I don’t see it either. You were basically “un-churched” since the time it burned down, but it wasn’t your fault. You didn’t give up on God, and we know He didn’t give up on you. You have enough worries on your plate at this point. Sometimes we posters can read things in that aren’t there, but don’t frett. God’s love will be with you.
He Always listens, and He wants to answer your prayers. He want’s to help you, but first and formost, that means He wants You! He wants you as his child! As much as you love Anna, He loves you even more… as hard as that may be to believe. As far as being deserving? None of us deserve it. Not in the least.
This is not exactly true. If she was not attending, and not practicing her Faith, she may NOT be held to that aspect of Catholic marriage. ALL marriages are to be considered valid! Any marriages between two Baptized (Christian Baptism) are considered to be Sacramental, but all marriages must be assumed to be valid until proven Null by an examination by a Tribunal. And in that case, she is nowhere NEAR meeting the requirements to begin to petition.
Anna’s Mom
You have nothing to be ashamed about as far as not knowing the Faith. You know enough to have come here, and you can know enough to heed the good advice you have gotten here. Your heart knows that you need to cuddle in His arms just like Anna cuddles in yours.
Don’t be ashamed! Do you realize there are so many adult cradle Catholics who are in the same boat as you? There are so many adult Catholics who don’t know a thing about the Faith! But it’s never too late to learn!
It is not God’s desire to keep you from your husband or see your marriage split up. He wants just as much as you do (probably more) to see you and your husband back together again. But remember, He also gives free will to your husband. God won’t force him to do anything. But God will answer your prayers by giving your husband the graces and the strength to change and He will remind your husband in his heart of the love he has for you. This takes time, it won’t happen overnight. (heck, in my case took a few months!) I know how you feel and the waiting and suffering is so hard to get through. You have to recognize that Jesus is with you in your suffering right now. He loves you! He knows your pain and He feels it too. You seem to have yourself convinced that God is going to work against you and that He’s not on your side. You are so wrong about this! Trust Him! He WILL see you through this!
soul searching or something.Please, make an appointment with a priest. Tell God that you wish to return totally to Him, surrender to His will, and then trust that He will assist you.
“Soul mate” is a term that means not a whole lot, really. He is better than a ‘soul mate’… he is your Husband. We cannot guarantee that dh will come home, because no one has that amount of control over another. But we CAN tell you that God loves you, He loves your husband, and He was there at your wedding waiting to be invited in.
It is much too early for her to be looking into any lawyer. To even begin to think divorce brings into this situation something that should not be brought in. The counselor and or the priest can prepare her should it ever become necessary. Making people ‘face reality’ at such an early stage is simply more of today’s ‘divorce mentality’.i dont mean to rain on the parade here, but has anyone considered the fact that he may never come home at all?
i dont want to say that he wont come home, but you do need to be prepared for that eventually happening. if and when he says “thats it, im really done with things.”
God may be standing right next to him pointing in your direction, but because of free will, your husband may decide otherwise.
have a good lawyer for a potential divorce lined up, be prepared to fight for custody and/or child support, and have a place to live always secured.
ill be honest with you, i had a bad experience in my marriage. my wife nailed me with a frying pan and spent 4 months in jail for it. now she wants to reconcile, but i dont want to. id rather spend the rest of my life single and alone than one more day with that woman.
if your husband (possibly) feels that way, then its probably better than he doenst come home.
on the other hand, he may be out walking the earth, you know, like Caine in Kung-Fu?
really just a note on the secular side of things about being prepared for the worst though. things will work out one way or another, with or without your consent and action.
All I see here is you (and your DH) piling the load of blame completely on your shoulders. This is why you need to be in counseling. Can you honestly say that you are the only one in the wrong? What has your DH done? Is he taking responsibility for what he has done wrong? When DH and I were having problems, he had a habit of turning things around in order to lay the blame on me. He had me believing that there was something wrong with me, when in reality he was the one causing problems. He was a master at doing that to take the attention off of his deeds. I think he even had himself convinced that I had all these problems and he used that to justify to himself the things he did.
Right on. I was going to say the same thing.
Yes, Anna, that could be one way to fast. There are many. Do you smoke? You can ‘fast’ from cigarettes for a day… or an hour. You can fast from all food, or you can fast one meal. It isn’t so much the way you do it as it has to do with the heart.
That was probably a post of mine on the prayer requests thread. Sorry if there was any confusion, the call for fasting was “in general”, and not specifically for you. I had heard on Relevant Radio that we were being asked to fast this week for (pro) life issues, and wanted to remind anybody else that had heard of it.