my life and i know it was the same for her. The workers are so ignorant, or at least the ones we had. I couldn’t make her go through that again.

Sorry if i sound a bit harsh or frustrated but i’m really upset that my sister doesn’t want to put forth the effort to speak to me, especially since I was the only one standing up for her. oh well.