I'm Expecting a Baby at 42 yrs old

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I totally agree with @Midori,

I said the same thing in my post.

The best for baby confort and mother too, is to take a physiological carrier, like thoses of Midori, or thoses of my post.

Most BabyBjorn, who claim ergonomy, are not physiological carrier that are healthy for baby back, neek, pelvis or genitals. It can be dangerous to let them stay to long on thoses carriers. It is also a back killer for the adult who carry him past a few mouths.

A position that is highly contested is the putting the child “facing the world” (the third Midori picture, on her 2nd post), because it is not very natural, nor feeling the baby safe, nor physiologicam. It is not used outside the western societies. Back or side position are better as an alternative as the baby grow.
 
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My daughter was 10 months old when we adopted her, and I was 52. She’s 21 now and travelling in Europe, which she saved the money for. So somehow I survived, and had plenty of energy in my 50s. I could have even managed a trip abroad if I’d wanted in my 60s, but not so much anymore.
With age comes wisdom. I take care of my grandson now, and things that would have bothered me before, don’t anymore.
God always has surprises for us.
 
Thank you for sharing this with me. It really warmed my heart. I’m just overwhelmed by all the support here. This warmth and love from all of you …from the light of Christ is as healing as you can imagine. I just pray that each of you receive the same in your time of need and that I can be a light to someone. God bless you and your family Viki and thank you again. I’m getting more hopeful as the days go by!
 
Hi everybody,
I just wanted to post 2 quick questions for my experienced mothers out there. I thank you all so much again for your support, I will always remember it’s impact.
My first prenatal appt isn’t until September 11 as that is standard. I don’t know if that’s new. In the meantime prior to my pregnancy I’d wake up at 5:30 every day, read the magnificat and sometimes do exercise. I miss having a routine but i can no longer wake up that early (my back is hurting terribly these past weeks). My idea is to try to wake up around 6, read the Word, use the big exercise ball my husband just bought, go to 7am Mass and then go to work. Does that sound reasonable or do you think it may be too much. I never liked sleeping in too long and like to have a spiritually productive routine but my body needs exercise i think.
The second thing is my back literally has me where i need my husband to help me up sometimes. Should I see my regular doctor (i’m guessing i should) because my other appt is not until September? Or once pregnant I should only see OBGYN because they may know more regarding the condition?
Thanks again to all, it was hard getting up at work today and here I am but I must do it.
 
I don’t know what to say about your back, but your first question about the morning routine…your body will tell you if it is too much. Try it and if it feels maintainable, great. If it needs to be scaled back, your body will let you know. If it’s too much right now, the 2nd trimester sweetspot might be a time to try again.
 
Do whatever routine makes you feel okay.

I have back problems when pregnant. Please do see your doctor, but a couple of things help me out:
  1. Sticking a pillow between my knees to straighten out my alignment when sleeping on my side. They also have full-body pregnancy pillows that many women swear by.
  2. Getting a stretchy band for my abdomen. It pushes the baby bulge up a bit, which relieves pressure on my lower back.
  3. A gel mat for the kitchen (or wherever you stand for long periods). No longer did chopping food make me feel like someone was sticking dull knives into my spinal erector muscles.
  4. If driving for long periods in a car that doesn’t allow lots of configurations to help support your back, stick a little throw pillow on the seat.
The crappy thing about pregnancy-related back pain is that there isn’t a whole lot you can do except just survive. The nice thing about it is that it’s a self-limiting condition. Good luck, and by all means see your doctor for a good assessment and discussion of treatment.
 
Thank you so much, I will listen to my body, i really want to do arm weights now since i’m eating much healthier because my bat wings are really just bad.
 
Thank you for these amazing tips. I will get the mat today and I’ve seen those stretchy bands on Amazon and wondered what they were for. It looked like they only showed women in late pregnancy wearing them. I will also buy another pillow. Thank you again
 
Well, the bands are for whenever the baby bulge starts tugging at you in an uncomfortable way…which, sadly, for me has been earlier and earlier in the pregnancy.
 
The worst position for me when I had back pain was driving. A lumbar support in the small of my back helped a lot.
Praying for your intentions and healthy pregnancy.
 
