Infertility

[LovingHim]

I babysit to make ends meat. It was so incredibly hard to watch babies for other people after our two had died, but it was the best thing I ever did. I take care of two children that would be the age of each of the children that had died. The helped me heal!!!

I used to do this as well, and many times over, even several families at once. Circumstances have changed though and I haven’t found any good matches lately, but it’s always something I keep an eye out for. I have found that it is much harder to be around actual babies and small toddlers than pre-school and school-aged children. Something about that baby age to remind me about my babies being in heaven and not here below with me, ya know? So, if the children are babies and young toddlers (like under 2) I don’t even bother inquiring about those positions. So far, in our new community, that makes it near-impossible to take jobs. Oh, well, all in God’s time. I know He doesn’t want me to take these jobs, it’s not good for the babes if I just get weepy and sad around them. So, waiting for a better match, or something else entirely. Though I have really enjoyed staying at home and taking care of the home and all those wifely duties. I have grown so much closer to God and my husband both. Our house is better off for it, and even our pets are happier. And, ya know, I realize now more than ever that it’s okay for a gal to stay at home, despite what the world might say, and good for the hubby and family and pets even. It matters not if she is a stay at home mother with children, or simply a stay at home wife taking care of the house, and hubby, and pets. I think it’s all good, and a full-time job in and of itself. Plus, it gives me infinetly more time with hubby when he gets home. Cause all the work is done, and there’s that much more time with and for him!

Oh, and by the way, I’ve been frequenting this group now, too. I don’t necessarily match the textbook definition of infertility, but, I like that this group has several women just like myself who have been not just months, but years in the trying, with angel babies in heaven, but none here below. Not that I’d wish it upon anyone, just nice to know I’m not alone, ya know? Well, thanks for being here and making me feel so welcome.

 

[Teakafrog]

Oh, and by the way, I’ve been frequenting this group now, too. I don’t necessarily match the textbook definition of infertility, but, I like that this group has several women just like myself who have been not just months, but years in the trying, with angel babies in heaven, but none here below. Not that I’d wish it upon anyone, just nice to know I’m not alone, ya know? Well, thanks for being here and making me feel so welcome.

Yeah, I don’t fit in with most infertility groups either, mostly because we don’t do IVF, IUI, or any other non-Church-approved treatments. That’s all they ever talk about–how many ‘embryos’ (really BABIES) they are freezing, or whatever. So sad. At least I don’t have to worry about hearing about any of that here.

 

[LovingHim]

Yeah, I don’t fit in with most infertility groups either, mostly because we don’t do IVF, IUI, or any other non-Church-approved treatments. That’s all they ever talk about–how many ‘embryos’ (really BABIES) they are freezing, or whatever. So sad. At least I don’t have to worry about hearing about any of that here.

Sad isn’t it! I just continue to pray for them, and that as a special sign of God’s love, that the very moment they cease such morally unacceptable activities, then at that very moment, they will be blessed to conceive miraculously and naturally.

Myself, I’ve kinda been leaning more and more towards the “give it entirely to God” plan and do nothing whatsoever towards trying to get pregnant save keeping healthy and, well, you know. Easier said than done, huh? Again, many thanks for welcoming me here. Glad to be able to talk to you in both groups!

 

[yessisan]

You wanna hear something freaky about IVF??? I was left with my jaw wide open yesterday at my grandma’s bday party.

Well, my uncle and his wife ttc for 18 yrs and nothing worked, so they fell for IVF (yes, they’re both Catholic). Well, my uncle said that their IVF doctor had had problems conceiving too, and to their surprise, she gave birth to a baby girl right around the time their son was born. Turns out that my uncle ran into her and she showed him picture of her girl (who is 9 yrs old now), and he said the girl looks as if she could be his son’s twin sister!!! He said he thinks she probably stole one of the frozen embryos because the girl looks just like him and his son! And you wanna hear the worse part of it? My unlce is sure that girl is theirs (his and his wife’s) but they aren’t going to sue the doctor!!! They said because she broght so much joy into their lives, and because thanks to her they are parents now, that they don’t care if she stole a frozen embryo.

I was appalled!

That is another reason why IVF is soooooooo WRONG!

 

[Chovy]

You wanna hear something freaky about IVF??? I was left with my jaw wide open yesterday at my grandma’s bday party.

