in love with a muslim

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I think you should seek God’s help in this decision. Say a Rosary to the blessed Mother for strength to figure out if this is the right thing to do. If this relationship should continue as it is.

If you married, what would happen if you were required to convert to Islam? (Even though he assured you that you could remain a Catholic). Or possibly required to wear the muslim dress (the cover all, not sure what its called…?).

In marriage, usually its the man that is the one that takes over the religious instruction. Would you want any possible children raised Catholic?

Just some things to think about.
 
the Bible gives an answer to all your questions. It says that believers should not be yoked together with unbelievers.

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joe5046 said:
do muslims even date?

I had a roomate my first semester of college that wouldn’t even shake a womens hand because of the laws against touching women your not married to.
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They’re not supposed to, but I don’t think most Muslims follow that part of their religion.
 
It’s important to state this right away - most Muslims (at least in “kafir” countries) do not practice their faith correctly.

With that out of the way, it is important to know that these are CORE teachings of Islam. They are not open to interpretation in orthodox Islamic teaching. Keep these in mind when discerning your potential marriage:
  • Muslim men are allowed to have up to 4 wives at one time.
  • Divorce is allowed (but only if the man says so).
  • Males are permitted to beat their wives.
  • Anybody who leaves the Islamic faith is supposed to be put to death.
That’s only a few right off the top of my head.
 
Dating and marriage are two different things. It is best that you ask him straight questions about how he intends to run a family once you are married.

To be blunt, a devout muslim will **never **respect your Christian religion and would eventually and surely demand that you convert to Islam as soon as you married.

Think it over carefully.
 
epl92 said:
hello,
im a female in love with a muslim. Ive been with with him for a year now. we both respect each others religions and love each other dearly. we have both discussed our beliefs and im worried that i will not get the acceptance from my family as they are prejudiced against muslims. how do i tell my parents about him without this destroying the realtionship with my parents. i would appreciate your advice greatly.
god bless
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**Well hailing from Asia (Singapore) pretty near to where you stay ,are consider more liberal in inter religion marriage, however it does post lots of tension coming from immediate family members, even my mum a conversative chinese cannot understand why my cousin married a Muslim and during chinese new year we have to ensure no pork are put on the table for her!! But it does not mean inter marriage will not work, most importantly they should be no tension coming from both families and also each of you have to respect one another practise and believes. But then i believe all Christ believers would wanted their children to be brought up either as a Catholic or Christian, thus this issue has to be address before problem occurs…Pray and Pray for direction:) **
 
Epl92, how will you get married? the islamic way? how do you want to raise your children? are you willing to compromise your faith? if the guy is devout, he does not respect your faith because the quran says you will rot in hell and you are cursed by allah; if he is not devout, will he marry in church and baptize the children? depends on the importance of Christ in your life and your priorities. Pray, think and good luck in everything.
 
Hi,

I’ve been married to a “muslim” for close to fifteen years now. I am able to continue as a catholic and raise our son as a catholic ONLY BY THE GRACE OF JESUS CHRIST!

I say this because of so many things that happened. The first time my husband wanted to take my three year old son to the mosque, I prayed hard and that same moment, my son suffered from hives and instead of taking him to the mosque, we ended up taking him to the hospital.

Another time was when my son was of age to take his First Communion. I never mentioned this to my husband. All I did was pray about it. Suddenly, my husband became real sick and he was operated on in a catholic hospital. It was during his recuperation that I mentioned the topic of first communion. By God’s miracle, he allowed our son to take his first communion.

What I am trying to say is that if you marry into Islam, you have to have TRUST in Jesus, because your path will be strewn with so many challenges that you will not know what hit you.

