Intimate woes of a newly wed

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TrueLight said:
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Come now. The marital embrace is still sex with your spouse.

And I suppose the husband gets no pleasure. 🤷
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Either you understand the Catholic difference between “sex’” and the “martial embrace” or you do not. I understand the difference and my spouse and I always exchange the marital embrace and not "sex."
 
jmjconder said:
Either you understand the Catholic difference between “sex’” and the “martial embrace” or you do not. I understand the difference and my spouse and I always exchange the marital embrace and not "sex."
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jmjconder said:
Either you understand the Catholic difference between “sex’” and the “martial embrace” or you do not. I understand the difference and my spouse and I always exchange the marital embrace and not "sex."
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How weird the Vatican is not versed in this. :eek:
 
Icertainly did not tell her that the order of orgasm mattered at all! I’m not catholic, I’m a hethan, some here would say moralless, atheist. These hangups over sex don’t cross my mind.

I was simply giving her something to work with if she herself believed it was wrong to orgasm after her husband where she still got to come and enjoy it. Because I think it’s sad when people have hangups that keep in the way of enjoying sex. I was trying to give her practical advice and alternatives instead of playing “debate the cannon law”
 
Sapphiregirl said:
I was simply giving her something to work with if she herself believed it was wrong to orgasm after her husband where she still got to come and enjoy it. Because I think it’s sad when people have hangups that keep in the way of enjoying sex. I was trying to give her practical advice and alternatives instead of playing “debate the cannon law”
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Oh I totally understand that. I was just clarifying for the OP’s sake that YES it is still ok to climax after her husband. Like I said, sometimes you just gotta be super super crystal clear with people, otherwise they’ll continue to misunderstand and take things out of context. She might have read your comment and thought that perhaps you were insinuating that it NEEDS to be done mutually. I was simply clarifying, just in case.

That’s all. 🙂
 
jmjconder said:
Either you understand the Catholic difference between “sex’” and the “martial embrace” or you do not. I understand the difference and my spouse and I always exchange the marital embrace and not "sex."
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:confused:

They mean the same thing, and “sex” is not a dirty word. It is indeed used by “Catholic” sources.
 
Debora,

“Tempest in a teapot”, in other words making a huge deal out of something insignificant.
 
Another alternative is the oral, waiting however long until your muscles calm down, and then having intercourse. Some woman find that they can come easier with intercourse if they have come before.
 
Oh, one more alternative! (again, these are just alternatives if you yourself feel uncomfortable orgasming after him) Do the oral, get close to the point of orgasm, then switch to intercourse. Some women can then come during intercourse that way.
 
jmjconder said:
Basis for this statement?
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I linked you to the Vatican website above, and they have a very clear outline for SEX education.

Certainly they only mean for sex to be between married men and women.

And so, you may have determined that what you and your husband do is a marital embrace, but it seems the Vatican is quite ok with calling it sex.
 
No need to answer, but you may want to think about if you always feel painwith intercourse. Could be physical-it is a treatable condition.
vaginismus.com/
 
Debora123 said:
I wish someone else would come on here and tell the OP that yes, it is perfectly acceptable for her to have an orgasm after her husband.

I’m not sure why it seems like I’m the only one answering the OP’s question…
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Yes, perfectly acceptable for her to have an orgasm after her husband. 👍
 
Thank you all so much for your replies, especially to Debora who was so persistent in helping me understand! 🙂 It is such a relief to know that it is not against church teaching (I don’t know how we both got so misinformed!). This will make such a big difference in our sex life and take such a heavy burden out of it. Thank you all so much!
 
I realize that I am demonstrating rude online manners here ,but I CAN’T STAND IT ANY LONGER!!! Some misspellings just shouldn’t be allowed.

It’s not “martial” embrace. We’re not talking about karate and kung fu here.

It’s marital embrace!

And to the OP–you’ve received a lot of good advice here from others, and I agree with their advice to climax AFTER he climaxes. The Catholic Church has no problem with this. Have fun!
 
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