Well, my uncle and his wife ttc for 18 yrs and nothing worked, so they fell for IVF (yes, they’re both Catholic). Well, my uncle said that their IVF doctor had had problems conceiving too, and to their surprise, she gave birth to a baby girl right around the time their son was born. Turns out that my uncle ran into he and she showed him picture of her girl (who is 9 yrs old now), and he said the girl looks as if she could be his son’s twin sister!!! He said he thinks she probably stole one of the frozen embryos because the girl looks just like him and his son! And you wanna hear the worse part of it? My unlce is sure that girl is theirs (his and his wife’s) but they aren’t going to sue the doctor!!! They said because she broght so much joy into their lives, and because thanks to her they are parents now, that they don’t care if she stole a frozen embryo.

I was appalled!

That is another reason why IVF is soooooooo WRONG!

Oh My…

 

[gam3rchic]

You wanna hear something freaky about IVF??? I was left with my jaw wide open yesterday at my grandma’s bday party.

Well, my uncle and his wife ttc for 18 yrs and nothing worked, so they fell for IVF (yes, they’re both Catholic). Well, my uncle said that their IVF doctor had had problems conceiving too, and to their surprise, she gave birth to a baby girl right around the time their son was born. Turns out that my uncle ran into her and she showed him picture of her girl (who is 9 yrs old now), and he said the girl looks as if she could be his son’s twin sister!!! He said he thinks she probably stole one of the frozen embryos because the girl looks just like him and his son! And you wanna hear the worse part of it? My unlce is sure that girl is theirs (his and his wife’s) but they aren’t going to sue the doctor!!! They said because she broght so much joy into their lives, and because thanks to her they are parents now, that they don’t care if she stole a frozen embryo.

I was appalled!

That is another reason why IVF is soooooooo WRONG!

WOW!!! Amazing…and sad too

 

[LittleDeb]

You wanna hear something freaky about IVF??? I was left with my jaw wide open yesterday at my grandma’s bday party.

Well, my uncle and his wife ttc for 18 yrs and nothing worked, so they fell for IVF (yes, they’re both Catholic). Well, my uncle said that their IVF doctor had had problems conceiving too, and to their surprise, she gave birth to a baby girl right around the time their son was born. Turns out that my uncle ran into her and she showed him picture of her girl (who is 9 yrs old now), and he said the girl looks as if she could be his son’s twin sister!!! He said he thinks she probably stole one of the frozen embryos because the girl looks just like him and his son! And you wanna hear the worse part of it? My unlce is sure that girl is theirs (his and his wife’s) but they aren’t going to sue the doctor!!! They said because she broght so much joy into their lives, and because thanks to her they are parents now, that they don’t care if she stole a frozen embryo.

I was appalled!

That is another reason why IVF is soooooooo WRONG!

Oh my Gosh!!

We were just talking about why we are against IVF in another thread. If you get the chance, please post this there too. That thread would be interested also. It is active recently, entitled IVF.

 

[aurora77]

Yessian, that is just wild. It makes me sad to think about all these little human beings who were created using IVF; so few of them ever have a chance to be born.

Thanks ladies for your kind words. We’re really excited. I’m nervous, wondering how on earth I’ll cope with a child, but then all new moms are that way I bet! We’re almost there.

 

[yessisan]

Yessian, that is just wild. It makes me sad to think about all these little human beings who were created using IVF; so few of them ever have a chance to be born.

Thanks ladies for your kind words. We’re really excited. I’m nervous, wondering how on earth I’ll cope with a child, but then all new moms are that way I bet! We’re almost there.

Praying for you to finally have a child at home soon!

If it turns out that I am not able to carry to full term when and if I get pregnant again, adoption is the next step…

 

[Revert97]

Ladies, I need prayers… I know I do not know any of you beyond this forum, but I was at a clolse friends wedding this weekend, and there were 10 observably pregnant women, and 3 close friends share d they were pregnant with their first or their 2nd and they tried to be delicate, but I let tears flow…and I wa a pity party of 1…then I got home with hubby, and sobs racked my body, with tremendous wailing. My hubby had no idea what to do…along with aunt flo rearing her un welcomed head… I was ready to lose it… and WE DONT SUFFER from TRADITIONAL INFERTILITY. We are both perfectly healthy…and still nothing…

pray…

St Gerard, watch over us!

 

[aurora77]

Oh, Revert, I can imagine how hard that was! I’ll definitely be praying for you!

 

[Revert97]

thank you aurora77! It means alot to me!

 

[dkoinzan]

I will pray!

 

[Revert97]

thank you as well…

 

[yessisan]

Ladies, I need prayers… I know I do not know any of you beyond this forum, but I was at a clolse friends wedding this weekend, and there were 10 observably pregnant women, and 3 close friends share d they were pregnant with their first or their 2nd and they tried to be delicate, but I let tears flow…and I wa a pity party of 1…then I got home with hubby, and sobs racked my body, with tremendous wailing. My hubby had no idea what to do…along with aunt flo rearing her un welcomed head… I was ready to lose it… and WE DONT SUFFER from TRADITIONAL INFERTILITY. We are both perfectly healthy…and still nothing…

pray…

St Gerard, watch over us!