As far as exercise, check with your provider but these are the general rules:
  1. Don’t get your heart rate above 70% of maximum (maximum is defined as 220 minus your age, so you’ll want to work out that figure and then 70% of that figure is the max safe heart rate for pregnancy). General rule: if you can’t talk, you’re pushing yourself too hard.
  2. Don’t lift weights over your head (no military press, for example). NOT because the cord could wrap around the baby’s neck (that’s a myth), but because it compresses your body.
  3. Don’t do anything flat on your back after 4 months. Your uterus can compress your inferior vena cava and decrease blood flow to your heart, making your blood pressure drop. Put a wedge under your right hip if you need to lie on your back.
  4. Don’t use super heavy weights.
  5. Pregnancy causes your body to secrete relaxin, a hormone that makes your joints looser than usual. Be careful not to hurt yourself.
  6. Sometimes pregnancy can cause separation of the abdominal muscles. Be careful with crunches and situps if you have this, and don’t do them unless your provider says it’s safe.
Make sure you check with your provider to see what is safe. I can’t see that an exercise ball would be dangerous, though - some women use them during labour. Moderate exercise can also help to make your labour easier.
 
I’m already seeing changes in my body, it’s like my hips moved up 3 inches. Thank you so much for your encouragement. God bless you
 
I have loose joints too. And it is annoying on the wrists…
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Sometimes pregnancy can cause separation of the abdominal muscles. Be careful with crunches and situps if you have this, and don’t do them unless your provider says it’s safe.
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I have that too! Do you know if it can influenced badby the birth process?

From what I have heard everywhere, contrary to you, crunches and situps are a bad exercice to do in many situations. Better to do a more general sport.
And don’t do that when you are pregnant or after the birth. Bad consequences possible, such as to much pression on our lower organs.

On sport/exercices for pregnant women, we can quote, walking, swimming, pre-natal yoga, pilates. As long as it stay moderate, and the women don’t suffer od hypertension or other pathology.
The best is to stop when any exercice became inconfortable, and ask your medical provider if usure of something.
 
I walk a lot but i really (weirdly enough) want to focus now on my arms, I have what they call bat wings which is the long tricep fat. I used to play slap my kids with it when they were little. I wonder if women can tone while being pregnant if I continue to eat healthy. I’m not sure what’s making me feel like this is an impossibility though as I seem to be more inspired than before.
 
I know there are plenty of women who eat keto successfully while pregnant. In fact, there are a lot of women who had trouble getting pregnant at all, and then they lost weight through keto, got pregnant, and then maintained ketosis throughout pregnancy.

So-- don’t starve yourself, of course, or do silly things like malnutrition, and this is all presuming you don’t have things like the MTHFR mutation. Stable ketosis is a totally different thing. And you don’t have to be super-strict or anything and worried about macros and stuff… lazy keto is just fine, too.

You might get a bottle of Sodium, Potassium, Calcium and Magnesium supplements to have on hand if you decide to start. The first time you go into nutritional ketosis, you can be susceptible to fatigue and aches and stuff. So having those supplements helps make it easier for your body to adjust.

I found out about keto when I ran into some friends-- he lost 80 lbs; she lost about 45. I lost about 10 lbs myself, because I keep breaking keto. 😛 I haven’t gotten serious about it yet— I have another 10-15 lbs I’d like to lose. But I’m on a bunch of FB groups to help give me inspiration— and some of the transformations are amazing.
 
Thanks Midori, I’ve actually done keto for a few years now. I’m ok with my weight it’s my flabbiness I’m wondering if it’s possible to tone while pregnant. I’ve actually heard women losing weight while pregnant if they were overweight but never heard of someone going from skinny flab to tone in a pregnancy.
Thank you for the information though!
 
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No sort of diet is advised during pregnancy. Keto is controversed, and not balance at all. It may be dangerous to the development of the baby, or the mother’s health. I don’t think any professional will advise one.

Some women can or must have a diet, because of gestational diabetis, or overweight women who must limit their weight gain.

But we must ask our doctor or midwife before, and perhaps consult a nutitionist.
 
Thanks for your concern, I’ve been enjoying wheat bread with avocado. I do have carbs in some meals.
 
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