I'm Catholic. She's Mormon. I need some advice

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You reminded me of dinners with extended family back some time ago. One family joined a Christian denomination after an extended period of no religion, and when everyone sat down at the table, they would not do the sign of the cross. Something so very basic. I would not want you and your wife to have this kind of rift on a daily basis. With children watching too. A house divided cannot stand.
 
Are you familiar with the events that happened in Fatima in 1917?
Our blessed Mother appeared to shepherd children from May to Oct and one thing that she asked, and asked the whole world, was for prayers and sacrifices for the conversion of sinners and peace in this world.

Together my husband and I have gotten up each morning with this intention, that all of our joys and sorrows and sufferings of this day be united with her and with our Lord for the conversion of sinners. This gives our lives a focus, regardless of the happy things and sad things that come. Everything is for the good, a force for good, in this world. It gives our suffering and losses a weight of glory. God is with us. This is the kind of life partner I wish for you. I wish that you enter into this walk with God more intensely, more intimately. In the scriptures we read of the little boy who gave Christ a few loaves and fish, and Christ fed the 5 thousand. Today, you and I are that little boy, and it’s our moment to bring our few loaves and fish to Christ. Don’t miss out on this. It’s why we are here, today. In a blink of an eye, our time will be up. What you do matters. Your choices matter. Embrace that walk of faith and don’t detour from it.
 
Don’t do it. That’s my advice. No mere creature is worthy of religious compromise.
 
Yeah, thankfully Kingsfold is also set to more orthodox-friendly words (I Heard the Voice of Jesus Say). I also still like some of the Lutheran hymns I learned as a kid (A Mighty Fortress).
 
Okay, you do know there aren’t a lot of Catholics in South Carolina, right? That also doesn’t have to do with what I said. I think the topic was about Mormonism and Catholicism.
 
Well we just ended a good long talk. She pressed to go seperate ways. She said that she could never make me as happy as a Catholic girl would, and that I needed to put God before her and she needed to put God before me.
 
I don’t think its a good idea to get into a serious relationship with someone who has different religious views. Especially regarding children and what faith they will be raised in. Even if they were raised as Catholics, they might be more likely to think they should give Mormonism a try someday if they have a parent who is Mormon. Cut bait while you still can, my friend.
 
My family has not cut me off but I think it’s because they believe I will eventually come back.
 
MiamiValleyCatholic said:
We’re both not budging on Faith
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When two people are considering marriage and find an impasse surrounding an important issue like this (or where they want to live, or if they want kids, or willingness of one person or another to lose out on a career to home-make etc.) they break up. It’s not a good fit plain and simple. You’ll be happier if you realize that now rather than in a few months or 5 years into your marriage… Or later…

I converted to Catholicism in college and it’s even made my relationships with my Protestant family more difficult in some ways. That’s enough for me to know that I would NEVER choose to date a non-Catholic.

But that’s just one young-ish unmarried guy’s opinion. Perhaps pray through it and ask a priest.
 
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I’m in a relationship with a woman that I see a potential future with. We both want to communicate, commit, and trust oneanother wholeheartedly. We didn’t really bring up the topic of faith untill recently, she had always said she was Christian and that suited me. Recently she revealed that she is Morman. Though she states that she believes and accepts Christ as her savior and has been saved and believes herself to be a Christian practicing the Mormon faith, it dosen’t sit well with me. I’m sure not converting to Mormonism, and she states that her Mormon faith has made her who she is and she will never be a Catholic. I brought up the topic of converting to Catholism and her response was if I try to convert her, she’d be changing herself to suit my needs, not hers. I don’t know what to do. We’re both not budging on Faith, and I want her to see the light, and if things get serious, have a relationship rooted in the Christian faith. Would an interfaith relationship work? Looking down the road if we get that far, what about the saccrament of marriage and the upbringing of kids? Can a Catholic and a Mormon have a successful, meaningful relationship?
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That statement of yours that I’ve highlighted indicates it’s now the time to move one. It simply won’t be a happy and fruitful marriage unless she changes her mind about Catholicism. Both of you would be wasting your time pursuing this as a serious relationship that would lead to marriage.

Of course, you could still remain platonic friends with each other but for marriage, she appears to be incompatible with your deeply-held beliefs. Don’t worry, trust that God will assist you in finding a suitable spouse for you if that’s His will.
 
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Well, like it or not, I think you have your answer. She is a wise young woman; you need now to be a wise young man.

Affairs of the heart are just that - the heart, not the head. She has used her head., Now it is your turn.
 
Have you considered using a Catholic dating website?

Catholicmatch?

If you can’t find any local Catholic women.
 
I’ve been married to a Lutheran for nearly 18 years. There are a few things that have allowed it to work for us:
  1. We agreed before marriage kids would be catholic.
  2. DH attends church with us each week. Protestants for the most part are okay with any christian service.
  3. He supports sacramental programs.
  4. He joins us for prayers most nights. He doesn’t really like the rosary and I fully respect that. We do other prayers instead.
This has works for us because we agreed before marriage one religion needed to be chosen and followed. While he doesn’t agree with some aspects of the faith he is respectful and will go along with it (NFP for example). While it can be a lonely experience for myself it is the sacrifice I make and am grateful for his support. His family still do lutheran services and I will go to family services with his side occasionally (weddings, baptisms etc.) I show the same respect and understanding he shows me.

OP this only works because for the most part he has allowed it to be a catholic household. I wouldn’t recommend taking the relationship any further if you cannot see this happening.

Also Lutherns are relatively similar to Catholics in many ways. So there has not been too many contradictory faith discussions in our day to day.

Good luck to you.
 
Mormonism is very different from Catholicism. I would have recommended her possibly reading “Why We’re Catholic” by Trent Horn and then asking her what she thinks. Always be charitable, humble and also be very informed about our faith. There are plenty of fish in the sea. I would recommend looking for a spouse within our faith, first.
 
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A little incorrect.

The Catholic party promises to do what in their power to raise the kids Catholic. Should their non-Christian spouse refuse to allow this, the Catholic spouse is not in sin. We do not add burdens that are above what the Church teaches to people.
 
Mormons kids/young people are trained in how to recruit and convert people to Mormonism. “Missionary Dating”, dating in order to convert someone, is a real thing. Has she yet gone on her mission?

I would guess if this matures into engagement, her parents and her bishop will step in and turn up the pressure.

Ask her “are you okay with our marriage not being an eternal marriage?”
 
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