I’m so sorry Revert! I just went thru and episode like that on Friday I can imagine how you must have felt.

Even on Saturday, my mom’s cousin showed up 16 wks pregnant. Last time I saw her was the day after I was told my baby didn’t have a heartbeat any more (18 wks ago) and she wasn’t pregnant then I felt so horrible, but I tried to hide it as much as I could… they noticed, but it was so hard for me not to start bawling again.

((((HUGS)))) and many prayers for you!

 

[Revert97]

Yessian

Thank you… It is oddly comforting to know others feel the same… Literally every single friend I have save 2 who are not married, and 1 other suffering with infertility…have had “no problems” getting pregnant…Please pray to ST Dymphna (sp?) for my family’s mental healing…that’s part of our infertility equation. As a matter of fact, our MD said: we wont like ly get pregnant until those issues are resolved…

Praying for you too!

 

[yessisan]

Yessian

Thank you… It is oddly comforting to know others feel the same… Literally every single friend I have save 2 who are not married, and 1 other suffering with infertility…have had “no problems” getting pregnant…Please pray to ST Dymphna (sp?) for my family’s mental healing…that’s part of our infertility equation. As a matter of fact, our MD said: we wont like ly get pregnant until those issues are resolved…

Praying for you too!

Will do, and thanks for the prayers too… according to my OB I don’t have any problems (we’ll see what she says on Thursday), since I did get pregnant but lost the baby after 9 wks 2 days and still not pregnant again. But I do think there is something wrong. Most of the women in my family lost at least one baby, so it makes me feel worse.

I hope your problems resolve soon so you can get pregnant.

 

[LovingHim]

Ladies, I need prayers… I know I do not know any of you beyond this forum, but I was at a clolse friends wedding this weekend, and there were 10 observably pregnant women, and 3 close friends share d they were pregnant with their first or their 2nd and they tried to be delicate, but I let tears flow…and I wa a pity party of 1…then I got home with hubby, and sobs racked my body, with tremendous wailing. My hubby had no idea what to do…along with aunt flo rearing her un welcomed head… I was ready to lose it… and WE DONT SUFFER from TRADITIONAL INFERTILITY. We are both perfectly healthy…and still nothing…

pray…

St Gerard, watch over us!

I am in a very similar situation. Our early loss and heightened symptoms each month are a mystery. Though, I know, without a doubt, that God’s merciful hand is behind it. It is for His will and His purpose, even if He is “not letting us in on the reasonings.” I would be crying in your place too, that’s very hard.

One thing that has been helping me, and try it if you like, is to not think of the pregnant mommies anymore. Not at all, cause it just causes sadness and pain for us. Think of the baby and only the baby. Realize how happy that baby makes Jesus and seeing Him so happy will help you not feel so sad. If you look at the mother as just a regular person, and the baby, as the special focal point (cause is it not the baby that made the mom extra special at this time and not vice a versa?) it helps me some. Hopefully it helps you too. I hope and pray this gets easier for you in time. It takes months, and years even to achieve some peace in this. But, it will happen if you have faith. ((HUGS))

 

[Revert97]

Wow, thanks everyone! I am glad to have your prayers…and thoughts on how to make it easier…

 

[gam3rchic]

Hello all! Well, DH and I are finally getting aggressive about TTC though we were leaving the window open for the last 2 years of our marriage and nothing yet

Anyways, I’m doing NFP to get more informed about my body (i’ve been avoiding it before because I was kinda intimidated…I thought it was something difficult to do ) and it’s looking like I’m having a looooong anovulatory cycle. It started out looking good, but now it’s kinda whacko

Today, for example, my cervix is low and hard, but my mucus is very stretchy and almost clear in color…how strange! Just 2 days ago, it was low and hard and no mucus at all… And my temps just keep going up and down, up and down, up and down (you get the idea )

I’m gonna be calling an OB/GYN to set up an appointment next week…DH and I recently moved so I haven’t had the chance till recently to find a new doctor. Pray for me please that he’ll be a good one (recommendation from a friend)!

As a side note, I had the funniest dream last night…almost made me wanna cry…I dreamed that I went to my new OB/GYN and he fixed me all up…got me working right with my female parts and I conceived twin boys!!! Identical boys to boot! And then I dreamed about when they were getting bigger and running around the house causing mischief lol.

It was the nicest dream…even in the dream I was filled with so much joy from watching them running around…sorry this post is so long, but I wanted to share . I hope I get the BFP soon! But God knows the best time for me, so I just have to try to be patient