My advice is to stay away from your muslim boyfriend if you want an easier life. The first thing that will happen to you after your marriage is that his family and he will ask you to convert. It happened to me and it will happen to you. One thing that is good about my marrying my husband is that my faith is continually tested and continues to grow. But as I said, I am who I am because of Jesus.
 
cleobanzj said:
I say this because of so many things that happened. The first time my husband wanted to take my three year old son to the mosque, I prayed hard and that same moment, my son suffered from hives and instead of taking him to the mosque, we ended up taking him to the hospital.
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This and the other examples you mention are very interesting indeed. It’s interesting to me that apparently God did not want your son going with his dad to the mosque… I’ve been to my friend’s mosque and couldn’t really see why anybody would think there was anything so profound about it. Of course, your son was at a much more impressionable age at the time. In any case God knows best though, and Lord knows I’ve slowly learned that Muslims will do or say whatever they think they can get away with just to chalk up another convert. 😦
 
Hello cleobanzj! 🙂

I admire your steadfast faith in Jesus.

I am wondering, does your son ever get confused or torn that his parents are practicing different religions?

Its sad, I think, that something untoward has to keep on happening for you and your child to practice your faith. Is your husband aware that you are bringing your child to Church or does everything have to be done surreptiously?

Also, does your husband ever insist on raising his child Muslim?

I’ve heard that intermarriage to a Muslim is fraught with difficulty, but I’ve never heard it from someone who is really living such a marriage.

Thank you for sharing your story with us. I think you are a very brave woman.

God bless!
 
For those of you under the delusion that Islam “respects” other religions, here’s another telling article of their faith… A Muslim male can marry a non-muslim woman, but not the other way around.

Why do you suppose THAT is…? :rolleyes:
 
I sense that this relationship is serious, but that you have waited to the last possible moment to tell the parents he’s a Muslim. Here’s my advice:

First, pray to God and ask Him for wisdom and His discernment and guidance on what you should do…

Second, ask him (the man you are interested in) how he would raise a family. If there are children, will the children be raised in the mosque? This is important as strict Islamic law says that in an interfaith marriage, the children are to be raised in the father’s Islamic faith. Do not worry about having to convert: that is unnecessary; however, is your Catholic faith strong? This is the man you plan to spend the rest of your life with! I think I know the type of Muslim he is, though. He practices, but not to the exclusion of having a secular lifestyle. Most likely, he believes that all devout Muslims, Christians, and Jews will go to Heaven, since we all believe in the same God (up for debate). He is probably more interested in you than strictly following Islamic law; surely he would not pursue you if he were orthodox.

Third, pray more…

Fourth, introduce him to your parents and let them get to know him, but do not let his Islamic faith come into question. Once they have talked a while, divest this information (his faith) and allow for their response. If they find out early on, do not worry, just allow for them to talk to him.

Let them talk to him a few more times before you say anything about an engagement. Be patient: “Love is patient…” Dropping this on them will be shocking enough, let alone with him being a Muslim. If they meet him only once and learn of your plans, you will be in for a (potential) nightmare as they will be caught off-guard.

After you finally tell them, they will have many questions. They will want to know where you will get married, how the kids will be raised; all the questions that you will already have the answers to. Listen to them. They will speak openly and honestly. Do not be offended if they dislike your plans. They are looking out for you and your future.

Finally, pray for peace in dealing with the outcome. Do not jump too far ahead in your marriage plans before this, as you don’t know what your parents’ response will be…do not be mad at God if this doesn’t work out.

Prayers and petitions,
Alexius:cool:
 
Alexius,

Not to get off-topic too much, but fyi Islam teaches that only Muslims will enter “heaven”. It is stated in the Quran that all those who choose a religion other than Islam will be the losers in the hereafter. I know there is another part that talks about the Christians, Jews, and Sabeans as well as the Muslims all attaining eternal happiness but those verses were written in the early stages of Mohammed’s career (when he had barely any political power and was struggling to find converts) and later abrogated in favor of the more harsh teachings.
 
exoflare said:
Alexius,

Not to get off-topic too much, but fyi Islam teaches that only Muslims will enter “heaven”. It is stated in the Quran that all those who choose a religion other than Islam will be the losers in the hereafter. I know there is another part that talks about the Christians, Jews, and Sabeans as well as the Muslims all attaining eternal happiness but those verses were written in the early stages of Mohammed’s career (when he had barely any political power and was struggling to find converts) and later abrogated in favor of the more harsh teachings.
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There is a difference between what the Qur’an teaches and what the individual believes. I studied Islam for many years and believed it and though the Qur’an teaches that a non-Muslim will go to Hell for unbelief, I was/am hard-pressed to find anyone who believes that. The most orthodox Muslim I met in Turkiye didn’t believe it. Anyway, in Islam even a Muslim may enter Hell for sins against Allah. Hell is not a permanent place of torture, but rather a temporary place of purification.

