Internet dating, extra marital affair, mental health

[Leoni1]

advantage

If you read my initial post you will see that I did not know he was married and when I found out it was me that ended it not him … he wanted to carry on. So honestly he was taking advantage not me …

 

[UpUpAndAway]

So honestly he was taking advantage not me …

Um, that’s what I understood @on_the_hill to be saying.

He’ll get over you and find someone else to take advantage of.

 

[Greenfields]

He is not your responsibility OP.You will be doing the right thing cutting all ties.God bless.

 

[Leoni1]

Ok I get it now I thought it was meant to read the other way round. Seriously though I am over him but I wanted advice about how to handle it. I know he is hurting himself Probably because I did end it and I genuinely want him to move on. It seems that others are suggesting that I haven’t let go but the fact is I want him to get the help he needs so he doesn’t do it again and continue to hurt his wife. Surely if he continues to do this with other women and lie and cheat on his wife then sparing her the pain is going to be far worse. He may pick up a disease or make another woman pregnant

 

[Leoni1]

Also I have blocked him and deleted his phone details

 

[1ke]

but I wanted advice about how to handle it.

You handle it by ceasing ALL contact with him.

I know he is hurting himself Probably because I did end it

You are deluding yourself.

and I genuinely want him to move on.

You do that by YOU moving on and ceasing all contact. And stop talking about him and posting about him.

It seems that others are suggesting that I haven’t let go

As exhibited by you still talking about him.

but the fact is I want him to get the help he needs so he doesn’t do it again and continue to hurt his wife.

Leave it alone.

Surely if he continues to do this with other women and lie and cheat on his wife then sparing her the pain is going to be far worse.

You don’t know what he is doing or not doing. He’s in therapy with a counselor and couples’ counseling. You think you are going to help him more? WHY are you inserting yourself back in his life when he already has professional help?? I think maybe you also need some counseling. You need to leave him alone and stop fixating in him.

Leave it alone. Or don’t. Your choice. But if you don’t then you are perpetuating the drama and that’s on you.

He may pick up a disease or make another woman pregnant

That is entirely possible.

Seriously though I am over him

No, I don’t think you are. If you were, you would not be posting here about him and going on about helping him.

 

[Dlee]

I hope you have followed through yourself with a doctor visit - many STDs are silent and without symptoms.

 

[Leoni1]

You are deluding yourself.
I am struggling here … you claim to know more that me. I have blocked him and deleted his number. I thought this site was for debate and discussion? Well that’s what I was hoping for… it may help others

 

[on_the_hill]

Yes. Thank you

 

[Cruc3S1gnatus]

Reason #1001 of why to avoid premarital sex.
Leave the man alone and stop having sex with men you don’t know. There is a reason The Church teaches what She does…