I'm Bisexual. How do I reconcile that with my faith?

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Or rather, how can my faith help me understand why God created me this way? I’m not actively engaged with a relationship of either a male or a female at this point in time, but I’m inclined to do so for either gender.

How is this handled? What does The Church say about individuals with my condition?

(This is a sensitive topic for me)
 
The Church teaches that although sexual orientation is not a choice, the act is.

It would be equally sinful to have sex in a heterosexual relationship outside of marriage, as it would to engage in sex in a homosexual relationship, where marriage is not possible. Marriage is only possible between one man and one woman.

The key to avoiding all sin is prayer and frequent confession.

God Bless
Jim
 
I love the Church! She always knows the Truth and is compassionate and just. Thanks.
 
Prayer, more mass, Eucharistic Adoration will help you a lot. It will help you to see what God is calling you for. Everyone has vocation and in each vocation, there are crosses. For each cross, we’ll find joy. Finding joy comes from the love for God and does His Will.

God bless you.
 
scapularkid8 said:
Or rather, how can my faith help me understand why God created me this way? I’m not actively engaged with a relationship of either a male or a female at this point in time, but I’m inclined to do so for either gender.

How is this handled? What does The Church say about individuals with my condition?

(This is a sensitive topic for me)
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With all due respect to you and to your question Scapularkid, I see this as a non-issue. Let me try to explain.

If one is a heterosexual, he or she is potentially attracted to 1/2 of the worlds population (or a subset thereof of course). Yet, he or she, if they desire to follow the teachings of the Church and to remain faithful to God’s will, they do not act on this attraction outside of marriage.

The heterosexual must contain thier attraction to others.

How is your situation any different? Other then the fact that there are more people to whom you are attracted. It seems like you and the heterosexual are simply in the same boat as far as this matter is concerned.
 
JimR-OCDS said:
The Church teaches that although sexual orientation is not a choice, the act is.

It would be equally sinful to have sex in a heterosexual relationship outside of marriage, as it would to engage in sex in a homosexual relationship, where marriage is not possible. Marriage is only possible between one man and one woman.

The key to avoiding all sin is prayer and frequent confession.

God Bless
Jim
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:yup: :blessyou:
 
scapularkid8 said:
Or rather, how can my faith help me understand why God created me this way? I’m not actively engaged with a relationship of either a male or a female at this point in time, but I’m inclined to do so for either gender.

How is this handled? What does The Church say about individuals with my condition?

(This is a sensitive topic for me)
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Just stay chaste while unmarried (which is only possible with one of the opposite sex) which means “celebate”, and chaste while married (also to one of the opposite sex), which means “faithful to one’s mate”.

How would that be harder, or even different, for you than it is for me, a non-bisexual?
 
What’s to reconcile? If you’re attracted to both sexes, then you can choose to have heterosexual realtionships. Problem solved!

And if that seems a little blythe, I’m also bisexual. Life got alot easier once I just let go and let God. 🙂
 
JimR-OCDS said:
The Church teaches that although sexual orientation is not a choice, the act is.

It would be equally sinful to have sex in a heterosexual relationship outside of marriage, as it would to engage in sex in a homosexual relationship, where marriage is not possible. Marriage is only possible between one man and one woman.

The key to avoiding all sin is prayer and frequent confession.

God Bless
Jim
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The church does not teach that sexual orientation is not a choice, it has not made a pronouncement on that matter as that is still under scientific investigation.

Can’t give any advice scapularkid, but I guess everyone here has given you some pretty good advice which you can think through. I pray you are guided and comforted in your trying times.
 
Harmony
The church does not teach that sexual orientation is not a choice, it has not made a pronouncement on that matter as that is still under scientific investigation.
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Correct. The wording I should have used is;

although sexual orientation MAY not be a choice.

However, science is showing that sexual orientation is driven biologically rather than a person just choosing to be gay. But thats not the topic of this thread.

There are also people who are A-sexual, i.'g. littler or no sexual desire, this is also biologically driven.

Jim
 
Bro whats your deal … you know what you need to do, is stop spending so much time on this website talking about your masturbation and homo feelings and start lifting some weights and doing somethings that are more constructive. Join a sports team, start working out, go hiking, make a holy hour, do something man . you know the saying the idle mind is the devils play thing? Get going … thats my advice to you
 
Chastity and homosexuality

CCC 2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.” They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.

CCC 2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.

CCC 2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.
 
scapularkid8 said:
Or rather, how can my faith help me understand why God created me this way? I’m not actively engaged with a relationship of either a male or a female at this point in time, but I’m inclined to do so for either gender.

How is this handled? What does The Church say about individuals with my condition?

(This is a sensitive topic for me)
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God works in mysterious ways. He wants you to be bisexual so that you can prove your fidelity to him. Laugh if you want, but it is true. You feel a sexual orientation toward both men and women. Man, though, is only suppose to be oriented toward woman, and woman to man. It is how God created us creatures. The same goes for marriage: it is man and woman joining together in one flesh to live together for the Lord, in Whom they make a covenant of love. (Correct me if I’m wrong; my speciality is not in marriage). Now, bisexuality is a special little cross which God has given to you that you may show Him you are loyal to His Will. By this I mean: You must keep chaste while unmarried, and, God could be calling to lifelong chastity, perhaps even the priesthood or the religious life. (But I don’t know that for sure) Or He could call you to the married life, in which case, you’d have to take a woman as your love, not a man.