Out of respect, you may believe as you wish regarding this issue, but it is irrelevent to the thread. If you want to discuss it further, go start a new thread; I am open to your opinion on this and will gladly join. Right now, though, there is a Catholic person who needs our help…

Prayers and petitions,
Alexius:cool:
 
PLEASE break off this relationship. You must put God and His holy religion FIRST. The Church does not allow mixed marriages and only allows them by special permission from a bishop. It won’t even be a sacramental marriage and you will not receive all of the blessings of holy matrimony. One of the purposes of marriage is for spouses to help eachother get to heaven–now how is this going to work if he is Muslim and you are Catholic? How are you going to raise your children? Will he allow you to baptize them and raise them as Catholics, and if he says he will are you sure he won’t go back on it and demand that you raise them as Muslims? St. Paul said not to be unevenly yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has light with darkness or what fellowship has Christ with the devil? Please end this relationship and pursue Christ above everything else, perhaps God will send you a solid CATHOLIC man to marry in His time!
 
Ma.Eugenia said:
I’ve heard that intermarriage to a Muslim is fraught with difficulty, but I’ve never heard it from someone who is really living such a marriage.

God bless!
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You need to read Not Without My Daughter. FYI I have heard numerous testimonies of Christian women being married to a Moslem and how hellish it can be.
 
Please take it from someone that was in love with a Jehovah’s witness, this is a bad idea. The reason the church does not allow mixed marriages is because it is detrimental to your faith. You need a spouse that, in addition to the procreation of children, will bring you closer to heaven. Muslims do not even believe in the same God, if you consider their non-trinitarian views.

I am now married to an amazing Catholic woman that I can not imagine living my life without. I tell her that if I ever get to heaven she will be to blame. We are all weak creatures and we need someone that will assist us COMPLETELY, not just out of emotional love. Trust me, I know how you are feeling. But unless your love is willing to recognize Christ’s divinity and convert for wholesome reasons he is not worth losing your soul over. I am sorry.
 
epl92 said:
hello,
im a female in love with a Muslim. I’ve been with him for a year now. we both respect each others religions and love each other dearly. we have both discussed our beliefs and im worried that I will not get the acceptance from my family as they are prejudiced against Muslims. how do I tell my parents about him without this destroying the relationship with my parents. I would appreciate your advice greatly.
god bless
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In Islamic law a Moslem man may marry a Christian woman, but a Moslem woman may not marry a Christian man.

The children of the marriage must be raised as Moslems.

Some Moslems advise that you should not even be able to practice your own faith in your own home.

Check out these bits of advice

islamqa.com/index.php?ref=70177&ln=eng

and

islamqa.com/index.php?ref=20227&ln=eng
 
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Alexius:
There is a difference between what the Qur’an teaches and what the individual believes. I studied Islam for many years and believed it and though the Qur’an teaches that a non-Muslim will go to Hell for unbelief, I was/am hard-pressed to find anyone who believes that. The most orthodox Muslim I met in Turkiye didn’t believe it. Anyway, in Islam even a Muslim may enter Hell for sins against Allah. Hell is not a permanent place of torture, but rather a temporary place of purification.

Out of respect, you may believe as you wish regarding this issue, but it is irrelevant to the thread. If you want to discuss it further, go start a new thread; I am open to your opinion on this and will gladly join. Right now, though, there is a Catholic person who needs our help…
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I can’t work out your first point. You note what Islam teaches. And you note that most are ignorant of their own faith. This might off-set what Islam teaches, but it’s still there for the ‘faithful’ to follow.

Islam teaches that non-Moslems perform evil. As a Moslem you’re allowed to marry a non-Moslem but with strict rules to ensure her own faith is stifled and that the kids grow up instructed only in Islam.
 
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