Either way, in order to keep chaste, it would be good to seek the help of Our Lady, to imitate the purity of Jesus, to make frequent Communion and Confession, and to pray whenever possible, even during work or play (it is possible! 🙂 ).

I hope this helps. It’s currently 4:00 AM here so I’m a little bit tired. Apologies if none of that makes sense. God bless!
 
Is your catholic faith important to you?
Should your potential mate share your faith & values?
Looking for fellowship with other catholic singles?
 
can’t really add to the advice. I believe you already received a lot of good advice. I just wanted to tell you that I’m praying for you to have clarity and understanding.

may the Blessed Mother pray for us all
 
Look at it this way: We don’t get to choose our tempations. (For example, I’m not tempted to gambling; I have other temptations.)

We only get to choose our sins.
 
My prayers go out to you. I will pray for you to find the strength to send any temptations away from your mind. I believe if you ask and listen to our Heavenly Father, He will respond to you. He only wants what is best for you.

Search the Bible, God has plenty to say about this topic, or very close to it. (living Gay)

Also maybe it will help you to remember none of us are perfect. We all have fallen short of Gods glory. We are all sinners. Yet, when we repent and truely want to live for God, we will change our ways and the things that do tempt us into sin.

Live each day like it could be your last, live it fully for God and what He would want you to do.

We each have a cross to bear, God will never give us more than we can handle.
 
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Or rather, ***how can my faith help me understand why God created me this way? *** I’m inclined to do so for either gender. How is this handled? What does The Church say about individuals with my condition?(This is a sensitive topic for me)
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I’m Bisexual. How do I reconcile that with my faith?
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Hi SC…kid.God created all people, and our faith teaches that “what God created is created to the likeness of God, therefore made to please Him”. This means that in the first place ALL things were made perfect, without sin. Jesus tells us “to be perfect as our Heavenly Father is perfect”. ***God didn’t make you a lover of both sexes in the sexual sense, but a person who should enjoy both sexes in enjoying outings with them, how Jesus taught us. to “love all people the way God loves us” Sex should NOT even come into the equation. ***

Originally Posted by JimR-OCDS View Post
The Church teaches that although sexual orientation is not a choice, the act is.
Marriage is only possible between one man and one woman.
The key to avoiding all sin is prayer and frequent confession.
God Bless
Jim

Originally posted by Harmony1988
The church does not teach that sexual orientation is not a choice, it has not made a pronouncement on that matter as that is still under scientific investigation.???

IF the word of God (that the church relates through) is NOT SCIENTIFIC but is DEFINITELY “SPIRITUAL” then why do you relate as though humanism in scientific nature has a place in GOD’S TRUTH?
ONLY the TRUTH sets us free (Jesus words reiterated by Paul and Peter).
Jesus tells us that the helper will come to help us and that when we need words then the “HOLY SPIRIT will give the answer” since that is the reason why He is here.

That is the teaching of the CATHOLIC BIBLE. Therefore it **MUST **be the teaching of the CATHOLIC Doctrine.

As a matter of biblical “truth” the bible tells us that God made men and women to "desire each other , a woman will want her man to join with her body for the glory of God’s recreation of the human race.So is it a choice? Well Jesus also tells us that there are those for what ever reason will not want sexual relationships. others will want to give their body in Holy Marriage to God in the sense of Priesthood or to become a nun. While others will want to have many children to present to God as a gift back to Him, or because they want to enjoy many children.

Does God NEED sexual relations to happen for the creation of children? No ( read about Mary) He allows and wants this for the joining of man and woman so that they can come together in the truest sence (humanly) and in the presence of God being glorified through the act since the act as God created it, it is a PRAYER. And you cannot scientifically measure prayer. That is as God created it to be,all glory back to God.

Godbless
 
littleone said:
***God didn’t make you a lover of both sexes in the sexual sense, but a person who should enjoy both sexes in enjoying outings with them, how Jesus taught us. to “love all people the way God loves us” Sex should NOT even come into the equation. ***
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…But He did make me a lover of both sexes in the sexual sense. Sexual feelings doesn’t necessarily mean I just see or know someone and think “I want to have intercourse with them”, it’s a feeling I’m sure you all know deep in the pit of yourself like a fire. One that must be controlled, I understand. I can’t help what I feel, and I know that it’s sexual feelings. I don’t understand what you mean by saying this because I do feel sexual feelings towards both men and women. It’s not merely an “I want to go to the movies with him”, it’s an “I want to kiss him.” There’s attraction.

Please, I hope it doesn’t sound like I baited you with this reply, but I guess I’m just confused as to what you mean right there because God did make me to feel strongly toward both genders and I don’t understand why I’m being told He didn’t make me that way when, clearly, He did. :confused:
 
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